At what age does a woman become undesirable to you? I’m asking honestly, because lately I’ve been feeling like I’m running out of time. Like I missed some window I didnt even know I was supposed to hit. I only started dating at 20, and now I’m 22 and all of my friends are getting married and having kids. And while I’m happy for them, I cant help but feel the pressure closing in. I havent found my man yet. And I wonder, at what age does a woman stop being seen as someone you build a life with and start being seen as someone who missed her chance? Be honest, but be kind. Some of us are still holding out for real love.

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Matt

6mo

ISTJ

Virgo

Hun . . . you're 22 you've still got all the time in the world.

Marlene

6mo

INFJ

Sagittarius

I'm 47 and newish to the dating world after a divorce. I have guys in their 20s & 30s trying to take me on dates. Way too young for me, but hope you get my point. The funniest thing is them telling me my age is just a number. You have so much time hun, he will come. Don't feel pressured to just take any one who pays you attention. Be sure he aligns with your values and the qualities you would like in a partner as well as the physical attraction, he won't be perfect as none of us are, but be sure he is what you really want and not through fear that you are running out of time. Wishing you the very best (edited)

Matthew

6mo

INTJ

Aquarius

It's not your age.

Jaws

6mo

INTJ

Taurus

Maybe around her late 70s....🤔

David

6mo

ESTP

Cancer

I mean, if his (and your) goal is to start a family, maybe your menopause would be the threshold. And even then, adoption exists. Apart from that? My grandparents got divorced around age 60, before I was born and both met someone new with whom they lived out their golden years. So there's never a moment when it's "too late". Don't fret, enjoy yourself, make new experiencs, meet people, try to build yourself a life you enjoy, so that when the right person comes along, you're your own person and ready to be a real partner, and not just someone's "plus one". You definitely deserve to be happy, with or without a guy 😊

Tesfaye

6mo

INFP

Aquarius

Anyone born in the 2000s shouldn't be thinking about this. Also how are your friends getting married at 22?

Damien

6mo

INFJ

Pisces

Hi Claire! Please let me know if this makes sense to you. I want to address a few things. 1. Age is just a number. A person can get married at 20 or get married at 50 it makes no real difference, it's about perspective and the realtionships you keep. I started dating at 30, and since then I've only been in 1 relationship. We ended things because I wasn't able to commit to a poly dynamic. Age is a huge factor if you want to have kids, but one thing you have to remember is that when choosing a partner make sure they make you happy, because you will spend about 90% of your time with them. Feeling like you are missing out on life is normal, I've felt it and so has almost everyone in the world, being jealous or comparing yourself to others is normal, we all do it. But you have to gain perspective in your own life. Do you feel like a person can truly know you and build a life with you in 2 years or just a few months? 2. Finding a partner takes time I've been on this app as well as other dating apps for over 5 years. I don't connect with a lot of women.. but it's okay, I've made tones of friends who I love and care about deeply. As much as I would love to find my forever partner, I'm not going to rush into it nor am I just going to sleep around with a bunch of women. I rather take my time and build something. 3. Missing out.. Realtionships are work, you have to make sure you have a solid foundation before you can say this person is my one.. because the truth is that noone is someone else's one, we all become the partner for the other person, and after that we keep working at it. As to your main question, when does a women become undesirable.. never. If a man is interested he is will try to connect with a women at any point and go from there. Noone can be undesirable unless they are not taking care of them self, and giving them self-love. My suggestion, focus on yourself, love yourself, and do things you enjoy, people will find you as time goes on. I learned a lot from therapy.. so just be yourself.

Jennifer

6mo

INTJ

Scorpio

Don't get married and have kids at 22. Live your life.

Ruth

6mo

ESFJ

Aries

Gal you are too young to think of marriage fullfil your dreams first and others will follow

Arnie

6mo

ENFJ

Pisces

As we age so do our tastes , I married at 30, divorced at 57, remarried at 58. My wife is 50 and she is the center of my Universe.

Shane

6mo

INFJ

Taurus

I feel that way and I'm in my early 30s...trust me, u got time

Maybe

6mo

INFP

You're 22? lol.

Ben

6mo

INFJ

Virgo

I’m 32 and I’m still not married and very happily dating a 34 year old woman as of a week ago (most beautiful and amazing woman I have met to date). More than half of my friends are still single and none of them, even those that are married, have any kids. Is there a certain religious or cultural community that you’re a part of where getting married younger is common? Don’t let those around you make you feel inadequate because of their life trajectory. Love should be true and pure, not based on achievement timelines.

