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Kyle

Posted Tuesday, November 4, 2025

ENTP

Aries

Am I in the wrong?

My friends point out to me that lately I don't "try enough" with women when things get difficult. I think its a part of me and I'm not sure if its good or bad as I do it naturally. For example, I've dated this girl for a month and I enjoyed my time. I believe it was mutual. But as things progressed she told me she's not sure what she's looking for. We were both 38. I didn't say a word. After a bit of silence, just told her quietly to leave my apartment. Afterwards I deleted her contact. Another one was a few months after that where I dated another girl again for a month. Afterwards she told me whenever she's with me she enjoys being with me but she feels nothing towards me. Then started talking more as I've been just quiet and looking into the view. When she finished I just got up, gave her a little pat on the head and left. Deleted her number on the way home. I think I became like this after a relationship ended 2 years ago. Ever since, I've been trying less. I'm not sure if this was for the better or worse in my personal change. I'd like to see what the other men would tell me. (edited)

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You shouldn't have to carry all effort. Stay healthy man. Good luck

Jacob

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Good on you man. Self respect. The friend zone is the worst place to allow yourself to be.

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Sounds like you have self respect. Why put in energy on people who doesn’t put in energy for you. Your friends on the other hand sounds like they’re involuntarily in open relationships.

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I’m the same, I’ll see if they are interested once and if they are not equally interested it’s fine I can find someone else. I’m especially burnt out of taking to too many women on online dating apps who aren’t too interested so I don’t put much effort in now. (edited)

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I think you did the right thing. If someone says such things, leave. Why even try to have a relationship if they don’t have feelings for you? Or if they say they don’t know what they want? I disagree with your friends saying you’re not trying enough. What could you even do? Go into their heads with your hands, literally, and rearrange their brain?

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