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Why im lonely, I can't find a person who will be sincere with me, and have same intense as me, always only abusing but nothing real and deep, am I bad person ? I don't have anything to love me? I feel crushed so much inside 💔

Via · Accepted Answer

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Dan · Answer

Don't let them get to you. You just haven't met the right match to your energy. They wouldnt want to argue all the time. I have faith you will find someone.

Kay · Answer

Hello Inna.

I don't know you, but I canl very confidently tell you you're not a "bad person". You're a person who is currently in a bad emotional place.
And that's not because there is something fundamentally "wrong" with you. It's part of our human experience and we all have to go through those feelings in our lives. Though we all experience that in our own unique ways. And as painful as it may feel, it's part of your growth process. 
As Seneca wrote over two thousand years ago: "A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials". Keeping that one in mind helped me a lot going through some of tje "heavy polishing" sessions life had in store for me. I hope it can help you too.

As for "finding love" specifically, here's what I can honestly recommend. 
You can't control when the "right person" will walk into your life.
And you shouldn't worry too much about it. Because even if that person was into your life, he couldn't make you happy if you aren't already happy within.
No one else but you can make you feel happy, complete, at peace... Only you can work on yourself to be, one step at a time, a bit more happy, a bit more at peace, a bit more complete. And over time, you'll notice that your life has become much happier. You'll naturally feel much more love for the world, people and most importantly for yourself. And you'll notice that the world and people will tend to reflect that back to you, quite naturally.
And the people you'll attract in your life will tend to vibe in the same way. And will come someone, at some point, who you will be able to share that happiness with. He will not make you happy nor you will make him happy. You'll both be happy people inside, and freely be able to share that happiness together.

So live your sadness right now, aknowledge it, don't pretend it's not there. But in a corner of your mind, remember this will pass. And start to invest heavily in yourself. Focus on your inner well being. Be kind to yourself too. You deserve it. You're worth it. And that's not a selfish thing to do either. The best thing you can offer to the world is a happier, more (self-)loving, more peaceful and more fulfilled version of you.

All the best, fellow human ;)

𓄂𝕮𝖔𝖘𝖒𝖎𝖈𓆃 · Answer

Do you have any animal friends in your life 🤗🤔

Mario · Answer

I think alot of people are feeling that so I wouldn't be so hard on yourself

Oleg/אולג · Answer

Don't feel crushed inside, it's not worth it.

Seeta the Nosy Aunt🦝✨️ · Answer

I've been through this exact situation before, hopefully you'll make it🙏✨️💖🫂

A q u i l e s · Answer

Stop having expectations about people, no one will give you happiness, you must find it in your loneliness, life is so strange that only until you learn to be happy in solitude can it put you in the right person, and happiness is to be shared, not to receive it from anyone, because if we do not know how to be happy alone, we will not be able to provide it to others either.

Helena · Answer

I can feel your pain ♥️

K · Answer

Loneliness is the most common illness in our society. You’re not alone in this. Launch a survey and check how many feel the same. And I’m not talking only about romantic relationships. Friendships are the same. 
Learn to love yourself, to be happy with yourself, and choose who can get in your world

Rob · Answer

Sometimes you have to be patient and look outside to find someone and happiness.

Super King · Answer

I don't know what to say , but stay positive and try try and try hard to get the best person for you, have patience. I hope you will get the one whom you want .

Aleks · Answer

Your time will come...

H · Answer

Understandable 😊 I can relate to that. Until I stop wanting a relationship now 😂

Cody · Answer

I'm going through my own stuff as well.

I think most of us are just afraid of two things:

(1) Being Vulnerable and getting hurt
(2) Obligation vs. Expectation vs. Outcome

In my case it was always hard for me to be direct about my interest in someone until it was so strong I couldn't contain it.

Now what I'm going through has made me realize that unless I make my intention clear from the start, I'm setting myself up for heartbreak, or to potentially get played by someone.

Judging from your case, you were probably direct about your intention from the start but someone just lied to you... which is sadly a very common thing - and could still happen to me too if I am clear about what my intent is.

Lots of people are broken out there, and using tricks from dating coaches to either manipulate their partners into giving them what they desire while remaining emotionally independent enough to leave at the drop of a hat without being effected by it.

We're creating sociopaths and narcissists - it's destroying our relationships, and the Self-Esterm movement happens to be a contributing factor

B H · Answer

If you think that is bad, I am 30 years old and I never been in a relationship before, and probably never will. So at least you're not me.

Tinnie · Answer

I currently feel your pain too, and it's never been easy having those realisations to be hopeless about where you are right now, but I believe in your inner strength too. Don't let anyone make you vulnerable again 🤍

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Don't let them get to you. You just haven't met the right match to your energy. They wouldnt want to argue all the time. I have faith you will find someone.

Do you have any animal friends in your life 🤗🤔

I think alot of people are feeling that so I wouldn't be so hard on yourself

Don't feel crushed inside, it's not worth it.

I've been through this exact situation before, hopefully you'll make it🙏✨️💖🫂

I can feel your pain ♥️

Sometimes you have to be patient and look outside to find someone and happiness.

I don't know what to say , but stay positive and try try and try hard to get the best person for you, have patience. I hope you will get the one whom you want .

Your time will come...

Understandable 😊 I can relate to that. Until I stop wanting a relationship now 😂

If you think that is bad, I am 30 years old and I never been in a relationship before, and probably never will. So at least you're not me.

I currently feel your pain too, and it's never been easy having those realisations to be hopeless about where you are right now, but I believe in your inner strength too. Don't let anyone make you vulnerable again 🤍

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