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Gidget Perez

4 days ago

INFJ
Taurus

2w1

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To or not too

Ok I'm asking for a friend if you get abused ( mentally, physically, emotionally, and phycologically) for years do you forgive that person ? Most would say forgive and forget . Only in this area I don't know if it is just that easy. Especially if kids are involved. She has left but is thinking he will change for her (honeymoon stage)

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Sarah

4 days ago

INFP
Pisces

After dealing with this myself, I always tell myself. Always forgive, but never forget. You need to learn from them mistakes too, so you can find a better person or learn to be around better people so that doesn't happen again. No one deserves to be abused and they NEVER change. Like the saying cheaters never stop cheating, abusers never stop abusing. Just think of they have a kid together, it isn't going to stop him or change him. It's just adding another person to get hurt by him

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Ariana

4 days ago

INTP
Sagittarius

9w1

9

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Just to add to your post, you don't forgive someone for their benefit. You do it for your own well being and peace of mind, so that you're able to move on. With that said I don't blame people who aren't able to forgive their abusers, I'm not sure I would.

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Gidget Perez

4 days ago

INFJ
Taurus

2w1

2

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Thank you

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Michelle

4 days ago

ENFP
Libra

U cannot forget

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Nick

4 days ago

ISFJ
Pisces

Nah if it's happened fo years I wouldn't believe a word that comes out of their mouth

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Gidget Perez

4 days ago

INFJ
Taurus

2w1

2

1

Thank you I know it is very hard on her . Especially after losing her babies for years

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4 days ago

INTJ
Aquarius

5w4

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Not at all. If a person can't find it in themselves to forgive, that's perfectly valid. Never forget, either — people like that don't change, they just get better at hiding what monsters they are; she has escaped and should take it as a chance to heal and move on. Going back is only providing him another chance to hurt her, and she may not have another opportunity to leave. Have her document all instances of abuse if children are involved, the more proof she has the better for her and her children. Because if she thinks they'll be exempt from his abuse, she is wrong.

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