Agreed. Onestepup from that is to treat them the way you believe they should be treated, in gentility, because being treated as such would be beneficial for us as well.
Absolutely, you never knowwho you're dealing with at first so its best to be diplomatic. Once you know them, helps to loosen up a bit
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CM
1y
INFJ
Leo
3w4
3
4
I try but some times if I get angry then my truth comes out. And most people aren't ready for that. So usually I just disappear or do as they Ole proverb says, "don't talk if you're going to spit hot fire"... or something like that.
I have 3 levels of politeness.
1: If you're a stranger I will be neutral.
2: If you're a friend I will be respectful.
3: If you've lost my respect I won't waste my time with you.
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Piper
1y
ENTJ
Leo
I'm cordial but rarely polite. Like, I'll say please and thank you and all that stuff, but beyond that I'm pretty blunt.
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Darius
1y
INTP
Scorpio
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I treat people with respect because I want to be treated with respect. If you build half that bridge most people, no matter who, are gonna feel a little obligated to at least respond in kind. Few relish in being rude and ass-like.
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ᴠ ɪ ᴏ ʟ ᴇ ᴛ
1y
INFJ
Sagittarius
4w5
4
5
I like this answer.
And I avoid those people that enjoy being rude. Boring people are not my favourite but I will spend a lifetime with a boring human versus a deliberate jerk.
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Donald
1y
ISTJ
Scorpio
It depends on the proximity of the person. If I consider you a close friend and you are polite and watch your language around me, then I would feel that you're creating distance. Otherwise, some level of politeness is nice (until they give you a reason not to).
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Mohit
1y
INFJ
Pisces
I try hard to...
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Millicent
8mo
INFP
Pisces
Hello to you
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Millicent
8mo
INFP
Pisces
It's when I'm seeing your message, how are you doing?
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Hani
1y
INTP
Libra
I worked customer service for several years. I was polite to people before, but after that you get to hold politeness towards everyone, no matter their attitude xD
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Travis
1y
INTJ
Capricorn
Within reason, I see no need to be polite to someone who isn't polite to me. Give and take, fair exchange etc.
You should not say the words that you don't mean to say
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Appledapple
1y
INFJ
Aquarius
1w2
1
2
Polite to a fault. 😂
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Jarrell K Quintero
1y
INTP
Virgo
Not necessarily manners or being polite, but rather having respect for others. Treat other people how You would like to be treated.
Edit: If you can't be repectful to yourself though, this won't work. Manners and being polite to me means to pretend or act different than the real you. The real you wants to be treated with respect and honor, so should you treat others the same, regardless of if they deserve it or not, because, we are all the same.
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Snow🤎
1y
ISTJ
Capricorn
6w7
6
7
Am gonna treat you the way you treat me. So people should not expect positivevibes if yogiving out the negative ones. I will be polite to those who respect me and have manners first.
Yeah specially with elders but all depends how they treat me
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Moonlucky
1y
INFP
Pisces
1w9
1
9
Would love to do it all the time.
Unfortunately life gives us ups n down abd not anybody can maibtain it everytine... What ab U Kel;))?
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Jacob
1y
INTP
Gemini
8w7
8
7
Honestly? Depends on your meaning.
Polite as in good manners of the table and behavioral sense? Sure. I also, however, do not believe in white lies. I do not think saying what someone wants to hear is kind, but rather cruel, and it is better to be honest and direct than pretend nothing is wrong.
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Joel
1y
INTJ
Taurus
2w1
2
1
I just stayquiet with strangers. I speak my mind with friends. I am polite with close friends.
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Timothy
1y
INFP
Scorpio
Whole heartedly so and sadly it seems for relationships these days people think we weak having manners and saying our please and thank you's :( seems its a sad rarity these days and id rather be nice and show manners and say thank you and such then to be a outright asshole just cause can.
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0
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İpek
1y
ENFJ
Scorpio
I like to be polite but unfortunately i hate kindness which comes from the thought of sadness which is caused for someone else so i like reality even it is harsh lol
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0
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Tania
1y
INFJ
Aries
5w4
5
4
Politeness is a must for everyone. It shows respect and it helps avoid confrontations.
