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Bex
Posted Saturday, December 17, 2022
1y
INTP
Capricorn
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Did you know..?
The social "roles" we get early in life is likely to stick with you for your entire life. Not because that's where you have to be, but because you accept it as your place. Say you were bullied and an outsider early in life, wherever you go after that, school/work/any group situation - you're gonna assume the part of the outsider. You will assume the popular ones won't want you around and so you'll stay in the periphery. Same goes with popularity. It's like a self-fullfilling prophecy. But here's the thing, with awareness we can break that cycle. Imagine the type of life you'd wish to lead, and tell yourself it's possible. When you change your scenery, change the way you see yourself and others will as well. It's difficult, I know. I was stuck in a loop where I always felt unwanted. Always left outside looking in. Then I found out about this nugget of human psychology and I changed my path. Am I now the most popular one in a group? - No. Do I wish I was? - God no 🤣. But I've made friends. I've gained respect. I get invited to participate. Why am I sharing this? Cause I know so many feel helplessly left outside and I want them to know it is possible to change their lot.
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Sofya
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Absolutely true. And a corollary: the behavior will start to feel more natural AS LONG AS YOU KEEP IT UP. I've been pretty reclusive all my life, but when I got a job that required me to be outgoing, I truly did start to want more social interaction in my day-to-day life. I truly became more outgoing, and even more extroverted. However, when I got promoted to a position that didn't require much social interaction, all of those changes evaporated. When I stopped practicing those skills and behaviors, they became more foreign to me. Lesson: if you want to change an aspect of your behavior for the long-term, you need to keep up with the changes!
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