Girls, what are your thoughts about a guy who is shy, has a hard time starting a conversation with anyone from the opposite sex, without a proper topic, as he doesn't even know what to say ?

Alright thanks just wanted to get that out of my system... 😂 hmm call me a slob but I don't like to pretend and do something i dont like, yeah cosplay is a different thing 😝 But really you can check my pics those are the type of things i almost always wear, that pic with jacket I've only worn once and it was sweaty after just a 2 hours, here normal temperature is always above 25° C And 30+ in summer which will be soon. I got a bit of OCD and i know i have to clean those clothes afterwards too, Too much work with addition to all the perks of living alone... Call it excuses but isn't it fake to do something you yourself are uncomfortable with and dont want to do it ?

I'm genuinely happy for you both, congrats on finding each other. I'm shy yes but I'm selectively shy, as in work setting or lets say if any restaurant or ticketing staff are women i can talk to them normally, But when it comes to any informal settings and there's nothing i know about the person, that's where it becomes a problem, even if I just want to be friends with someone idk what to say... I've literally seen women staring at me and that's made me soo uncomfortable that I've wanted to run away 😅 And as for dating, idk it seems too weird of a concept for me to understand, been on multiple dating apps for around an year by now I guess dating isn't for me or i might just be the un-dateable type 😂 Or not really seem a likeable sort

@Himanshu thank you I appreciate that! And I feel you bro. I used to he the same way with men. Me and my bf met online. It's easier to talk to people online. Maybe you can practice your social skills on the women you feel comfortable talking to or your female family members

@El welcome 🥂 I see that's cool, hope I'll find someone online too someday. And nope i said the ones I don't know and the ones that stare those make me uncomfortable all the time. as for family, they all live far away from me i live alone mostly. And I'm comfortable enough around the few women I do know. But then again I barely interact with them face to face too 😅

Haha well its alright as long people having fun, and if it brings some laughter that's good too. And thank you for the kind words 😁

Yeah I know 🤣 but I was also a little curious as to am I really? Cause it felt legit, and honestly I've tried to initiate on these dating apps but haven't been able to get anyone to even go on a date so I just had to introspect, if I don't I'll not really know now would I?

@Himanshu just be your self one day it will happen at the right time And to be honest I would not realy on a app to find the love of your life this app noy just for dating to Also northing wroug with been shy but some time you got not be

@Emz yeah I hope so, at this point I was just thinking maybe i might not be ideal dating material or something I'm doing wrong, and no i didn't mean this one I meant the accumulation of different apps I used till date, I've met a few people who said they have married through an dating app, so i thought why not give it a try hopefully I can find someone too as IRL its hard to even talk to women without any reasonable topic, as i never know what they are could be thinking.... and especially those girls that stare.... 🙄 Ahh anything but them, Its really uncomfortable.

Wow that's awesome, most Introverts do the same with me sometimes, but since I'm an introvert too I go back in my shell at times when it gets overwhelming 😂 Maybe they actually like what you have with them they value you so much, honestly its the same with me, we'd even die for those people who make us feel comfortable being around them i guess that's how we're wired lol

@Himanshu I don't think anyone will die for me🙄. I am just focused on being a true friend to them. It's not fair to expect the reciprocation with same intensity. My motto is to spread love everywhere. ❤️ Introverts have taught me to be patient. They are like cats. We can't expect them to be as friendly as dogs but with time, respect to their personal space and repeated show of love, we may win their trust and affection. 😌

@Roma well not everyone is like that, but some are, I know such people that's why I can say there are such people. yeah I don't expect much from anyone either and in turn it makes my life easier to live. Thats good, there's always a lack of love in the world, but remember to save enough of it for yourself, your well being depends on that. Hahah Yeah well we Introverts are inherently patient so you gotta be patient dealing with this kind. Well on the downside I'm sometimes way too patient so I just forget about them and just focus on my life 😂

Lol 😂

@Himanshu yaay :)

@Bill you're shy too, aren't you? 😝

@Himanshu ya :)

@Bill dont worry bro, just be hopeful 🍻

Yeah all 3 at times... 😂 But shy is the most dominant one, Unsure as idk what they are thinking, and maybe they don't even want to talk to someone shy. Dont feel like it, as it feels like they dont even want to talk. 😅