Persuasion and manipulation are often confused, but they are starkly different. While persuasion involves influencing others, manipulation is about #control. Manipulators are so adept that you might not even notice their influence. They don't just seek to sway you; they aim to dominate your decisions, often disguising their true intentions. In this post, I will explore eight behaviors that indicate you might be dealing with a master manipulator. 1) Twisting Words: A manipulator excels at taking your words and using them against you. They might twist your confidential admissions to guilt-trip you or subtly misrepresent your statements, making you feel wrong. This keeps you on the defensive, constantly questioning your memory and perceptions. If someone frequently distorts your words for their gain, be cautious, they're likely manipulating you. 2) Shifting Blame: Manipulators have a knack for making everything seem like your fault. Whether it's their failure to reply to a message or their tardiness, they’ll find a way to pin it on you. Initially, you might not notice this pattern, but eventually, you’ll recognize it as more than just poor #communication, it's manipulation. 3) Weaponizing Guilt: Guilt is a potent tool in a manipulator's arsenal. Instead of directly stating their desires, they make you feel guilty until you offer what they want. By exaggerating their suffering or playing the victim, they exploit our natural desire for social harmony. Soon, you are acting out of guilt rather than choice, precisely what they intend. 4) Using the Silent Treatment: Rather than addressing issues, manipulators might employ the silent treatment to exert control. They withdraw communication, making you anxious and eager to regain their approval. This tactic is more about power than conflict avoidance, shifting control in their favor and compelling you to apologize unnecessarily. 5) Undermining Your Confidence: One of the most harmful manipulative tactics is making you doubt yourself. By dismissing your concerns or contradicting your recollections, manipulators slowly erode your #confidence, making you reliant on them for validation. It's crucial to recognize that everyone deserves to #trust their thoughts without manipulation. 6) Insulting Under the Guise of Humor: Some manipulators hide insults behind #humor, making cutting remarks about your appearance or decisions and brushing it off as a #joke. This tactic makes you question your sensitivity and self-worth, which is precisely their goal. The more insecure you become, the easier you are to control. 7) Breaking Promises: Manipulators are skilled at making #promises they never intend to keep. They assure change and improvement, only to disappoint repeatedly. They offer excuses and convince you to give them another chance. Genuine commitment is shown through actions, not empty promises. 8) Creating a Sense of Debt: For manipulators, every action comes with strings attached. They remind you of past favors or sacrifices, creating an unspoken debt. This sense of obligation makes it difficult to refuse their demands, even at your expense. The Core of Manipulation: Control Manipulation is often subtle, woven into daily interactions, leaving you feeling uncertain and indebted. Unlike healthy persuasion, which respects autonomy, manipulation undermines it. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step to breaking free. Once you identify manipulation, its #power begins to diminish. #relationshipadvice #dating #relationship #friends #friendship #learning #intelligence #people #philosophy #relationships

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Love this!!! But how to actually get rid of a manipulator if the subconscious mind is attached to them? They make us hard to believe ourselves and our gut feelings.

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