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Posted Wednesday, August 14, 2024
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Libra
The world has become a cesspool with reactive abuse
It's hard to tell if things are getting worse or if I'm just becoming more sensitive to how things really are. I have complex PTSD from growing up in a Christofascist doomsday cult where I was sexually and psychologically abused as a child. In trying to work on this life struggle, I found myself gravitating to a place where PTSD is taken more seriously: Colorado. And what I've found here are countless people who are repeating gross cycles of reactive abuse. Those who are most marginalized are most angry about being victims and then turning that anger into bad faith that leads to the abuse of others. It is a domino chain that keeps falling in circles and picking up more and more intensity. My own PTSD mind wants to put East Coast urban living on a pedestal, where assholery is casual, cathartic, inconsequential, and everyone is expected to have a thick skin, and no one needs to worry about vigilantism because whoever you had an argument on the street with, they likely aren't carrying a gun they're willing to use and you'll never see them again. Where I am now, if you make a misguided move in traffic, people will follow you home. Many trucks have been tuned specifically for "rolling coal" ie dumping black smog onto other cars for fun and misanthropy, despite how unhealthy and dangerous it can be. A lot of people have a lot of guns here and deal with constant intrusive thoughts about when to use them. Now that I'm here I understand why the Columbine shooting was something that happened here. I understand why this state had to become the leader for cannabis reform. How do we fix a problem where those who suffer from it the most refuse to acknowledge that they even have a problem because that would infer an uncomfortable vulnerability?
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Azrael
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Libra
I wish it were restricted to CO. Or that telling people to have thicker skin was an actual solution. Its not. Thats just creating a snowball avalanche no one seems to withstand long enough to stop doing as you say. Our country maybe even the world feels lile their repressed emotions are creating explosive episodes wherever they go… and if not that passive agressive gatekeeptinrg to prevent medical care or safe living arrangements for people they don’t deem worthy of safety. And the truth is that sarcasm/ verbal abuse is the baby step into physical. Thats the starting sign of repressed realities. And just like in a domestic abusive relationship, the verbal abuse is the door opener. Its just a matter of time before someone feels entitled to more physical harm. They may call something an accident… but victims know better. The only way out is being willing to feel it… but thats a personal choice. Until them people will keep doing this pain passing nonsense. Justifying it. Claiming people need to be tougher… instead of taking accountability for how their interactions are part of the equation. :( I think having cpstd lets us see it in others because we are willing to own the parts of it but I also think pressure is building just as the class divide widens. Survival mind wins the more pressure increases. (edited)
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Chris
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INFP
Pisces
I'm in Maine. Most people here drive pickup trucks and some of them are huge with decals across the back window with words like "Intimidator" and other aggressive things. I've never seen "rolling coal" on purpose, I don't think. But these people with thick skin, who want to intimidate others that they consider "less than" probably see themselves the way the world taught them to. Some people blame themselves for their life problems and some people pick targets outside themselves. I think if there is a fix, it will probably come disguised as some mass tragedy or great depression that forces more people to look inside themselves. Yikes. I don't want to be around for that.
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Trex
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Libra
Maybe too late to comment but I've been studying PTSD/C-PTSD for several months now (due to myself and others having it). Reading your post, it's not just things are getting "worse", you are super aware of the negative actions, behaviors, and effects in your area around you which is definitely making you react and feel a certain way. It is bringing up things that could be unresolved/hidden things that can be surfacing. It is sadly going to be bad and definitely something wrong anywhere you live and anywhere you go. What needs to be done is taking a step back not just hyper focusing on the terrible things going on, but instead trying to find someone, group of people, collective, etc who entirely gets what's going on and can find good things within the area. What is definitely going to help is some type of healing work that can help one shift from the thoughts of any danger, negativity, and paranoia into the focus and mindset of something better. You may need to be in an entire different area that is not as highly upsetting/mentally reactive. Also to answer that question, many are not comfortable with vulnerability and facing/admitting they have a problem because they believe their view point and perception is "just" and normal because they have witnessed it in others. To face and admit is to let go of the life they once knew. The only way to fix it is if more people collectively were vulnerable and honest with issues. Many aren't ready for that. They want to continue being a victim yet keeping up the pain that was instilled in them.
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