Posted Monday, May 29, 2023
3yI have just changed my settings to only have friendship matches from women. I said that I was OPEN to dating, but the number of men this week--today in particular, has caused me to reach my threshold of tolerance. If you are a decent man who respects women, that's unfortunate....
....because these men that use the Internet as a platform to harass, degrade, put down, insult, approach s*xually inappropriately, etc. ruin it for the decent men. I have received THOUSANDS of online messages from men over the last 6-7 years, and the insults are almost all the same: 1. The men use some version of "That's why you're single" or "No wonder you don't have a man," and/or 2. Some version of "You're not that hot" or "You're not all that anyway." It is as if men all attend a special school to learn how to insult a woman. Why are the insults almost the EXACT same no matter who the man is?? The only difference is the insult is coming from a different face. I've had 2 men personally attack me in a chat thread today about my profile being the reason why men choose to stay single and another man telling me I'm not attractive and to stop flattering myself. The chat thread they messaged me on had NOTHING to do with my bio or physical appearance, but a totally unrelated topic. These men read my bio, and decided to go out of their way to insult me on an open chat forum. Insults from men happen often online. I'm over it. 🤷♀️. I also don't understand why men think it's an insult to tell me I'm single. I love being single. I'm not desperately seeking a man. I love my freedom. I love being able to do what I want, when I want, come and go as I please without answering to anyone else. The more men attack me, the more they are making me want to remain single. But hey, many of you claim no man wants to date me anyway because of my supposed attitude and red flags, right? So, if none of the men want me, and I don't want them, then nobody should be upset. It's a win-win for both sides. 👍 (edited)
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Online dating platforms have created something that I'm glad I didn't really have to deal with. They also seem to have brought to the surface a lot of awful men who women would have typically never encountered. I'd be curious to see some of the psychology papers that will be written about it in the future. Stay safe out there.
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I think you all need to grow up and stop using broad generalizations to try to define an entire gender and throwing blame around, and instead start investing time into educating yourself's and developing a more universal worldview that doesn't require you to spread hatred towards others and groups to compensate for your own difficulties. If you want a relationship you have to work for it, it takes time and you have to earn the trust of others and prove you're worth the same from them. You're not just going to run into the right person. The world doesn't work like that. (edited)
girl don’t let these boy devalue you, you’re beautiful and you’re entitled to your opinion based on your experiences in the online and public world. these people are not men, but only boys. i wouldn’t close off completely on the dating world because of these type of people, that’s exactly what the patriarchy wants. keep positivity and if you need to take a break from dating that’s okay. at the end your happiness is the only that matters most. much love and i hope you find the one :3
i think the most simple explanation for all of this is the marketplace of ideas in our society is poisoned by extremism. i also believe the only way it will be cured is for several older generations to die
Isn't it always, for men online is kind of a waste of time generally. Maybe if you are wealthy it might work well. It's much better to find women organically. Asking women out in person is much more affective for me. There is just so many other dudes online the chance of women even seeing you is fairly low. Maybe it's better if you pay, idk. Online dating has been a disaster for both men and women. And, and, internet people are weird. It's a special school alright takes the short bus. Strong men attack when provoked weak men attack unprovoked. Well you shouldn't love being single no one should it's conditioning you to be alone. We are social beings we need others and especially that one person. You should be desperately seeking a husband every adult should. Love freedom? Isn't that why relationships are so special. You can leave but you stay. Doesn't sound like freedom sounds like a fear of responsibility. No that sounds awful for everyone. And they should not say those things to you. Being alone doesn't sound like a solution sounds like a vicious circle where everyone is just alone and miserable.
I can be a guy friend, i get the feeling of being isolated too sometimes, many of lifes problems have been answered through books but the morjority of the worlds population dont really seem to read or hear the call to look past their wants or desires and have faith of creating something better for them selves that is fulfilling instead of hedonistic tendencies. If the challenges werent there to define the boundaries of your light it would be hard to tell whats true and whats not. And yeah it seems upsetting when people dont understand but atleast you do and you carry out that authenticity the best you can find it to be and the ones who are meant to be there will naturally hravitate to it too because they have felt it too in their heart, to what is right and what is wrong. Im not trying to justify anything but its nice hearing when its not just you that is the only one saying things. Books made me feel not so crazy, they were there for me. So i like to reference a lot of the stuff i say because the world seems half ass backwords
Yea, sadly, the MAJORITY of the men, make us ALL look bad! I understand it!
I'm sorry that you have experienced what you've experienced. I'm sorry that you feel the way that you do. I'm not asking you to respond to me, but what you say about how men have treated you would never cross my mind as a possibility for my own behavior. Women deserve to be respected; all people deserve to be respected. If you're someone who doesn't agree, then do everyone a favor and just keep to yourself.
I'm sorry you have to deal with that 😔
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@Exotic Eyez The different definition you and I got for "good" was not directly given from God to us. It is from google/ dictionary, so by humane provided. You mention always God and now the bible but forget that there are a lot of people who do not believe in God or the bible but in the good of the world or good in people. So, your god-like standard or definition of "good" is not counting anyways for them. "Moral excellence" or "Perfection" is the same as " required qualities" and "of high standard" in weighting? My friends are high of standard and have required qualities. I would not call them perfect or the moral excellence. By the way the Oxford Learner's Dictionaries #1 definition is " of high quality or an acceptable standard. a good book" And I accepted that you are not a good person, never argued that. I am not sure why you thought I argued that. 😄 You see yourself a decent person. I just argued that "NOBODY" is a good person. I have a different definition for good therefore I say my friends are good people. And I never said that my friends are perfect or flawless but they are good people. Hitler loved dogs and that alone cannot make him a good person. And a priest who abused children is not good either. There are definitions for evil, bad and good. My definition of good is also found in dictionaries therefore I am stating facts, too.
Oh Im sorry that has happened to you
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