Posted Saturday, February 28, 2026
11d
INFP
Leo
1Last year, in the last month, I began a journey of self-discovery at the age of 25. After a history of abuse and confused identity, I decided that I want to know who I really am, including my orientation. As a teenager, I said I was pansexual, and in early adulthood, I said I was bisexual. Today, coming out of therapy, I started thinking about something specific: "I get excited thinking about acting in a series or film and kissing a woman." Then I froze instantly. I mean, it's normal for someone who is bisexual to get excited thinking about kissing someone of the same sex, but I don't remember ever getting so excited thinking about kissing a man. My friends have been telling me for years that I'm a lesbian. I always show interest in women and tend to talk about them more. When I get drunk, I even say things like, "I want to kiss a woman." But that clashes with my idea of marrying a man someday. The strange thing is that when I imagine that, I don't see anything beyond just wearing a white dress at the altar. It also seemed almost impossible to me to be a lesbian because if I find certain men attractive, or I get nervous around some of them, or I like them physically. I've only had one boyfriend once, and we lasted a month because I felt disgusted when I kissed him and I didn't even like him touching me or talking to me affectionately. But I still question it because I like male actors and fictional characters. And it's not like I've been in a serious relationship with a woman, so everything is still confusing. I don't mind if I discover I'm bisexual or lesbian, but I'd like to know for sure what I really like. Joy, for the first time, I doubted whether I'm truly bisexual or not. I'll see where this journey of self-discovery in therapy takes me.
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Luna
11d
INTJ
Sagittarius
4I've been in serious relationships with men for the better part of the past 15 years and I'm still struggling with this 🙃 I settled on pansexual since I occasionally like individuals even if I'm generally repulsed by most.
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Ash 🐶🐱🦝🐝🐢🦜🐑
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ISTJ
Capricorn
1My theory is that we arnt a static thing, we just mistake the reflection of whatever we fantasise about in our mind to be us. Explains how people get extremely weird and unacceptable orientations, its not that they were born with the orientation, its that they got curious had no lines and let fantasies be generated within them and fantasies are very strong and pervert the body, i meqn no one who fantasises can be pure because fantasies themselves are false realities that appear beside ulterior motives. Thats just my view, im a bit of an antifantasy dude (edited)
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Dominic
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INTP
Cancer
It is a fantastic journey of self-discovery. Having peers look at you to show you the things you don't see about yourself, but your inner thoughts, your true self, unconscious mind - those are things that will help you shape your sexuality. It is my belief that regardless of what others want to see or say, judge or not, it is your life and if you decide that every Tuesday you are Bi, every Thursday you are Pan, and the rest of the time you are lesbian - no one can stop you. In all reality, you can one day have an attraction of only women, and then meet a man you fall deeply in love with and marry. Neither of those are wrong or right if you believe that is what is truly meant for you.
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