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Andy the Lancer

1 month ago

INTJ
Sagittarius

3w4

3

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Hate the players and the game

A good amount of us are here for dating. I got a match on Bumble and on Hinge this week. Both actually responded to me. It seemed like both were going great in the conversation...until. Until the Bumble match told me that she just broke up with her ex recently and wanted to meet a "nice guy". Red flag. I am no safe rebound. The hinge Match told me she has a kid (red flag) and the father is still in the picture (red flag). She also wanted a "nice guy" to take care of her and her kid. I am not a beta *female dog* I don't know what about me says that I will gladly accept you and take care of you while you probably get back with your ex. Experience told me I did the right thing and ended both of them. I hate that I tried the organic way for ten years with no luck, so I did online and being treated badly. I'm getting tired.

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steven

1 month ago

INTP
Gemini

women with kids are a red flag? I'd like more clarification on this from you. now i'm curious....I gotta make a poll now.

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Annamari

1 month ago

INFJ
Virgo

1w2

1

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He probably tried to reflect on the fact that girl want a lover and not a full time partner. She still with his boyfriend/husband, but she is bored with that same PP. In this case they are really huge red flags and I can relate with this.

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steven

1 month ago

INTP
Gemini

that's not how it reads... "The hinge Match told me she has a kid (red flag)..." not "The hinge Match told me she has a kid and the father is still in the picture (red flag)" and this makes me also wonder, are women who are co-parenting also red flags???? it could be a miscommunication as you say...

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Annamari

1 month ago

INFJ
Virgo

1w2

1

2

In my eyes both be a single mom and looking for a new partner is ok. That's also good if they can cooperate with the children's father, but I saw many examples IRL they are not worked in one way or another. Anyway if I'm breaking up with someone, I'm not going to share any picture we are together on it esp. not when I'm looking for partner.

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Andy the Lancer

1 month ago

INTJ
Sagittarius

3w4

3

4

Synopsis: Every single mother I dated put the kid first. The kid cannot do anything wrong. I get yelled at because I did not stop the kid from doing something they were not supposed to do, even though I was told i cannot do anything because they are not my kid. Second rate citizen I am not

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Sara

1 month ago

ENFP
Capricorn

I'm sorry, there are sooooo many people out there but unfortunately they are not all good matches!! 🙃🙃 It's just more special though when you finally click ✨

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Andy the Lancer

1 month ago

INTJ
Sagittarius

3w4

3

4

Yeah, I know. No need to apologize. My problem is luck I believe. I want to find someone organically irl, but not finding it when I go to places I like to go to (half price bookstore, disk replay, Barnes and noble). This tells me something is wrong with me, so I try to find it and change it. The problem is, if you read my bio, I can't go to the gym or I'll make someone very depressed because she cannot do most things now (sister and her husband worked out before my nephew came in the picture and it she had to go on more medication to calm her down during that time period). I'm probably fighting a losing battle. Thanks Sara for cheering me up ❤️ 🧡💛💚💜🤎🖤🤍❤️‍🩹

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Sara

1 month ago

ENFP
Capricorn
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Right, I did read your bio. Success is really sweet 🔥 you can overcome anything, where this is a will there's a way! So go for it and make your dreams come true. :)

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Andy the Lancer

1 month ago

INTJ
Sagittarius

3w4

3

4

Thanks Sara 😊 I'm not gonna give up...but I would like to see if I'm a catch as well 😉 If you need to vent or whatever, you can pm me anytime 😊

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Jen

1 month ago

ISFJ
Libra

1w9

1

9

Does organic work? And what does that mean?

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Andy the Lancer

1 month ago

INTJ
Sagittarius

3w4

3

4

Meeting in person, no online stuff

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