Taking accountability is one of the hardest things for us to do as human beings. I see it all the time—people expressing their frustrations with statements like, "No one’s responding to my messages," "I keep getting ghosted," or "Why doesn’t anyone like me when I’m such a nice person?" But here’s the thing: often, the problem isn’t with others; it’s with ourselves. The harsh truth is that we might not be as kind, thoughtful, or genuine as we think we are. It’s easier to point fingers and blame external factors than it is to reflect on our own behavior. Perhaps we're unknowingly coming across as insincere, or maybe we haven’t put in the effort to build meaningful connections. We all have blind spots when it comes to our flaws. Real growth happens when we stop making excuses and start taking a hard look at the ways we might be contributing to the very issues we’re facing. It's in owning up to our shortcomings that we can truly start to improve ourselves and our relationships with others. Keep your chin up friends, Kimmy. #relationship #advice #relationship #psychology

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Cancer

There is always room for self improvement and I think we should all strive to accept and learn from our mistakes. And when you find somebody that you can help eachother grow and not fight then that's a beautiful thing. You should hold onto someone like that and keep growing with them not grow apart. Ghosting is also not a bad thing. You're not wasting eachothers time that way. They just didn't have the heart to say they don't want to talk to you anymore or found someone more suiting for them

David

25d

INFP

Leo

Ok but in my experience with women it’s always been the woman who creates a problem and leaves. Every girl I’ve been with has had nothing but good things to say about me when asked. I think in my case is genuinely a situation of I’m a genuinely good person and they aren’t used to being treated well. Each woman I’ve been with has called me sweet, charming, kind hearted, attentive, patient, understanding, genuine, and overall a really great guy. Most of them just had never had a healthy relationship in their lives and would project their own insecurities and fears onto me causing the relationship to fail. I genuinely think atleast in my case I just have no luck with women because the women who find me appealing are immature, toxic, or not ready for a healthy relationship. I’ve even spent years trying to figure out what’s causing this pattern and what’s so wrong about me that is causing these women to leave. I haven’t come up with much and the things I did come up with I’ve worked on and fixed. I exhibit nothing but green flags and am genuinely a good person. I’m not judgmental, I never get mad, I’m passionate, I am emotionally mature, have good communication skills, and always treat everyone with kindness and respect. I’ve even been told I’m too nice or that “your so chill I wanna punch you sometimes” even my therapist can’t seem to figure out why this keeps happening to me. She’s studied me and my behavior and seen the way I act and has no clue why this keeps happening. She says I’m a charming, talented, and attractive young man who shouldn’t be having so much difficulty dating. Everyone I know is stumped as to why this keeps happening. Hell I’m stumped because I’ve god no idea what’s so bad about me when I literally built my attitude and how I treat people on what I was told women value in a long term partner I spent years going through various red and green plays to try and figure out what’s wrong but I still get next to no matches or coversationm

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25d

INTP

Taurus

If you think you're perfect and have nothing to improve you're exactly the person this post is aimed at. No one is perfect. We all have flaws and to be frank much of our interactions nowadays lends to assholedness (hi its me). You're not having a hard time dating because you're just too nice. Be honest with yourselves people.

Elle

24d

ISTJ

Well said. Accountability and looking inwards is so important! Oh, and I know why I get ghosted. I ask the hard questions, I'm willing to confront and not shy away when I put my values and what I believe in first before them. I push back, I stand up for myself, I call people out on their insidious bs... It forces their first move. Saved me lots of unhealthy interactions. People should see it as a positive when trash takes themselves out.

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Hinal

16h

ENFJ

Leo

Why don’t people reply?

Why do people read messages and just not reply? Especially when you’ve asked them a question, why is mutual curtesy and respect just got out the window? I know at times I can be a bit slow to reply as work gets busy etc and I just forget due to old age but I still reply! Is it just a ego boost... read more

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Aidan

21h

ISTJ

Leo

Good men are hard to find...

So, why do women toss them aside so easily?

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Renee

13h

INTJ

Taurus

1 Award

Classic Queensland weather 🌧️

How’s the weather on your end ?

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Ybba

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Sagittarius

Let me tell you humans 🐻🍀

#single

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Shiva

25d

INTJ

Pisces

Hello 👀♥️

@Hey_Shiva__

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Ivan

ISFJ

Leo

How do you feel in this app?

Just asking, because they say dating apps are generally bad because they take your money and all, but I met a lot of people here. It is like travelling without Visa.

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Theodor

13h

INTP

Taurus

Having to fake being okay to not put people off is tiring.

I'm barely holding it together while consumed by loneliness and depression and having to act normal to try and meet people is impossible. "How are you" I'm a minor inconveniece away from killing myself but I can't tell you that. Having to lie just for a chance at a normal interaction or life. Fake... read more

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Blossom

25d

ISTP

Scorpio

What's your best quote?

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Austin

21h

ISFJ

Taurus

Statistical garbage 🗑

The chart ends in 2020 bc that was when all dating/meeting hit 0-10%. Online dating is just full of window lickers (people who are just browsing and seeing how many likes they can get) 😆 I chose boo bc dating here is secondary and communication/posts/comments are primary. It fits my life bc I no... (edited) read more

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Edd

25d

ISFJ

Leo

Dating

men with tattoos are so cute it’s like a museum you can kiss

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ISFJ

Leo

Dating

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Vickie

17h

ISFJ

Cancer

Single and liking this app

I thought you could send messages on here for free, at least that is what I read in the reviews. No biggie though, I like this app so far. It isn't too expensive. I will more than likely subscribe to it. I enjoy all the other areas of it as well.

