@Daniel I had that problem with my stalker she still can't let me go.
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Daniel
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@heavymetalz Oop
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I also cling to people in my mind even after I have parted ways with them in real life. Sometimes I channel the energy into something creative, sometimes I just wallow in the feelings by myself. Creative work seems to be the most productivecoping method I have found.
Your post is going to be about you. Don't apologize. I understand those bonds. I've been there. You need to takecare of you and do what's right for you
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Daniel
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Thank you! I do need to focus on myself more then others first. Its a common problem I face.
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Kelly
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I think this happens when the people you lovedgrowingup were toxic. You learn to associate those behaviors with love because that was how love was given.
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Daniel
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You know you're exactly right :( I didn't really grow up with any loving people
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Kelly
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@Daniel I'm sorry. That was not fair to you and you didn't deserve it. I know I had some major abandonment issues I had to get over. My parents left me and for years I was constantly worried everyone in my life would just leave for no reason. But one day I made the connection that I was reacting to what happened as a kid, and I was able to heal.
I think the first step towards getting better is identifying the problem, and from this post it seems like you have a really good idea. Of course, fixingthings is always easier said than done. But you're young and artistic. You have more creativity to overcome problems than most people. I know you'll be able to overcome and make relationships with people who treat you how you deserve.
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Posted Thursday, March 10, 2022
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Ever create a rusty bond that you cannot break?
Maybe I'm just too weak but my mind creates bonds with people I can not break. No matter how rough or toxic the relationship is, I can't help but love those people anyways and it's actually super unhealthy. Anyone have the same issues? Or have advice? From my point of view it makes my brain turn wondering what is wrong. Like why can't I just have one healthy bond. I'm okay with ups and downs but I'm not ok with this constant loss of connection. It's breaking me honestly. I don't mean to make this about me. Please share your thoughts
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you need to learn when to walk away in life.ive had to do this to move on and heal from certain people that are just not healthy to have in my life
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Yea.. letting go isn't easy.
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@Daniel I had that problem with my stalker she still can't let me go.
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@heavymetalz Oop
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I also cling to people in my mind even after I have parted ways with them in real life. Sometimes I channel the energy into something creative, sometimes I just wallow in the feelings by myself. Creative work seems to be the most productive coping method I have found.
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Oh wow, I need to try that out! Good idea
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Your post is going to be about you. Don't apologize. I understand those bonds. I've been there. You need to take care of you and do what's right for you
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Thank you! I do need to focus on myself more then others first. Its a common problem I face.
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I think this happens when the people you loved growing up were toxic. You learn to associate those behaviors with love because that was how love was given.
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You know you're exactly right :( I didn't really grow up with any loving people
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@Daniel I'm sorry. That was not fair to you and you didn't deserve it. I know I had some major abandonment issues I had to get over. My parents left me and for years I was constantly worried everyone in my life would just leave for no reason. But one day I made the connection that I was reacting to what happened as a kid, and I was able to heal. I think the first step towards getting better is identifying the problem, and from this post it seems like you have a really good idea. Of course, fixing things is always easier said than done. But you're young and artistic. You have more creativity to overcome problems than most people. I know you'll be able to overcome and make relationships with people who treat you how you deserve.
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@Kelly Thank you kelly. I really appreciate your message. You helped me alot :)
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I think you need to accept that part your personality. Nothing wrong to form connections to another people. Just try found group of people to similar to you. Like forcing yourself to meetup or events to being vulnerable to new things. Behavior is hard to change. I have similar problem. I found to be cut my strings. Literally delete the contact or conversation thread or block them. I found a weighted lift from shoulder. I don't know it will be helpful for me. I recommend trying to see to feel better or not.
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Yea I guess I could just delete them, it sounds sad asf to me but there's not alot of opinions. They aren't gonna loose their toxisity for me sake
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@Daniel You always express that toxicitu through your art. It's great way to release emotion in piece of work!
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I really do tbh. My artwork can get pretty dark sometimes due but it's based on the realities I stumble upon
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