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Posted Wednesday, May 17, 2023
4mo
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Advice for INFP who has a crush on INTP? (Repost)
I have crush on my online INTP friend. At first its very hard to get to know him but I think we start to talk much than before. Tips, do and don’t, or another things that I need to be aware when I talk to him? Any suggestion on what can I do or how can I improve/developed our relationship? I genuinely want to understand him and being able to get to know more about his world, interests, and thought. I want him to feel comfortable around me and able to feel my care. But I’m not an expressive person. I often saw him from afar (lol by i mean my ava in game haha) and secretly get jealous when many girls being bold, creative, and straightforward telling their opinion about him to him. Like I always want to tell him that but never have the exact words or smtms gut to say that. Myb just myb, I wish to be stand out, by I mean he would notice me among many crowds. I deeply apologize for sayin this, myb I dream to be the one he adore and set his eyes for. lol ew haha Recently, I try to be more vulnerable on my feelings towards him (It was embarassing for me, I dislike being quiet honest on how I feel towards my crush ><). I try to be a lil bit bold and straightforward tho I believe still in non-confrontational way. Prolly not that obvious compared to most ppl (?) idk. I smtms questioning myself too if he is actually interested to discussing things with me, kinda overthinking who knows he don’t see me as an equal partner to discuss those topics haha lol sad #insecure Hehe I might be an insecure mess, nervous, shy, and constantly questioning myself around him. Often secretly withdraw when I start to get jealous and insecure. Ppl might suggest to just confess, yet I don’t see any momentum for that yet and never planned to confess anyway. In the other hand, for me confessing blindly based on emotion without seeing the situation, momentum, and stage of relationship is a bad choice. Since my core purpose is creating best/good moment and history with him while I’m still able to be around him. I know that we definitely wouldn’t be able to have this connection forever or for that long time. Venting: I can’t help that I get jealous with another players who kept talking so friendly or tryin to be more intimate around him. Smtms I feel I’m not that expressive and I rarely brought up emotional matter around him or asking related to emotion since I heard INTP hate that topic. But last night a player ask him are u lonely? And he answered sometimes. That another player act cute all around and answer with ‘awe’ like that lol while I can’t often act all cute or spoiled i feel shy and embarassed to do that around him. Disclaimer 1: I’m INFP enneagram 6 with developed thinking stack so I tend to be uneasy when it comes to emotional things as well Disclaimer 2: I respect him, in many ways. And I respect his autonomy/freedom/right. I don’t want to force him on anything. Even the way I approach him, I think it might like a scared cat. I’m that scared insecure and shy cat. I don’t have high expactations but at least I would love to have chance to get to know him better and create a good history with him, even just as a friend. Telling this in case my explanation above giving wrong impression. Thank you very much
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Girl, if you’re sure he’s single just tell him about your feelings. If he reciprocates good for the 2 of you. If he does not, your value doesn’t depend on what he thinks. Just go! Life is too short to not go after the things you like to keep.
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If he rejects, please don't run away...remain good friends with him :) Rejection should not be considered as betrayal, everyone should be respected for the choices they make.
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4mo
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I want to say give up as a joke, but why not try just telling them?
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Is he in Boo? 👀 Hmm..you just gotta be honest with your feelings. No point in keeping it with you. And if you get a red signal, remain good friends with him.
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Consider if you want to keep it at a pen pal relationship or deeper. Otherwise consider that reality will test the natural compatibility and ease of your connection. Crush is pretty harmless and low commitment so focus on what you really want in your social circle. My xp with introverts they are in their own world so you have to engage and hopefully meet in the middle in terms of matching interest and energy.
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Tell him. Hit or miss 🙃
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