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You gotta be way more specific 😃

@Alex Without a very deep answer, more like a personal opinion... if you identify more with one point of view than the other...

@Isabela they both have many points of view that chage over the years. I like them both for some of their ideas and disluke them a lot for some other ideas. I've always been a fan of the stonecold hard approach of Freud (not that he always maintains that approach) but I like the mythical side of Jung and how he incorporates that in his theories without relying on them too much (but still esoteric people mistaken his work as an evidence of their beliefs). My personal opinion is I love that they have been working so hard to give us such a headstart in understanding human nature. The rest is more or less irrelevant.

@Alex Thanks for answering... it's been a while since I read about psychology, I think your post made me miss my classes...

@Isabela its never late to start again

I can tell you why some people are unwilling to commit to a long-term relationship. It because of immaturity. Around the ages 18 and 30 every person's main social goal should be (and in a way is!) to be able to create and maintain relationships and build real intimacy. People are not ready to take up on a responsibilities of maintaining a long-term relationship. Not only but in this exact period another very important goal is to try and experiment socially – just to widen our circle of interests and see what kind of people we actually like/dislike. So it doesn't make sense in the very beginning of this period to tie yourself up and risk screwing it up in the future, because if you haven't explored enough, the urge to do it will become bigger and this can lead to ugly breakups and possibly cheating.

@Alex makes sense but i was talking about guys late in their 20s like 29 or 30s. Anyway, Rick comment below made more sense that commitment is very expensive lol. And I appreciate him for being honest! 😁

@Rabia In the above-mentioned age range are people in their late 20s too🙂 Furthermore, if there is a fixation on a problem in any of the stages of psychosocial development, this stage can be stretched out for more years than the statistical avarage. Being afraid to commit has nothing do to with money. Not committing might, but being afraid to is a different topic entirely. Committing is not necessarily expensive – people can live together and not get married and still be as committed as a married couple. Also if the two people live together there will be one less rent to pay and less amount of bills to pay.

@Alex Got you Alex. So it means that I was approaching guys who don't come under statistical average and might even fixated on problem in their development stages!

@Rabia not at all. I can't know what type of guys you've been approaching. I just told you the most probable reason for people to be afraid of commitment. The "statistical avarage" was about the period of psychosocial development not about them as people. But yes there's a possibility that they have fixated on the this stage

@Alex alright!

xD was this in relation to the post just above this one when scrolling?