brit

1mo

INFJ
Taurus

9w1

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I need real feminine friendships.

If you’re friends with me now, holla! If not, holla! I need to hang out with more people. I feel like I hang out with too many dudes because that’s comfortable for me as being raised by a single dad with brothers. Anyone else have this struggle?

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Tim

1mo

INFP
Aquarius

6w5

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Not that it has anything to do with your post really. But, I really hate how gender somehow creates odd communication barriers between people. I feel like I can talk/friend anyone.. but there definitely are people who have trouble talking to either or, whether they are male or female.. I really wish I understood why though. My guess in your situation is that the masculine energy feels more safe and familiar, so you don't really know or feel comfortable enough to be yourself around feminine energy. Does that ever puzzle you, how that can happen to people? I see it.. I just don't understand it. Oh and, hi!

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brit

1mo

INFJ
Taurus

9w1

9

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yeah. thats pretty much exactly it, I never really even had a woman let alone my absent mother teach me how to put on makeup. I make it work, but I almost feel “ashamed” to be feminine, though I’ve been told by men point blank that’s why a real man will never want me.

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brit

1mo

INFJ
Taurus

9w1

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in my opinion I think a “real man” would understand many people didn’t get a fair stake in healthy childhood influences more than “nobody wants me” lol

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Tim

1mo

INFP
Aquarius

6w5

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@brit wow.. that's messed up. I can't believe anyone would say that. Reading your profile and seeing your pictures, I would love to swipe right. I love goth girls, used to be an emo/goth in HS with long hair and all. The distance is the problem. I don't know, I've had similar problems but on the opposite end though. I'd love to make more women friends since some of my other women friends have sort of drifted away, but looking for friendships I've noticed how difficult it is to befriend them.. The weird thing is it's not usually my communication that's a problem, I think it's just that they focus too much on the fact that I am a man and don't just treat me like I'm just any other person enough to form a friendship. It's crazy how I never noticed this as an issue until this point in my life.. but that stupid veil of gender is annoying when people can't seem to communicate past it.

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IVY ROSE

1mo

ENFJ
Libra

6w5

6

5

In my experience, women are a lot more difficult than men are because of the way that they hold grudges, gossip, compete and are just in general catty. I know this is NOT everyone. But it made enough of an impact on my life. I always wanted to make friends with women. I like the idea of having a girl tribe. My experience with men (once you weed out the ones who are covertly trying to be in a relationship 🙄) are that they hold on to things way less, they are less judgemental and or they openly accept things easier

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Gabriel

1mo

INFP
Leo

9w1

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Was the exact opposite for quite a while. Only really started making some actual guy friends about a month and a half ago. Before that pretty much all my friends were wamen.

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Tash

1mo

ISFJ
Aries

I understand I rarely hang out with women just because I don't trust any of them but I'm a tomb boy who hates drama so 🤷

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