Kat

Posted Saturday, June 3, 2023

3mo

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One bit of advice id give to my younger self for relationship advice is... never trust a man tht cheats 3 times 五 Whats yours?

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P矇ter

3mo

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Why trust him after one time..?

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Mishka

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I feel like this advice falls more in the realm of common sense

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Kat

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You saying i dunt have common sense lol its called been blind to love

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Caleb

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@Kat no it's called willful ignorance... "Love is blind" is an excuse for ignoring red flags and hoping the person changes for no reason... If someone is with a person that's bad for them, that's on the person that stayed with the person knowing they were bad for them It's like drinking poison and saying "I dont know why I'm doing this, this stuff I going to make me sick" and still drinking it and having trust issues when someone else hands you a glass of water You put the poison in your life, not the next person To many people have this mindset and it just causes a lack of accountability, self reflection , and above all it just causes everyone else damage when they go and drag that damage into other relationships

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Mishka

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@Kat clearly it wasn't love just blind. Common sense

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Kat

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@Caleb ok so shall i rephrase it and say never get back with a man that cheats on you

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Caleb

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@Kat 1 nothing to do with my point about defending bad decisions with avoiding blame 2 staying with a cheater and getting back with one is the same thing but with extra steps 3 even in the comment you made to the other person you said "have you ever been in love and hoped for change" which is the EXACT mindset I just talked about You are claiming you felt love, but "love is blind" isnt love at all That's infatuation .... aka "puppy love" and it's based on an ideal of the person in your head and not who they actually are realistically To put it simply, you are basically saying that you were waiting for the guy to magically become who you imagined him to be in your head but then felt "betrayed" when he didnt....

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Kat

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@Caleb ur very opinionated when i was just stating the fact that the advice id give to my younger self is never get back with a man that cheats If you class a 16 year relationship and four kids together puppy love then fair enough

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Mishka

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@Kat can definitely class it still as puppy love. Quality vs quantity of time. Given a 3x cheater & that's just what you've found out about. If it's thrice you know of, then it's probably more. If he can get away with it what's stopping him from doing more?

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Kat

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@Mishka i understand tht and probably was more but only no to 3

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LunarLupis

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I would tell my younger self to fully support common sense. More than once i knew a guy wasn't good for me, but i kept thinking the longer i was around him the more he would be to liking me cuz i knew i was a good person. Flawed, but good. Unfortunately that was overestimating the guy and thinking too highly of how being a good person can impact someone else. Being a good person does not impact unless the person wants that impact. If i just listened to my common sense instead of overestimating myself and the guy i could have saved myself a lot of pain in my life. Lots of pain.

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Nathaniel

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3 times?! You shouldnt even been entertaining them if they cheated period!

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Kat

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I love how you men give this advice but are you actually going to sit there and say uve never looked at another woman while been in a relationship or had thoughts about it

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Nathaniel

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@Kat Firstly this advice is common sense, especially a grown, mature woman like yourself. Secondly Ive never had a relationship, but Im Damn sure outta respect for my woman and myself, I would never look towards another woman in that way. Youre speaking like its hard stay faithful, and its sad that your mindset is like that, I hope that youll overcome that mindset someday :)

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