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Jonah

1 month ago

INFJ
Scorpio

5w6

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Breaking the ice

Any advice for breaking the ice with the first message? Once a conversation is started I am fine but it's the initial first message I struggle with. I never know what to say. I want to say something to catch their attention but don't know what that should be.

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Shan Maria

1 month ago

INTJ
Taurus

5w6

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Try not to start of with something like "hi"...have a look at their bio and the rest of their profile and mention something from their profile instead, it's much better than the "Hi" or "Wuu2" stuff

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Riz Flava

1 month ago

ISTP
Cancer

What about start from the interest of the people that you want to chat with..

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Alana

1 month ago

ESTJ
Leo

Thank you. You don't really have to try so hard. We have profiles for a reason, READ THEM! I don't respond to people who start with Hi or don't ask questions. I like talking with people, but I'm not gonna carry a conversation.

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Riz Flava

1 month ago

ISTP
Cancer

Yeah you are right. Read profile is a must 🤭👍🏻

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Bruce

1 month ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Read their bio/profile and ask a question based on that

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Lina

1 month ago

INTJ
Pisces

I normally read the whole profile and mention something from it that I can relate to. One's bio mentioned they liked Pokémon and I slapped him with, "I have a real life Pokémon. My dog's nickname is Bobasaur. Hi, I'm Lina by the way." I thought it was funny and he got a kick out of it as well. Lol.

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Alana

1 month ago

ESTJ
Leo

Lol That's cute! Do you dress them up as Pokemon? I loved putting sweaters on my dog!

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Jamie

1 month ago

ENFP
Leo

8w7

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Depends what your intentions are for sure..if you want just a screw you can come on any way that you would at a bar. If youre looking for a conversation, a friend or a foundation, then ya, use what you know and are interested in from their profile. Or just simply state what youre looking for and if it is a mutual goal! I love straightforward, clear and concise communication.

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James

1 month ago

ENFJ
Leo

Something they're interested in, memes, cute, or funny. "What's your favorite color" is my go to :D

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Telvar Hakim

1 month ago

INTJ
Aquarius

7w8

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Shout out a compliment, while looking directly in their eyes.

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Heather

1 month ago

ESFJ
Taurus

6w5

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Im lame.... alwaya... hi, how are you lol If they bother to respond I go from there...

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Linda

1 month ago

ESFJ
Virgo

Read the bio. Keep it simple and relatable and open ended.

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TheAristocrat

1 month ago

INTJ
Aquarius

5w4

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You could try looking at their posts or comments and see if they commented on anything you may want to ask more about.

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1 month ago

ENFP
Aquarius

Hi, is good enough.

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Niki

1 month ago

INTP
Taurus

'Do you know Capybara?'

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Cyanide78

1 month ago

INFJ
Virgo

8w9

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"HI I'm _____ from______, nice to meet you. Wanna chat?" Try that

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Sol-leks

1 month ago

ISTJ
Aquarius

1w9

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Choose something from their profile to bring up. Maybe something from a picture or a hobby mentioned. For example, the scarf I am wearing in my profile picture. If you messaged me, ask me about it. Ask if I bought it at a store. You would then discover I made it myself with my hobby of crochet. That shows general interest as well as compliments something I've made.

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Mirko

1 month ago

ESFP
Sagittarius

Why do you want to catch their attention?

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