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Ana Elli

13 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius
Have you ever created an Imaginary lover and feel like it's so real by the time?
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Bruce

13 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Yes, it's called a fantasy.

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Ana Elli

13 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

A fantasy that is so close to reality...

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Bruce

12 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

If you're lucky.

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Alexander

13 days ago

INTP
Leo

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Does imagining a whole love life when you have a crush count?

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Ana Elli

13 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Yes, someone who exists only in your imagination not in real

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Alexander

13 days ago

INTP
Leo

5w4

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Yeah, then I suppose, it would even count if the crush is a real person (which it usually is), because I am in love with the idea I have of them, not their real self

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Ana Elli

13 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Ah I understand, it's normal. Actually I have an Imaginary lover since 2012, this person doesn't exist in real. Like I have never seen him or meet someone like him in real. He's what my mind created and it feels so real

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Kostas Viper

7 days ago

INFP
Capricorn

The danger with that is that the person you have created in your mind might be so very perfect and ideal, and you will never meet anyone who will be exactly that perfect in real life. And the more years you spend loving this person in your head, the harder it will be to realize that in real life noone will be so ideal. So your imaginary lover is raising your standards to levels you will never be able to meet in actual life.

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Ana Elli

7 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

God! That's what I'm so worried about, that's why I can't match with anybody, I feel like I can't find anybody like him, I keep comparing and I find imperfections. It's almost happening and you're the only one who know this so far

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Kostas Viper

7 days ago

INFP
Capricorn

You have to remember that, while this perfect lover you have created in your head seems like the absolute perfect match for you, in reality he wouldn't be. Because he is something you have created, and thus he's a part of you.. It would be like having a relationship with yourself. And the question is, why do we get in relationships with others? Apart from the physical, sexual aspect of it, isn't it also because that other person excites our interest and curiosity with all their ideas and personality? So if you dated someone you have created, someone you have given their personality to, then there is no fun, no intrigue, no interest.

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Ana Elli

6 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Gosh you're the only person who understand it all and explained it well. I couldn't truly find someone who understood lt well, that's so true I had meet many guys but I couldn't stay with them because I focused on their imperfection , idk maybe I was right. All my life I've been trying to find someone who almost looked like Daniel, both physically and behavior. Even when I was making love I didn't enjoy it very much I closed my eyes and I imagined it was Daniel. You're right, it's hard because I always have to like imagine what Daniel does or says, like I have a toy and the remote is in my hand. I'm sure I'll never meet anybody with Daniel's face and behavior, a very handsome man yet loyal and romantic. He protects me from getting hurt. If I didn't have Daniel, I would have got hurt in my previous relationship. He helped me write and create a lot of novels and stories. One day I imagined living without him and I got so hurt and depressed. Daniel is like a drug for me now. I think if I get married one day I'd still fantasize about him. I feel secure with him on my mind...

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Josh

13 days ago

INFP
Taurus

6w7

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Only in dreams really.

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Ron

12 days ago

INFP
Cancer

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Also look at parts work. It could be a part of your psych looking to tell you something....

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Ana Elli

12 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Oh can you explain more please?

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Ron

12 days ago

INFP
Cancer

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I'll dm you about parts work... Too much to put here. Feel free to not reply or ignore it. I won't be offended. 👍

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Ana Elli

12 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Oh I'm looking forward to your message please

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Nathan

12 days ago

INFJ
Capricorn

I feel like I might start. Less heartache and less of a financial loss coming from a divorce. Lol

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Ana Elli

12 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

Oh yes and no cheating 😄

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Audrey

12 days ago

INTJ
Capricorn

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The only time was in my dreams to help with a story I was writing. It didn't feel realistic, unfortunately.

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Ana Elli

12 days ago

INFP
Sagittarius

That's a very sweet experience, my imaginary lover helped me write a lot of stories

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