Marcus

6mo

INTJ

Yeah, 22 isn't the threshold lol. It really depends what someone is looking for. Kids, probably mid 30s is maxing out. All kinds of people out there, no one age for everyone. (edited)

Henry

6mo

INFP

Libra

There is no set age and there are multiple meanings to this question. I’m 25 and my first date and relationship was last year. Also, people age at different rates depending on life style, health, genetics and pure luck. If you are 22, you have between 30 (if you are super unlucky or smoke) and 50 years before you have to worry and frankly by the time you are in your 70s, most men that age will take you regardless of looks. People’s tastes evolve over the course of their life after all.

Sam

6mo

ISTJ

Gemini

That just depends at what age you consider your life built 🤷 some people have it all sorted by 35 some are still building at 55 all for various reasons.. Some couple that get married at 20 are happy til old age, some are miserable and break up and then they meet their life partner at a much older age... Every single person is unique and different there is no correct answer to this

Mark

6mo

ISTP

Capricorn

You're 22... Your entire life is in front of you.

Jaycen

6mo

ESTP

Leo

35ish for me currently and personally, but that doesn't mean there aren't exceptions

Ernie

6mo

INTP

Leo

The age doesn't matter. Between 35 and 55 women go through their own changes. Some can look like granny at 35 and some can be 55 amd vibrant. The age doesn't matter to me. Just don't look like you have given up on taking care of yourself.

Aidan

6mo

INFJ

Leo

Well, for me personally any woman over 8~10 years older than me is a bit much, and out of my preference. However, what you're talking about is self imposed expectations and some societal pressure :) don't feel bad about when you start a family and if you're "late" to doing it. I know happy couples who had their first kid of 5 when they turned 30. Point is, that all of this is down to individual preference, and the chance of when you find a partner. There's no pressure, it's all up to you when you and your partner have kids and a family, if you even want one.

Jazpreet Sandhu

6mo

INFP

Virgo

Ah, honestly I think these prefences for most people change as they get older themselves and that you have nothing at all to worry about! :) Think about it this way: as a highschool freshman at the age of 13-14, one could look at a senior and think it'd be cool to date the "upperclassman". I know I was definitely into the juniors and seniors! As I am currently ~4 months away from being 23, while open to it, dating someone who is 18 would seem kinda strange to me. My current "ideal age" (because of reasons outside of superficial "beauty") is 20-23. When I hit 30, it may be 26-33. I think this is because, while physical attraction is important for many people, I don't think most people can build a life with someone they find attractive but can't relate to at all. Would that really be "true love"? Like, when we're in our late 40's, we'll be speaking a completely different language from the youngins at 20 lmao. Besides, if someone doesn't want you because of your age, they're likely someone with whom finding true love would be unlikely anyway. I currently have a similar struggle, but in my case, I'm scared that by the time I land my first date at, like, 30, my lack of dating experience would be a deal breaker itself lol. (edited)

Jordan

6mo

INFJ

Pisces

As a 28 year old man, I actually feel the same way. But you can't worry about that too much. You'd only become "undesirable" if you go through menopause. Even then, some men don't want kids, they just want a life partner. It really depends on if you and your partner have the same goals for life or are willing to compromise on some goals for each other.

Kaito

6mo

ISTP

Aries

I say it depends rn at the age of 19 I would stop at 28 but that doesn't mean that that's when your undesirable I would say at 25 I would prefer 38 for me it's just a certain age gap you will always be desirable no matter how old you are

Savvas

6mo

INTP

Capricorn

Just because your friends have been married from such a young age doesn't mean that you have missed some kind of window. In my opinion marriage at 22 is a little early. And if a woman comes across as desired or undesirable depends on the personality and person in general

Keith

6mo

ESTJ

Sagittarius

Here’s the thing.. all these guys telling you that you have your whole life are missing a large point because they are men and this doesn’t apply to them. If you are wanting to get married and to have kids, you need to keep in mind that you lose 90% of your eggs at age 30 and by age 34 you will be considered as a “high risk pregnancy” meaning, high risk for complications or high risk for not being able to carry until term. Men, regardless of their age, if they want a family and children, will find a woman between the ages of 19-25 most desirable or they will see women this age as in their “prime” when considering having a family. So truth be told… you are somewhat, “on a clock”. Men can have children until the day they stop breathing so it’s not an issue to them. Also, the more time women spend just dating, the more trauma they will have so they will be considered more “damaged” and then the older a woman gets, it is assumed the higher her body count will rise which will make her less desirable to most.. not all.. most .. men. You are in your prime right now… don’t settle but don’t waste it.. and the chances of finding a man in his prime at age 22 is slim. So you should be looking for a young man who you believe is making something of himself for his family in the future or you should be looking at men quite a bit older than you if you hope to find a man in his prime to match you in yours being as it takes men time to develop into what is considered valuable. In conclusion.. the older you get the smaller your pool of options will become and by age 30, as a woman, you hit “the wall” and become less desirable to men every year after. Especially men who want a family. Best of luck to you

