Rachel

Posted March 31, 2023

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A pet peeve of women on dating apps

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Sha

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My favorite 😆 Him: how are you? Me: Hi. I'm well. Meditation was stellar, ate clean, & drank a lil red wine while watching stand-up comedy. How are you? Him: good. Just got off work. Ummm, I gave you three things to acknowledge & inquire about & you close it off with good? Dafuq? 95% of interactions.

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Rachel

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Yepppp 💯

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Dana

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Yep 😁

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Mike

2mo

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Funny because this is usually my experience. It has lead me to be less conversational because why would I put in the effort to receive none in turn.

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Sha

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@Mike I still try. Everyone is different. Won't know who to filter out otherwise. I think online dating is an endurance sport. You reserve the sprinting for later. & I've experienced online dating burnout. When I start thinking "damn, are there no good men out there?" it's time to take a break. There are good men out there. However, most interactions test my patience & this is def a pet peeve.

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Rachel

2mo

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@Mike some of us match the energy and are worth the effort. Promise.

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Jake

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For real, this is so infuriating. I always try and give something to carry the conversation forward, even if it's totally run dry and I need a minute to come up with something. I expect more than what you would text your mom because you're annoyed she's interrupting your show.

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Dana

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Ya? Usually they just:" hi...hmmm...so, entertain me, gorgeous, as soon you are on dating app...I'm too lazy to read profiles"))

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Switzee

2mo

INTJ
Taurus

They just ask about your height or age🙄

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Rachel

2mo

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Aries

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😬😂 right, like we are way past the days of a/s/l

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Steve

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Usally, I experience the same thing with women. I send lengthy, worthwhile messages that try to keep conversations going, but all they say is two-word replies (when they are the ones who liked ME...I didn't swipe right on them first). I can't work with that. Online dating is full of double-standards. Dating in general is an exhausting chore, which is why I stopped dating years a long time ago (remarriage isn't an option for me anyway). But I'm all for communication. I just wish others would've read MY profile and also been willing to engage in meaningful conversation. Not waste my time.🙄

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Rachel

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It is quite exhausting and frustrating and I'm sorry... Sometimes I take breaks and delete all the dating apps, or apps like these just for a break.

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Fabio

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Really felt ya. But I wouldn't be mad if people didn't read my profile here in Boo, as the no-character-limit rule is kind of a... an issue for me. 😂

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Lael

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Libra

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Some like the mystery....besides if you learn everything before you meet, what could you talk about in Reality. Leave some excitment ladies 😄

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Rachel

2mo

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Touche But we also like to talk before meeting...

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Lael

2mo

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@Rachel if a man shys away, show interest.....sometimes it takes a voice. If a man is here, it's because he can be more open and real 😉

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Sha

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As an INFJ I thought you'd get this. Poor conversation skills with a lack of active listening isn't mysterious. It's a red flag 😆

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Lael

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@Sha Not all the time....some people don't like to waste their words on line. Honestly 😄 people should meet to know one another. Question... Did your grandparents meet or talk on line😄

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Sha

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@Lael that's lazy. If this is the only medium until video chat then that's a poor excuse. I meet men fast. I filter through the lazy & schedule a vid chat with men who effectively communicate within a couple-few days. Vid chat then plan a date within the first week of contact. If this is how you operate on Dating apps you'll need luck on your side in a major way.

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Lael

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Libra

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@Sha no luck needed....I don't mind being single after a 30yr Relationship/marriage 😉

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Sha

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@Lael seems otherwise 😆

seems otherwise 😆

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Lael

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@Sha bet you were not left by the one you loved while your mother died 😉

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Rachel

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@Lael that's your choice than but good woman don't want to meet up with a stranger. We do need some type of conversation to see if a guy is the type of guy we want to meet.

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Rachel

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@Lael our grandparents weren't meeting strangers from the internet, either.

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Sha

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@Lael this interaction isn't going in a healthy direction. I'm going to disengage.

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Mike

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@Sha I mean it went that direction because you lead it there homie.

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Jordan

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I'm usually the one initiating the whole conversation and they don't put any effort. So I usually always end up deleting them

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Rachel

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Well thank you for being one of the good ones...

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Sha

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I love that you're putting in effort & recognizing your worth when choosing to delete.

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Jake

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ISTJ
Capricorn

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Too true. Their profiles are always like "ask me." And when you try to have a conversation they can barely give you half a sentence. What is up with that? Is it really that rare for somebody to be on these apps and have a personality more interesting than a 2 by 4? I want to talk about our passions and goals and really enjoy chatting and make some connections. Stop making me do all the work and expecting the world while you can't even bring yourself to pay attention. I would rather they just not message at all.

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Fabio

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I guess that's a pet peeve of both women and men, lady :| As a man, I'd like to propose a deal: why don't we, both men and women, interact AND take the initiative as well (I personally find that attractive, dunno about other guys)?

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Rachel

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🤝 deal

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Stan

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So ladies. How many times have you ignored a thoughtful, well thought out message or sent a basic response to one? 😏

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Rachel

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Never. Not me.

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Sha

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Not me.

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Stan

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@Rachel @Sha Then you both are two of the good ones. I rarely send a basic message, but when I do... it's because the thoughtful ones have been ignored 😂. But I have the rule - if they wanted to (insert your needs) they would. And also don't b afraid to call them out. "Bro you don't communicate well." See if that changes them.

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Sha

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@Stan fair. I'm pretty vocal.

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Rachel

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@Stan message us. we can prove it and are worth the coins 😌😂🧐

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Stan

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@Rachel @Sha I'm sure you both are worth way more than coins ❤️.

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Rachel

2mo

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@Stan thanks for being one of the good ones, sir. May you find a woman who's worthy of you and whatever you're looking for!

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Stan

2mo

ISFJ
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@Rachel you're sweet. It is exhausting though. I deleted all other dating apps 😅. Not many people on here nearby.

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Tony

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Why? 😎🤣

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Michael

2mo

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Virgo

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No comment!!😂🤣😂🤣

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Rachel

2mo

ENFP
Aries

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😬😂😂😂

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Rachel

2mo

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@Sha I'm commenting now in case I need backup 😂

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Deven

2mo

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Lady, is more often the opposite , at least by my experience

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ShadowsFortune

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Rachel

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1. Where have you been? 2. I have no idea how anything is supposed to work 🫣😬

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ShadowsFortune

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Jimmy

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Lol Its most likely mem ask questions and ladies give one word replies.

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Rachel

2mo

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Id strongly disagree

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Yunus_Soul

2mo

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You can write a whole paragraph and barely get any effort out the other person or left on read, even though you ask good questions and give great answers. This one women that I unmatched days ago because she only gave me two word answers said " why should I give more details, am I at a psychiatrist? 😂 unmatched her quick. If only one person is putting in effort, the conversation isn't really going anywhere.

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Rudi

2mo

INFJ
Aries

Maybe you, girls, just interacted with the less talkative one. Why not test with Aaron or Deven or name it 😁 "Generalization is the curse of our time" 😉

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Martín

2mo

INFJ
Pisces

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Unless as soon as you're finished answering and ask her opinion on something she just keeps asking something else

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Tanuj Mohindra

2mo

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Without A Doubt. It Always Takes Two To Tango. It's All About Caring And Sharing

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