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What's more important: intelligence or kindness?

10/10/2025

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Arthur

Arthur

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Libra

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Cameron

Cameron

1mo

ENFJ

Aquarius

9
8

Kindness. You can have intelligence, just know how to be kind to others. Otherwise, you're Sheldon Cooper

Kindness. You can have intelligence, just know how to be kind to others. Otherwise, you're Sheldon Cooper

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lailaβ™‘

lailaβ™‘

1mo

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Gemini

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Kindness, compassion is a better indicator of true intelligence than what most modern societies consider intelligence to be imo

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Queen

Queen

1mo

INFJ

Libra

7
8

If you're intelligent you know to be kind to me πŸ˜‰

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Phoebe

Phoebe

1mo

INFJ

Aquarius

2
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Not everyone deserves kindness and you need intelligence to realize it.

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AΰΌ—

AΰΌ—

1mo

ENFJ

Sagittarius

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Kindness. Even though the two aren't exactly part of the same category.. one speaks on character and cannot always be learnt the other speaks on ability and can be developed. Not everyone can learn to be kind, which makes it rare. Intelligence, however, has different levels and can be worked on.

Kindness.

Even though the two aren't exactly part of the same category.. one speaks on character and cannot always be learnt the other speaks on ability and can be developed.

Not everyone can learn to be kind, which makes it rare.

Intelligence, however, has different levels and can be worked on.

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Matt

Matt

1mo

INFJ

Scorpio

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I would hope with intelligence comes a certain awareness of the human condition.

I would hope with intelligence comes a certain awareness of the human condition.

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πŸ”†πŸ₯¨πŸ”…KoffyπŸ”…πŸŒ°πŸ”†

πŸ”†πŸ₯¨πŸ”…KoffyπŸ”…πŸŒ°πŸ”†

1mo

ESFJ

Sagittarius

8
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Both are important factors .. Be kind and know how to be human is all we need... And with emotional intelligence you tend to be more cooperative, empathetic and thoughtful, fostering positive social outcomes and personal well-being... Cheers! πŸ€πŸŒŽπŸ’–βœ¨οΈπŸŒ»πŸ₯°πŸŒˆ (edited)

Both are important factors ..

Be kind and know how to be human is all we need... 

And with emotional intelligence you tend
to be more cooperative, empathetic and 
thoughtful, fostering positive social outcomes 
and personal well-being...

Cheers! πŸ€πŸŒŽπŸ’–βœ¨οΈπŸŒ»πŸ₯°πŸŒˆ

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Lovely

Lovely

1mo

ENFP

Pisces

Kindness. Not a mock version of it for peace either, real intentioned kindness meant for me.

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Alora

Alora

1mo

ENFP

Libra

Intelligence, being blindly kind is a fault I personally can not stand. When someone is intelligent enough to know when to be kind and when not to be is definitely desirable.

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She's The ONE

She's The ONE

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ESTP

Capricorn

Of course KINDNESS πŸ’–

Of course KINDNESS πŸ’–

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George

George

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INTJ

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Both to a certain level, but intelligence would be my pick. When you say a person has high emotional intelligence, don't you mean he's empathetic? Therefore he attained certain characteristics of a kind person? Of course there are a lot of highly intelligent people who are not kind, but it is a different kind of intelligence. When we're talking about pure kindness, only an example of Don Quijote comes to my mind at 2am, maybe Jesus, but I won't discuss him, as my knowledge of the Holy Bible is not broad for now, although The Good Samaritan was told by Jesus I think. I'm not trying to talk about God you people, just an example. So, La Mancha and the Samaritan are kind, right? In the case of Don Quijote, he's not really intelligent, is he? He is almost too pure of heart. An opposite of him would be a psychopath probably, but what if a psychopath is not intelligent? Those two variables seem to overlap, but I think that although you might be kind by heart, if you're intelligent enough, so that you understand the alternative of being kind, which is being malevolent, and still choose kindness, that's an example of kindness on a much deeper level, maybe that's the case of Jesus, but again, I'm only starting reading the book of the books. Take it as you will, being tempted by the dark side and still choosing the force, being through darkness and going towards light. Knowing nothing of the darkness, living only in the light, or vice versa can lead to disturbing consequences in life of a given individual. (edited)

