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Nori
1mo
ENFP
Leo
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1The answer is actually more psychological than romantic. Often, loving someone who can hurt you, depending on their behavior, stems from the brain's recognition of stress and trauma patterns. A subconscious part of the brain often leads people to seek romantic relationships similar to those with their caregivers (mothers/fathers), either to correct past situations or because it creates a false sense of "well-being" when the brain identifies it as something familiar. Being with someone you know will hurt you can be not only a sign of low self-esteem and past trauma, but also one of the many causes of toxic, violent relationships where the victim continues to justify the abuser, whether due to "false love," familiarity, or the constant adrenaline rush.
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Karen
1mo
INTJ
Pisces
Porque somos estúpidos
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Chinmay
1mo
INTJ
Leo
Because the heart is a terrible risk manager. It sees red flags and calls them butterflies.
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Chris Patch
1mo
INFJ
Aries
Cause we all crave love and when you feel unworthy you don't think your worth anyone else's love or time, so we cling desperately to what we have hoping we can fix it this time. Cause it's all we believe we are worth and that is all touch starved or love straved people need. It becomes an rush which corrodes its way to becoming addiction cause it's feels like there the only one who cares and you fall for the stick more and more often cause you want that carrot like you need air. Maybe I'm airing out grievances or maybe I'm just vulnerable.
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Jessica
1mo
INFP
Taurus
65
5Aun crees que puede salir diferente
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S∞úLFrïénD
1mo
INTP
Pisces
91
1By Vedic philosophy we are often governed by Rajas means turbulent passion & Tamas means delusion...these forces prioritize high-intensity chemistry over long-term stability This aligns with the brain's Dopaminergic Reward System...the unpredictability of a risky partner creates a dopamine spike similar to gambling making the emotional highs addictive Misalignment of the Koshas means the five sheaths or layers...We experience a glitch between our Manomaya Kosha means emotional/habitual mind & our Vijnanamaya Kosha means intellectual discernment...the emotional mind seeks what is familiar...even if that familiarity is rooted in past pain This is reflected in Attachment Theory...our amygdala may be conditioned to associate love with instability...leading us to subconsciously seek out stressful relationship dynamics because they feel familiar Vasanas means subconscious impressions act like stored data that filter our reality....We are entangled with people who match our internal frequency...often seeking mirrors for our own unhealed trauma Information theory suggests our brains filter vast amounts of data based on past patterns we literally see & tune into people who reinforce our existing subconscious beliefs about ourselves We fall for risky individuals when our Prefrontal Cortex (the modern seat of Viveka means discernment ) is overruled by habitual emotional loops...Growth involves moving from reactive attraction to conscious selection by balancing our internal data through self-observation🧘♀️🙏
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Naomi
1mo
INFJ
Sagittarius
67
7Unhealed patterns
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Nadia
1mo
ENFJ
Leo
32
2Because of the patterns formed during childhood
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Kivi
1mo
INFJ
Virgo
87
7Ich glaube...weil fast jeder Mensch unter bestimmten Bedingungen verletzen kann. Wirklich gefährlich wird es für mich erst dann...wenn jemand immer wieder aus demselben Muster heraus wehtut. Keine Verantwortung übernimmt und jeden Fehler zuverlässig dem anderen erkärt und zuschreibt und nie erkennt, dass nicht nur der Streit, sondern das eigene Muster die eigentliche Konstante ist.
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Phoebe
1mo
INFJ
Aquarius
21
1Trauma bond Familiarity Trying to right the wrongs Lust, limerence?🤔 For satisfying one's curiosity..😅 For some, being in a dysfunctional relationship is better than being single. Loneliness and aloneness can be overwhelming at times.. 🥲 (edited)
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liz
1mo
ENTP
Leo
67
7todas as pessoas correm o risco de machucar alguém, seja intencional ou não. acho que tem aqueles que acreditam que a pessoa pode tentar mudar para não magoar o outro lado, e também deve ter aqueles que pensam que apesar de alguns contras, o prós fazem valer a pena. deve ter mais um milhão de motivos, pessoas são complexas.
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𝕵ennie
1mo
ENFP
Sagittarius
45
5I think it's an issue of self worth amongst many reasons tbh, that's what happened to me 🥀 If you go for a person and you get a sense that something feels 'off' and know who's bad for you but still go on, then yeah, it's probably subconscious beliefs or attachment trauma. You might operate on delusion and overidealize that person for someone they're not, because maybe you're in love with them and it clouds your perception in some way.
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Una Mora
1mo
ENFJ
Taurus
En el caso de las chicas creo que es por dos razones principales; en primer lugar a veces nos queremos creer todas las mentiras que nos cuentan al inició. Y en segundo lugar porque tenemos complejos de salvadoras y lo vamos a cambiar, y ese chico se va a enamorar perdidamente del buen trato que le daré. Jajajajajaja... Nos terminamos mintiendo a nosotras mismas en ambos casos.
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