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Eris

Eris

9mo

INTP

Gemini

What do you consider 'social skills'?

This one really ticks me off because I feel like average ppl think social skills = being fake so others won't hate you. This is pathetic. This, I would consider 'networking' for advantage, like job opportunities. It helps you develop 'contacts' not friends. It's no more 'social skills' than manipulating people is 'relationship skills'. Social skills are, fundamentally, about consideration of others. This does not automatically mean you accommodate everyone, but that you make an effort to understand different perspectives and try to treat others as you would want to be treated. It irritates me because the implications are that somebody who isn't 'fake' is fundamentally lacking social ability and that is just not true.

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Michael

Michael

9mo

INTJ

Pisces

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Tact is more often about being able to read the room while speaking honestly in a way that garners respect. Truth is relative here, as is the perception of the group. Listen to others, speak clearly and intelligently and people will venerate you. (edited)

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Eric

Eric

9mo

ENTP

Virgo

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I hear ya. I used to be very social then spent many years only taking care of my kids. Then pandemic, I hardly talked to people my age in person. Now it's like I forgot how to express myself sometimes. Working on it obviously.

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Rafael

Rafael

9mo

INFP

Taurus

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5

Man.. this is a very complicated post to navigate lol It makes me think I might have poor social skills hahaha (jk)

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Richie

Richie

9mo

ISTJ

Taurus

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2

I need an other option lol. I'm not great at being social in general

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Craig

Craig

9mo

ISTP

Pisces

2
3

I am a firm believer that talking trash or teasing people is good for them. True confidence does not come from affirmations it comes from pride. I do treat people as I want to be treated and I tease everyone untill I think they just need a break or are to weak to handle anything at all. Just like muscle gains at the gym you start off slow and work your way up to heavier weights but rest days are important. You do not have the skinny kid start at 400lb. Obviously this is not a common practice and some people even encourage to let skinny kids stay weak and defenseless (metaphorically). So there is a good portion of people, I can't get along with but those that have real confidence can handle the truth too which is one of the greatest benefits to being strong in this way. If good social skills is the test of quality relationships then this is a great social skill. If a good social skill is measured by how often it works this is a horrible one. Frankly my honesty and sense of humore keep most people away from me so it is fair to say I don't have or care for "social skills" but those that are close to me are worth more than the rest and yes superior.

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Slim

Slim

8mo

INFP

Sagittarius

Jack of all raves me, party of none

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