Last night I was at a Tech party, met a girl who's a CEO of a SaaS startup!

We started talking about technology, AI and other stuff. Then she asked what type of girls I like, so I told her my preference. When I asked her the same, before she answers, she explained why most men never end up with the girl they truly want. Here’s the gist of what she said: She said, If you want to date the most attractive women, the top 1%... Here's what you need to understand. They're only looking for the highest quality men. What does this mean for you? All of the men you are competing with are successful, good-looking and in great shape. Most guys think that if they're successful, have good money and a great lifestyle, that's going to attract women. But this is dead wrong. Your money, your success, and your lifestyle are simply just a cost of admission to even be dealing with these women. The other thing you need to understand is, Women operate based on emotion. The only thing she cares about is how you make her feel. And that's why, if you'd like to date women at the highest level... You need to understand that your communication skills, personality, and character will matter much more than your material success. Unfortunately, the reality for most men is that their communication skills are awful with the most attractive women. They freeze up, don't know what to say, and don't know how to connect with women emotionally. If this is something you struggle with, then I'm afraid you will be single for a long time until you figure this out. When you’re dealing with someone who has abundant options, being impressive isn’t enough. If she can choose from hundreds of men with money, looks, status, and access, those traits stop being differentiators...they become the baseline. What actually separates you is how you think, how you communicate, and how you carry yourself. You also need to stop approaching dating like a transaction. You’re not trying to convince someone that you’re worthy of being chosen. You’re trying to determine whether there’s genuine compatibility between two people who already have their own lives. So, the highest-value trait, isn't dominance, wealth, or even physical attractiveness. It's emotional stability combined with self-awareness. --- And I couldn't agree more! 🤷‍♂️