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0
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Amethyst
1y
INFP
Gemini
Yes I do... I'm definitely the, "hold the door open" for the next person type, at the store.
1
0
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Nic
1y
INFJ
Virgo
Absolutely, using my manors was enforced when I was growing up, but it's all about respect anyway. Treat others how you'd want to be treated
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0
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Josephine
1y
ISFJ
Virgo
Yes. Decorum, while challenging in new occasions, is important. You represent yourself and those who raised you well. You pay your respects back to them along with extending/sharing it with your community. If you’re in school, holding the door open may allow someone to race better to their class. Ensuring the workplace/home door locks before walking off retains the building’s security, which minimises someone else’s headache. When others join in, there’s no amount of verbal “thank you”’s that could add up to that gratitude in feeling ☺️
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Kara
1y
INFP
Virgo
I always try my best to be polite to people I don't know or am not super close. I feel like when you get close to someone there's a level of familiarity and comfort that takes the place of rigid societal expectations. As you get to learn someone's particular likes and dislikes of certain behaviors you can conform to their personal comfort. I think this is also partly the reason why although I feel most people try to be polite it doesn't always come off that way. What I find polite you may find rude simply because we have different perspectives, life experiences, and preferences. This is especially true I feel cross culturally.
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0
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☕ᏋᏕᎮᏒᏋᏕᏕᎧ ᏗᏕᏂ☕
1y
INFJ
Sagittarius
1w9
1
9
As long as I'm shown respect, I'll give it right back.
ofc though I also think there's value in being natural as you are, there's a balance between the two where you're kind to others and also letting people in to see the real you
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0
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N
1y
ENFP
Leo
I’m not at all polite. I try to be but I guess I’m bad at it. Lol. No selfawareness is this regard
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0
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Tkbtsxu
8mo
INTP
Taurus
give what i receive
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0
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Trey
1y
ESTP
Leo
Absolutely.
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0
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I always treat people that way I'd want to be treated. I'm a person of perspective.
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5w6
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Agreed. One step up from that is to treat them the way you believe they should be treated, in gentility, because being treated as such would be beneficial for us as well.
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1y
9w1
9
1
Yes being polite is my nature. I don't like confrontation so I am naturally a people pleaser. Don't piss me off though cuz then the beast comes out.
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0
1y
2w3
2
3
Absolutely, you never know who you're dealing with at first so its best to be diplomatic. Once you know them, helps to loosen up a bit
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2
1y
3w4
3
4
I try but some times if I get angry then my truth comes out. And most people aren't ready for that. So usually I just disappear or do as they Ole proverb says, "don't talk if you're going to spit hot fire"... or something like that.
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3
1y
Lol. Near heard that 1 before.
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1y
I try to be polite, seems like no one around me is though
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1y
5w4
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4
I would like to think so, but I am not the judge of that.
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0
1y
5w4
5
4
I fart on this question
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1y
Yes that's how we were raised in the 80s and 90s
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1y
5w4
5
4
I have 3 levels of politeness. 1: If you're a stranger I will be neutral. 2: If you're a friend I will be respectful. 3: If you've lost my respect I won't waste my time with you.
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1
1y
I'm cordial but rarely polite. Like, I'll say please and thank you and all that stuff, but beyond that I'm pretty blunt.
2
0
1y
{"happy":1}
I treat people with respect because I want to be treated with respect. If you build half that bridge most people, no matter who, are gonna feel a little obligated to at least respond in kind. Few relish in being rude and ass-like.
1
1
1y
4w5
4
5
I like this answer. And I avoid those people that enjoy being rude. Boring people are not my favourite but I will spend a lifetime with a boring human versus a deliberate jerk.
1
0
1y
It depends on the proximity of the person. If I consider you a close friend and you are polite and watch your language around me, then I would feel that you're creating distance. Otherwise, some level of politeness is nice (until they give you a reason not to).
2
0
1y
I try hard to...
