Garry

Posted Sunday, February 27, 2022

2y

INFP

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Redefining what it means to be lonely

To quote Carl Jung "Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible." After being single for a very long time, I finally accepted the realization that being lonely isn't about being alone, but rather being with your own thoughts and not being available to communicate them effectively. In this sense you may think that someone who lives alone or has no one else is the most lonely, but it is even more lonesome to be surrounded by people who either will not bother to understand you or make you feel small or unimportant. Thus what are ways to combat this loneliness? To fix the problem we first have to look to ourselves and be willing to forgive ourselves. You are enough. Accept that we were born alone into this world and will most likely die alone, never being fully understood. Once you accept this in your heart find others to share your experiences with. Ask them questions and provide an outlet for their curiosity by answering theirs. This has the benefit of enriching your life and the lives of others. Talk to people and you may be pleasantly surprised to find that they have similar interests or something you dared to enjoy if only you had the opportunity. Please be kind to one another. I hope you'll understand and find your person one day that loves and accepts your quirkyness.