Posted Monday, January 19, 2026
23d
INFJ
Virgo
7Ive noticed that COUNTLESS female profiles on here always (or almost always or a good majority) put down BE HONEST or a variation of that in the “All I ask is that you…” section of their profile. It seems to me that wayyy to many females have been lied to, decieved, and or betrayed harshly to the point where it feels and seems like a worldwide plague onto the female specimen. As a man who deeply cares for women and protects 2 (my mother and my sister) it saddens me to witness the amount of women that apparently have this ptsd over trust, lies, truth, honesty and betrayal. However I am happy to know that you understand that you must constantly ask for honesty and truth, I applaud that, but I will give you additional insight and a valuable piece of strategic info when dealing with men. Sometimes its not enough to just ask for honesty although its a good start, along with asking for honesty you must also let them know that they can tell you ANYTHING, no matter the past or no matter the trauma, dark memories, old habits, ugly past, shameful embarrassing buried psychological spiritual chains and sins etc, let them know you are willing to LISTEN with no judgement ALL of these things BEFORE considering moving forward, and never move forward UNTIL they open up about at least ONE of those things I mentioned, because at least youll have a sneak peek of what you are potentially dealing with. If this advice helps any of you moving forward please lmk in the comment section here, I would love to know if it helps anyone even if its just one person it would have been worth it to share the knowledge and wisdom ive gained through my personal demise, failures & heartbreak, God bless you all and may he protect you and keep you safe from further heartbreak.
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Liisa
23d
INTJ
7I agree that safe spaces encourage honesty, but I think it’s worth noting that many women ask for honesty because they’ve already offered grace and understanding in the past—and were still lied to. Emotional safety matters—but honesty is still a choice, not a reward. Both people have to show up accountable.
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INFP
Libra
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Andrew
21d
INTJ
Libra
8Really? I think it's projection and self-interest. Actually, the best advice (this is an advice forum) is to lie. Women who say they want an honest man are confessing to you that they have a weakness for dishonest men. They know this about themselves but are not terribly concerned about fixing their problems. Instead, they offload that burden by asking for any potential suiter to be honest. Unfortunately for them, honest people and liars sound exactly the same. Don't accuse me of being a liar though. I'm always honest. Swear.
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Xiao ~ Deathcup
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INTP
Aries
I think it's part of a human experience to be lied to or deceived at one point. The problem with this society is that men are taught to "be strong, don't show emotions, it isn't manly" which leads to them usually hiding while women are viewed as "over emotional" so any emotion they show may be perceived bigger than it already is. Although I think the world is slowly trying to stabilize itself to put same values on both sides but that's still long way to go
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