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Francisco

19m

INFJ

Cancer

Who has actually had success in dating people here? And are you open to long term relationships? I find chatting can be nice but it doesn't feel like many people want to commit on here. Picture is unrelated just random food I made before it went bad.

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Aussie kinky koala (aka Les)

57m

ENFP

Aries

Dating today...!

I have a question for the lady's here, if you met a guy and they didnt tell you they had kids would it be ok with you or would you be pissed off. I myself have been dropped because I have a 7 year old son. I did tell them from the start and it's on my profile but will never upload my son's photo.... read more

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Jeremai

35m

INFP

Cancer

Pets

I have zero problems with having pets but it's slightly concerning to me the amount of women that I see on here who seem to be obsessed with their pets almost as if their pets are part of their core identity.... Again I have nothing against animals it's just kind of strange to me. Does that make me... read more

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Thin

ISFJ

Aquarius

Or just stay single? 😅🤭

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Mez

21h

INFP

Gemini

Grooming

I take pride in looking kempt & decent, so should my potential match 💯.

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Debu

ISTP

“What do you fear the most?”

I fear getting attached to things that wont last. Loving someone that’s not mine to keep. Working so hard for a job that’s not meant for me. I know God always has a better plan, but I still fear the pain that comes with attachments. May we never pour our hearts out to temporary... (edited) read more

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Cameron

INFP

Pisces

I know I’m short

I’m short because I was born female. But transitoned. Surly not everyone’s shallow enough to be able to see past that

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Enigma

20h

ENTP

Libra

Older or Younger?

Do you primarily date older or younger and why? What factors would make you change your mind for an individual?

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Kelly Clatfelter

23h

INFP

Scorpio

Why?

Why is it so hard to find anyone these days? I get it, people don't trust each other as easily these days. All I want at the current moment is to take it slow and take someone out on a date, show em a good time, give them some good food, and take them home after a good day, show them to their door... read more

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21h

INFP

Pisces

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Everyone mad because they're trying to figure out how this app works but I'm just relieved they aren't trying to charge me 15 gems to think about sending a message.

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Hinal

16h

ENFJ

Leo

Questions

Why do guys have profiles with either just a plain colour background photo or random photos of items or places?

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Jack

INFP

Cancer

Dating

What’s one thing what’s the most important when you’re date someone?

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ESTJ

Leo

Relationships

Is it a 'red flag ' to have opposite gender friends while having a partner? Is it necessary to cut off your friends for a relationship if the situation demands it? (edited)

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16h

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Leo

1 Award

Guys...Stop looking for a good woman.

Everybody is going to try and say something to make you feel better... The truth is... A good woman is rare and hard to find. Stop putting effort into women, and start putting that effort into yourself. First accept the possibility of being alone forever... Dont let other people tell you that... read more

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Debu

ISTP

“Having someone you can tell every detail of your day to without feeling like you are being clingy or boring is such a great feeling..”

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Samantha

12h

INFP

Scorpio

Come and get it 🗝️

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Geoffrey

10h

ENTJ

Pisces

First time

What are your experiences here?

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Ramzi

14h

INFJ

Gemini

Values or looks? 👀

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Julio

15h

ENFP

Gemini

Is this app really useful?

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Jeremiah

16h

ISTP

Taurus

I truly believe that a lady would have a above 90% success rate if they made the first move 🤣🤣

Well with me that is. Cause I'm shy and being 5ft 7 women literally look over me 🤣😅

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Kevin

19h

ISFP

Pisces

For the Women: Do you like to date/ be in a relationship with men who are obese?

Been awhile since I posted something in regards to dating/relationship, but I guess my mind wonders. In case your wondering, yes I’m obese at 530 lbs. I’m trying to lose weight, but it’s not easy and is made harder with bones spurs in both my knee caps. Please be honest and if your worried about... read more

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Aussie kinky koala (aka Les)

ENFP

Aries

Oh do I dare poke the bear here ! Lol

Mine would be.! Why do you have to wait for the guy to make a move, if you are interested, just ask him...! Simple. (edited)

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Adhiraj Sharma

44m

ENFJ

Aries

How hard it could be??

It's beena while since i'm on boo. Still i didnt found anyone yet. Its been 4 years now. Can some please help.hold things up? (edited)

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David

21h

INTP

Sagittarius

1 Award

👉👈

I made it myself (for you)

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Ndeks

22h

ISFJ

Virgo

Dating nowadays...

Personally I'm tired of the never ending talking stages.

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Debu

10h

ISTP

True love is not about how much someone can say they love you. True love is about how much someone can "prove" they love you. Words mean nothing if their actions don't follow.

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Andy

INTP

Aries

Review my profile

Hey everyone, I’m struggling to match with anyone, could some of you take a look at my profile and suggest improvements or tell me why you would say no? 🙏

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19h

INTJ

Pisces

🤣🤣

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INFJ

Capricorn

Wanna date ?

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Capricorn

Title

If there was a dating app where only pictures of a person's room are allowed, what details/objects would make you swipe right ?

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I Love Women a bit Older than me.

Maybe in their 35s or early 40s

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