Both to a certain level, but intelligence would be my pick. When you say a person has high emotional intelligence, don't you mean he's empathetic? Therefore he attained certain characteristics of a kind person? Of course there are a lot of highly intelligent people who are not kind, but it is a different kind of intelligence.
When we're talking about pure kindness, only an example of Don Quijote comes to my mind at 2am, maybe Jesus, but I won't discuss him, as my knowledge of the Holy Bible is not broad for now, although The Good Samaritan was told by Jesus I think. I'm not trying to talk about God you people, just an example. So, La Mancha and the Samaritan are kind, right? In the case of Don Quijote, he's not really intelligent, is he? He is almost too pure of heart. An opposite of him would be a psychopath probably, but what if a psychopath is not intelligent? Those two variables seem to overlap, but I think that although you might be kind by heart, if you're intelligent enough, so that you understand the alternative of being kind, which is being malevolent, and still choose kindness, that's an example of kindness on a much deeper level, maybe that's the case of Jesus, but again, I'm only starting reading the book of the books.
Take it as you will, being tempted by the dark side and still choosing the force, being through darkness and going towards light. Knowing nothing of the darkness, living only in the light, or vice versa can lead to disturbing consequences in life of a given individual.

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Jen

Jen

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INTP

Gemini

8
7

Both are not that important if you don’t have emotional intelligence. Kind where and when you need to be, show your brain capacity when it’s needed.

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LΓ©na

LΓ©na

1mo

ENFP

Libra

6
7

It's not one or the other, both are important

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Jann

Jann

1mo

ISFJ

Scorpio

8
7

Intelligence, because if you are smart, that includes choosing right from wrong in words and actions, especially being kind to others.❀

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Vivi

Vivi

1mo

INFJ

Aquarius

8
7

I like kind people who teach me things.

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Ben

Ben

1mo

ENTP

Leo

2
1

Kindness, because no matter how intelligent you are if you don't have kindness it's all useless, like how the bible says If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.

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γ‚’γƒΌγ‚·γƒΌ

γ‚’γƒΌγ‚·γƒΌ

1mo

INTJ

Leo

8
7

If you're intelligent then you are kind enough

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Travis

Travis

1mo

ISTJ

Leo

9
1

I might have to go with intelligence... Kindness is too often taken advantage of...

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Diana

Diana

1mo

ISFP

Pisces

kindness to me in a partner is more important

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Artha

Artha

1mo

ISTJ

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7

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Kan*^β€’^*

Kan*^β€’^*

1mo

ENFJ

Capricorn

9
1

Both

Both

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Cheree

Cheree

1mo

INTJ

Virgo

Intelligent people would be kind. There is no one or the other.

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Simar Grewal

Simar Grewal

1mo

INTP

Sagittarius

They both have thier own pros nd cons

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Kies

Kies

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INFJ

Virgo

Kindness fosters connection, intelligence fuels progress. Both are vital, but kindness makes life worth living. πŸ˜ŒπŸ˜‡

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Tia

Tia

1mo

ENTJ

Virgo

Intelligence come first

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Dandan; Not Not Dan.. The Real Dan. What is a Dan?

Dandan; Not Not Dan.. The Real Dan. What is a Dan?

1mo

INTJ

Capricorn

4
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Money. Then I can buy both.

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Simar Grewal

Simar Grewal

1mo

INTP

Sagittarius

Obviously both

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Juris

Juris

1mo

INFJ

Libra

πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

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Hanna

Hanna

1mo

INTJ

1
2

Both, why should i pick one if i can have two

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Shira

Shira

1mo

ESFP

Aries

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Beth

Beth

1mo

ENFJ

Scorpio

I think kindness wins over intelligence because I want someone to be kind over being smart

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Kas

Kas

1mo

INFJ

Sagittarius

6
7

Both.

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Emily

Emily

1mo

ENFJ

Pisces

7
6

Kindness

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J-KlampπŸ˜œπŸ’

J-KlampπŸ˜œπŸ’

1mo

INFJ

Sagittarius

6
7

Both are important. But, kindness is underrated.

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GΓ©ne

GΓ©ne

1mo

INTP

Gemini

Kindness, I'm attracted to intelligent men, but if he's not kind, I'm not interested.

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Dylan

Dylan

1mo

INFJ

Taurus

2
3

1 Award

Both are needed... Intelligence without kindness leads to being a sociopath. Kindness without intelligence leads to unintentional cruelty.

Both are needed... 

Intelligence without kindness leads to being a sociopath. 

Kindness without intelligence leads to unintentional cruelty.

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Ijah

Ijah

1mo

INFP

Gemini

you can’t have one without the other imo

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Ram

Ram

1mo

INTP

Gemini

9
1

Both..

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Lyndsey

Lyndsey

1mo

INFJ

6
7

Kindness for sure. I find it to be very valuable, because I can google answers to other stuff but it's harder to infuse your life with genuinely kind people 😁.

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