Kyle

6mo

ENFP

Taurus

So honestly the right person comes when you least expect it I married my ex wife at 27 she was 23 at the time it ended in disaster sadly but there's always hope because love isn't skin deep it spiritual it's a connection that isn't based on looks or age (although 18+ only) that's all primal lust and instinct it's not love give it time and you are beautiful and that's an extremely valid question but no your arent missing your mark or anything like that ♥️ it will come when the time is righ

Joshua

6mo

INTP

Virgo

Id say around 40-45, it's not a hard cap, but a preference. So you got more than enough time. No real need to worry. But honestly if you want kids, the sooner the better in my opinion. (edited)

Cody

6mo

ENTJ

Taurus

I'll be 42 in May...I was married for 20 years at 22...after the divorce, dated twice...right now...it's about my peace and solitude and your presence...can your presence be greater than my solitude?

John

6mo

INTP

Virgo

As I get older, the upper bound on who I find attractive seems to move faster than I age. As a woman you have a biological clock (childbirth and menopause) but if you don't want kids then there's no real limit.

Dwain

6mo

INFP

Gemini

You are only 22? You are really young, dont worry you aren't running out of time, you are still figuring out who you are. Go at your pace, not those around you, ypu might find your friends pace to not work for them woth those relationships long term.

Yurii

6mo

ISTJ

Capricorn

Well I'm too old to consider relationships with someone younger than 30 so it really depends on whom are you interested in😅

Simon Skinner

6mo

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Gemini

I honestly can't answer because I have just started something casual with a woman who is 57 and looks more beautiful every time I see her.

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The right time would be when u find the one....not when u want one

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You’ve got ages it’s no stress

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Aquarius

Dont press yourself, your are comparing with another people, flow with the time and with you, train and grow in yourself, with the time you will find the correct person to call a partner.

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Honestly it depends on the guy if hes going for looks or not and besides that i feel like if the age range is the same they shouldn't be bale to talk because they would have thier own aging physical appearance but its whats inside that matters anyway

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You still have time. It's never too late. Just keep in mind, the one for you likely will not the one you think he is.

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Hun . . . you're 22 you've still got all the time in the world.

It's not your age.

Maybe around her late 70s....🤔

Anyone born in the 2000s shouldn't be thinking about this. Also how are your friends getting married at 22?

Don't get married and have kids at 22. Live your life.

Gal you are too young to think of marriage fullfil your dreams first and others will follow

As we age so do our tastes , I married at 30, divorced at 57, remarried at 58. My wife is 50 and she is the center of my Universe.

I feel that way and I'm in my early 30s...trust me, u got time

You're 22? lol.

Yeah, 22 isn't the threshold lol. It really depends what someone is looking for. Kids, probably mid 30s is maxing out. All kinds of people out there, no one age for everyone. (edited)

You're 22... Your entire life is in front of you.

35ish for me currently and personally, but that doesn't mean there aren't exceptions

The age doesn't matter. Between 35 and 55 women go through their own changes. Some can look like granny at 35 and some can be 55 amd vibrant. The age doesn't matter to me. Just don't look like you have given up on taking care of yourself.

I say it depends rn at the age of 19 I would stop at 28 but that doesn't mean that that's when your undesirable I would say at 25 I would prefer 38 for me it's just a certain age gap you will always be desirable no matter how old you are

Just because your friends have been married from such a young age doesn't mean that you have missed some kind of window. In my opinion marriage at 22 is a little early. And if a woman comes across as desired or undesirable depends on the personality and person in general

Id say around 40-45, it's not a hard cap, but a preference. So you got more than enough time. No real need to worry. But honestly if you want kids, the sooner the better in my opinion. (edited)

I'll be 42 in May...I was married for 20 years at 22...after the divorce, dated twice...right now...it's about my peace and solitude and your presence...can your presence be greater than my solitude?

As I get older, the upper bound on who I find attractive seems to move faster than I age. As a woman you have a biological clock (childbirth and menopause) but if you don't want kids then there's no real limit.

You are only 22? You are really young, dont worry you aren't running out of time, you are still figuring out who you are. Go at your pace, not those around you, ypu might find your friends pace to not work for them woth those relationships long term.

Well I'm too old to consider relationships with someone younger than 30 so it really depends on whom are you interested in😅

I honestly can't answer because I have just started something casual with a woman who is 57 and looks more beautiful every time I see her.

The right time would be when u find the one....not when u want one

You’ve got ages it’s no stress

Dont press yourself, your are comparing with another people, flow with the time and with you, train and grow in yourself, with the time you will find the correct person to call a partner.

Honestly it depends on the guy if hes going for looks or not and besides that i feel like if the age range is the same they shouldn't be bale to talk because they would have thier own aging physical appearance but its whats inside that matters anyway

You still have time. It's never too late. Just keep in mind, the one for you likely will not the one you think he is.

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