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Juston
Posted Tuesday, April 12, 2022
1y
INFP
Capricorn
How to deal with someone you recently started talking to, and really like, going out on a date?
Can anyone help me? I recently started talking to this woman. She knows I like her, and I think she likes me too. We have only been talking a few days, so we aren't exclusive... Anyway, she contacted me this afternoon to ask me a question. She sent me a photo of her current outfit and asked if it looked good for going on "a date that isn't a date". Also if her make-up and hair looked good. She was going out for drinks with a guy, and this was their 5th time trying to meet up. From what she told me it sounds like he blew her off 5 times. He was an hour late to messaging her for the "hangout". She was about to say screw it and not answer, but I guess he messaged her just before she was going to... I know I just started talking to her, but it hurts. Why would she contact me to see if she looked good for someone else? I haven't even met her in person yet and she lives close by. I feel like this loser already blew it. I've been trying to not message her, and hoping she will message me when she gets home. But the bars have been closed for an hour and I haven't heard from her.... How do I/how would you deal with this? I feel like a loser for even caring. How can I be heartbroken over someone I haven't met and have only spoken to for 2 days? (edited)
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Kelly
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I am not in the situation and don't know her but here's my random take. She's talking to you after two days which means she's at least intrigued. She showed you the outfit to both try to seem hot, but also to kind of test your reaction to seeing what her life is like. Being stood up a bunch of times is really embarrassing and frankly a sign she has really low self esteem and probably some other problems. But that doesn't mean she's not a good person or isn't worth getting to know. Her telling you that information is a token of honesty and seeking or at least hoping for acceptance. You have to get to know her better over time before you understand where she's coming from. I know it's hard but try to put her out of your head for tonight. An hour after bars are closed she could seriously be sleeping and you could be worrying for nothing. Tomorrow you'll have a new perspective. Just a random take based on a small amount of info. You obviously know the situation better than me.
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