ESTJ childhood struggles

I've just discovered my daughter might be an ESTJ. I seriously don't get her (unlike her ISFP sister). Sadly, anything within the topic of ESTJ - INTP parent - child relationship available is about how ESTJ parents give trauma to INTP children... So useless xD How was it like to grow up as an ENTJ? Did you feel misunderstood? What you wish was done for you or told to you early on? What stuff on the internet about yourselves you find misleading or untrue? (As a fem INTP I sometimes stumble about such stuff about myself, so...) Any advice?