Posted Friday, February 20, 2026
20d
INFP
Gemini
5Why?
I have a legit question or two. In my experience, whenever I talk to guys and they flirt with me or compliment me, they have the nerve to get mad when I say that I don't like flirting or compliments because they make me uncomfortable. Like, why? Why can't people be REAL men and RESPECT that they make me uncomfortable because I DONT like being seen as an OBJECT which is what physical compliments make me feel like. Now compliments to my personality and the things I take interest in, I gladly accept ANY time because they make me feel seen as a PERSON 😃 But WHY do some guys think they have any right to get mad and insult me when THEY make me uncomfortable?? As if RESPECTING someone's feelings is impossible 😂😂 Also - WHY is where I'm from so important?? In my personal opinion, I HATE that question because things like that DONT matter to me 🤷🏽♀️ I focus on the more important things that DO matter like whether or not you're a nice person or if you can actually read or if you actually RESPECT my bio, shared interests, openness to trying new things and other things like that.
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Miki
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ENFJ
Capricorn
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Fryda
19d
ENTP
Scorpio
8First of all, a decent man will respect your boundaries and will definitely not get mad at you for not accepting a compliment, that's crazy and I'm sorry to hear you've gone through that often😣 I might even suggest blocking those men, because they don't seem to know how to socialize in a healthy way Second👀 GIRL SAAAAME🤭 I always prefer it when people take their time to get to know me, then any type of genuine compliments about my personality are welcome😊 I like those compliments and appreciate them since they're not shallow anymore💝 anyone can talk sweetly about your beauty, but not everyone knows how to sincerely appreciate the other person and let them verbally know about it🙂↕️
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AJ
20d
ISFJ
Sagittarius
1I agree with some of the comments here. Just want to add that if you look at it from a different perspective, they are helping you realise what their intentions are. This way you don’t have to waste time entertaining a conversation with someone who might be pursuing a different ‘goal’ than yours. Also about asking where you are from, I would say it’s mostly because of culture difference or language barrier. Sometimes you could be different but still align and other times it might be the opposite. I’m not saying every guy on the internet is bad or good but generally speaking there are signs that indicate what someone wants by starting a conversation with you. It’s always up to you whether you want to respond or not. And it’s also in your control, the extent of how much you allow it to bother you. I personally ignore or block right away 🤷♀️
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Tycho
20d
ISTP
Sagittarius
So, flirting is a pretty natural thing. But someone commenting on your appearance doesn't inherently mean they see you as an object, but it also doesn't mean flirtation all the time. Say you're a regular at a coffee shop. You tend to get the same barista who's sexuality compass doesn't point to you, and yours in turn. One day you come in with a new hairdo, or maybe try something new with your outfit. Omg, they love it and they want you to know how good it looks on you! "That new haircut is soooo cute on you!" Would you stop coming to the coffee shop, would you make a scene or leave a scalding review? The best way to not be seen as an object is to never view yourself as one, and remember that people can be kind or flirtatious without objectifying you. Some people flirt for fun, some with genuine sincerity, and others with intent. A compliment isn't for your looks, it's for your spirits.
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ArkéLiyy
20d
ENFJ
Gemini
3I concede that complimenting physical straightly is somehow desperating, as it neglects yourself inside, and witness of the poverty of the consideration we express to you; per reflection the vanity of your interlocutor. It's smothering over the time. And that’s the main kind of interaction we will use to know in our lives. All superficial, nothing in depth. And we receive this emptiness where we feel our souls drowing in like, from both men and women who only get interest in the control on your body. As, are they, narcissics people. I would indeed say the origin has no real sense, like frontiers, since, we are like our own unique nation, with this one way to express onself, this one culture; to share. What defines oneself, is oneself and the way we do.
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