1
2
8mo
Hello to you
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1
8mo
It's when I'm seeing your message, how are you doing?
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0
1y
I worked customer service for several years. I was polite to people before, but after that you get to hold politeness towards everyone, no matter their attitude xD
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1
1y
Within reason, I see no need to be polite to someone who isn't polite to me. Give and take, fair exchange etc.
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0
1y
5w4
5
4
When in doubt remember the saying: "Call a jack a jack. Call a spade a spade. But always call a whore a lady. Their lives are hard enough and it never hurts to be polite."
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0
1y
7w8
7
8
You should not say the words that you don't mean to say
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0
1y
1w2
1
2
Polite to a fault. 😂
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0
1y
Not necessarily manners or being polite, but rather having respect for others. Treat other people how You would like to be treated. Edit: If you can't be repectful to yourself though, this won't work. Manners and being polite to me means to pretend or act different than the real you. The real you wants to be treated with respect and honor, so should you treat others the same, regardless of if they deserve it or not, because, we are all the same.
1
0
1y
6w7
6
7
Am gonna treat you the way you treat me. So people should not expect positive vibes if yo giving out the negative ones. I will be polite to those who respect me and have manners first.
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0
1y
With friends I mess with them, but with strangers yes. But only if they don't come off disrespectful
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0
1y
Yeah specially with elders but all depends how they treat me
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0
1y
1w9
1
9
Would love to do it all the time. Unfortunately life gives us ups n down abd not anybody can maibtain it everytine... What ab U Kel;))?
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0
1y
8w7
8
7
Honestly? Depends on your meaning. Polite as in good manners of the table and behavioral sense? Sure. I also, however, do not believe in white lies. I do not think saying what someone wants to hear is kind, but rather cruel, and it is better to be honest and direct than pretend nothing is wrong.
1
0
1y
2w1
2
1
I just stay quiet with strangers. I speak my mind with friends. I am polite with close friends.
1
0
1y
Whole heartedly so and sadly it seems for relationships these days people think we weak having manners and saying our please and thank you's :( seems its a sad rarity these days and id rather be nice and show manners and say thank you and such then to be a outright asshole just cause can.
1
0
1y
I like to be polite but unfortunately i hate kindness which comes from the thought of sadness which is caused for someone else so i like reality even it is harsh lol
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0
1y
5w4
5
4
Politeness is a must for everyone. It shows respect and it helps avoid confrontations.
1
0
1y
Yes I do... I'm definitely the, "hold the door open" for the next person type, at the store.
1
0
1y
Absolutely, using my manors was enforced when I was growing up, but it's all about respect anyway. Treat others how you'd want to be treated
1
0
1y
Yes. Decorum, while challenging in new occasions, is important. You represent yourself and those who raised you well. You pay your respects back to them along with extending/sharing it with your community. If you’re in school, holding the door open may allow someone to race better to their class. Ensuring the workplace/home door locks before walking off retains the building’s security, which minimises someone else’s headache. When others join in, there’s no amount of verbal “thank you”’s that could add up to that gratitude in feeling ☺️
1
0
1y
I always try my best to be polite to people I don't know or am not super close. I feel like when you get close to someone there's a level of familiarity and comfort that takes the place of rigid societal expectations. As you get to learn someone's particular likes and dislikes of certain behaviors you can conform to their personal comfort. I think this is also partly the reason why although I feel most people try to be polite it doesn't always come off that way. What I find polite you may find rude simply because we have different perspectives, life experiences, and preferences. This is especially true I feel cross culturally.
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0
1y
1w9
1
9
As long as I'm shown respect, I'll give it right back.
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1y
5w6
5
6
Yes mam. I am a young body with a old soul
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1y
5w4
5
4
I try to think that I am
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1y
ofc though I also think there's value in being natural as you are, there's a balance between the two where you're kind to others and also letting people in to see the real you
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1y
I’m not at all polite. I try to be but I guess I’m bad at it. Lol. No self awareness is this regard
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8mo
give what i receive
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1y
Absolutely.
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