Being attracted to people can be very troublesome, sometimes.

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Not just in one way, but several.

It seems like when you see someone that attracts you, sometimes your body reacts and you can feel it when it goes through you, and as a guy you just can't let bodily reactions like those influence your behavior. All it takes is saying one simple thing to make a person uncomfortable, and the earth will remind you of your error in judgement, often in punishing ways.

It is troublesome because even if you feel what you feel, it's still not an excuse to bring it to the surface, depending on who you are. You're taking a risk when you make it known, and there are factors you can't easily pinpoint or know that might determine the reaction you get - it could be good, or it can even hurt your reputation depending on the environment or even bring undesired trouble your way.

Innumerable times I have ignored these things my body has told me on the principle that it was either a mistake or problematic to act on them, but I also know consciously that you can't simply bury those feelings each time, because it can do you harm and it is not a good way to live (speaking from experience).

It seems like either way your choice can potentially effect you or hurt you, and it is troubling just knowing that you have to choose between trusting what your body and heart tells you and putting your livelihood and peace of mind at risk, or what your mind tells you so that you can continue your life realitively in peace though troubled and on occasion drizzled with bouts of loneliness and unfullfilled desire.

I don't DM women that I see on a whim, even if I find them attractive or interesting. Very rarely do I compliment them openly, because I know the ones that usually draw my eye get it a lot all ready from other people Mostly, my behavior is to protect me, I guess.

Isma3een · Accepted Answer

The whole read is on point👌. And +1 on the last bit

Being attracted to people can be very troublesome, sometimes.

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