Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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To the people looking for othersopinion on Boo

Lately I have been scrolling through a lot of people posting selfies of themselves or asking questions on physical preferences as if they are looking for people’s validation. Here’s a tip: stop ✋worrying about this stuff, be nice, be honest, be open and be yourself and I promise you that you’ll naturally attract others! (And I know how it feels, I have the worst self esteem) You are not ugly; you are not trash; you are beautiful no matter what alright? No but seriously, I am chubby myself and I’ve always been honest about it and guess what? No one has ever made me feel rejected. These people do exist, and you’ll find a partner or else that loves your physical appearance whether you’re ultra skinny, fat or in between. 😌❤️ All tastes are in the nature and beauty is extremely subjective. Fun fact, most ppl that end up falling in love often find each other somewhat unattractive in the beginning. Love changes a lot of things and also perceptions so if the person loves you, then that’s all that matters. That’s all I had to say. Cheers. 🥂

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Delaney

3mo

ESFP
Capricorn

Lmao they're posting those for attention, they dont actually think that.

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

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Of course, but wanting attention sometimes has its roots into insecurities however some people are indeed only looking for that.

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gary

3mo

INFP
Libra

hello beautiful

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Viva🌌

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INTJ
Aries

4w5

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Yes! This exactly. And I always thought it needed to be said but how to not offend when saying it?! You did it right. This was kind, honest and thoughtful. 🌼 Nobody needs to ask to be rated here or to be complimented, no one needs to feel good based on little compliments from random strangers. That will never be a sustainable way to build self esteem. And it becomes a cycle of never enough. You can love yourself and see the good in yourself. Confidence and self love is very attractive all on its own ❤️

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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I just find it unfortunate that people choose to go that way when Boo has proven to be very different from Tinder and wholesome overall. It’d be unfortunate if it was to turn sour bc most people try to show off or get validated. :(

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Viva🌌

3mo

INTJ
Aries

4w5

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@Tanya Yes we wouldn't want this space to turn into something people just won't bother engaging in anymore.

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Bill

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INFP
Aries

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I'm ok if people like based on looks, but when they denegrate others because of their looks, I get mad.

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Mahlatse

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INFJ
Virgo

2w3

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Thank you. I always felt like the world is rejecting me, been struggling to make friends or even find a mate... I started doubting myself and even felt desperate... I hate desperation because it makes me do things that are not my character... I really hope I do find great people here. Am glad I came across your post

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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You’re very welcome ☺️ hope it gets better for you!

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Brandyn

3mo

ENFJ
Gemini

2w3

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I know the feeling, but there are so many great people out there as well, and to me, they're worth wading through all the rejection 😄

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Brandyn

3mo

ENFJ
Gemini

2w3

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Also, I'm more than happy to make a new friend. I love to hear everyone's story, and to learn from it, and hopefully help out if I can 😄

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Mahlatse

3mo

INFJ
Virgo

2w3

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@Brandyn That's it you my friend from today🥺

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Mahlatse

3mo

INFJ
Virgo

2w3

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@Tanya I already feel the love from you people. Thank you... as I add you to my list 😅

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Anna

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

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Steven

3mo

INFJ
Virgo

8w7

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For the love of all that is holy, someone finally said it besides me. Also, you have the best thing in the world, intelligence and to be honest you're rather easy on the eyes. So I think you have a winning combo.

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Tiana

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INTJ
Virgo

8w7

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Also looks are so temporary. And I'm not even talking about age. One can lose weight, gain weight, get muscle, lose a leg, you name it.

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

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Exactly! There are so many variables to take account of.

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Andrew

3mo

INTP
Aries

9w1

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Sometimes I wonder if I look good cause I hardly get compliments 🥲

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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You look just fine fam 😊

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Bo

3mo

INFJ
Sagittarius

6w7

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7

Great advice Tanya. Even if you think you're a little chubby, Meghan Trainor once said - I'm all about that base 👌

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Lucis 💎

3mo

ENFJ
Sagittarius

Another person says it and you're absolutely right! 👏🏾🌠 Used to have those issues years ago but taking time to love myself, I could care less about how other see me. Because I already know I'm a 10 out of 10! 🔥 Hope others realize it for themselves too, someday. 😎

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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7

That’s the spirit! 😃

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Lucis 💎

3mo

ENFJ
Sagittarius

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Brandyn

3mo

ENFJ
Gemini

2w3

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3

That's so very true, and beautiful...everyone should try to love who they are, there's only one of you 😄

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Robert E A Lapierre

3mo

INFP
Libra

Authentic is hard to get when you're honest

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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I disagree. If you’re honest then you don’t get disappointed. :)

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Thomas

3mo

ESFP
Libra

There is such a thing as positive commentary and self esteem. I'm not saying that people need constant reinforcement or physical validity, but it is nice when people notice that they've been getting to the gym, etc. Apps such as these are also heavily based on that first picture of you that is shown. It's rather superficial.

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William

3mo

INTP
Virgo

I agree

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Elisha

3mo

INFP
Sagittarius

1w2

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I’ll be honest, this is a reason I stopped posting in the social area so much. Pretty much everyone who posts selfies talking about looking ugly or whatever are literally never ugly. People posting questions about “do men/women like X thing?”… yes, some do. Obviously not everyone will like you, but it’s ignorant to think there’s no one who likes something. The constant need for attention and validation is off-putting. I hope, one day, these people will work on their self esteem and confidence.

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Tanya

3mo

ENTP
Cancer

6w7

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7

Agreed, it gets toxic quickly

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Elisha

3mo

INFP
Sagittarius

1w2

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@Tanya It actually starts making you question yourself because you see it so much. I’ve worked on my self esteem, so seeing it bothers me a bit. I just hope they know they’re good the way they are no matter what others say or don’t say.

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Morgan Paviol

3mo

INFJ
Leo

9w8

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Amen

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Tatiana

3mo

ISFJ
Pisces

6w7

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👍🏻👏🏻

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Sarah

1mo

ENFP
Gemini

7w8

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Agreeeeee 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

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Colorful

3mo

INFJ
Libra

3w4

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Cheerz

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