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Sam
Posted Wednesday, May 31, 2023
10mo
INTP
Leo
Changing yourself to be more interesting?
Is it better to wait for the right person that likes you for who you are? Or is it better to get to the gym, bars, etc... and just ask girls on dates or what ever guys do these days?
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Caleb
10mo
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Cancer
So this is looking at it from a tricky angle If you dont mind I'll reword it a bit and go from there What is the purpose of changing yourself? So in would say that it's a little of both You want someone to accept you but you also have to be the kind of person that's going to make that easier What I mean is that when you decide to "change yourself" you ultimately have to do it for yourself, because if you dont then you will feel let down and betrayed by your efforts Take me for example, I need to hit the gym and work on my life...but I cant do that to "pick up chicks" because if I did that then the moment I failed to get a date then my motivation is gone Then theres the character aspect, who you are, this is even more important to do because of YOU not because of someone else, because if you do it for someone else then you arent changing who you are you are just forging a false persona that's not really you and sooner or later the mask will slip and you'll be seen as a liar So it's not SHOULD I ,but I would recommend viewing it as "do I want this for myself?" If you want to do some changing for the purpose of confidence or self image thats no problem..assuming you dont get egotistical about it (edited)
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Pauls
10mo
ISTP
Taurus
You're already blessed and look great, but if it's about you getting in better shape then by all means, can only help. As long as you're happy with the idea of course. But at the end of the day, it's your character that needs to be attractive, being charismatic, funny and actually looking out for the other persons interests, not just your own. Looks can only get you so far π§
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Louis-Philippe
10mo
INTP
Libra
I think the important part is for you to be proud of what you present to other people. So maybe for someone, they'd need to be muscular and in shape to be able to be proud of themselves. Maybe they can present that image in a comfortable way in a bar. Can you? After you become proud of that image, just do what you normally do in your life but show that image around, in whatever you do and look for positive reactions to it. These are the "right people", but more like "people worth investing your time and attention to". ....is what I've learned recently π€£
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