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Posted Thursday, January 30, 2025
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7 Things About Yourself You Should Never Reveal to Other People
For many, wearing one's heart on their sleeve is a natural way of being. They are: a) Candid to a fault b) An open book to anyone who asks c) Spilling secrets like a broken dam d) Essentially, a psychologist's dream This radical #honesty can often feel like a strength. However, it may lead to #feelings of being misunderstood and isolated, even when sharing oneself with the world. Over time, it becomes evident that revealing too much about oneself can be a barrier to forging deep connections. Psychology offers insights into why this happens. Here are seven insights from #psychology that can help create healthier boundaries and foster more meaningful relationships. 1) Your Deepest Insecurities: While it’s important to discuss feelings, revealing your deepest insecurities to just anyone can be detrimental. Psychology suggests that sharing deep-seated insecurities indiscriminately can lead others to see you as less confident and may make you a target for manipulation. It is crucial to entrust these vulnerabilities only to those who have earned your #trust. A more confident demeanor is healthier when interacting with others. If you tend to overshare, try this simple exercise: before divulging a personal insecurity, pause and ask yourself, "Has this person earned my trust?" This question can help establish stronger boundaries and foster healthier #relationships. 2) Your Past Resentments: Holding onto grudges and frequently sharing stories of past wrongs can trap you in a loop of negativity and victimhood. As a known psychologist said, “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” By focusing on the present and future instead of past grievances, you can redefine yourself and improve how others perceive you. 3) Your Financial Situation: Discussing financial struggles openly can create an impression of instability and make others uncomfortable. Money is often a sensitive topic. It’s more beneficial to keep financial matters to yourself or discuss them only with those directly involved, like a business partner or financial advisor. This approach encourages finding solutions rather than dwelling on problems. 4) Your Personal Life Details: While being open and transparent can be positive, oversharing personal #life details can lead to stress and unintended consequences. A study by the University of Edinburgh found that people who share extensively about their personal lives report higher levels of stress. By being selective about what personal details to share and with whom, you can reduce stress and increase overall well-being. 5) Your Good Deeds: Talking about good deeds can sometimes come off as self-promotion rather than genuine altruism. By letting actions speak for themselves and refraining from broadcasting them, people may appreciate your #kindness more, as it doesn’t appear as though you’re seeking praise or recognition. 6) Your Ambitious Plans: Sharing ambitious plans can lead to seeking validation from others. When reactions aren't enthusiastic, it can deflate motivation. Instead, keeping plans closer to the chest and trusting personal instincts and judgment can build resilience and independence. This approach makes #success even sweeter when achieved. 7) Your Achievements: While sharing achievements can inspire and boost self-esteem, there’s a fine line between sharing and boasting. By allowing others to discover your achievements organically, you can avoid unintended negative responses. This approach can have a surprisingly #positive impact. Conclusion Being open can foster deep connections and promote honest communication, but it's important to have boundaries. Evaluate what you reveal to others, as oversharing can include discussing insecurities, resentments, financial situations, personal life details, good deeds, ambitious plans, or achievements. Practice the art of selective sharing to maintain a healthy balance between openness and privacy. Remember, good communication is as much about listening as it is about sharing, and respecting the comfort and boundaries of others is essential. #relationship #boo #boofriend #friends #dating #relationship #philosophy #learning #people #friendship #intelligence #communication
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This will help with better boundary assignments and establishment. Saving this.
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Great post!
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Great post! Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏻💯🙌 and I think I dm’ed you on accident 😂
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Love this post.
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