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Shari

13 days ago

INFP
Gemini
After 15 years

So I'm hoping I can get some advice. After 15 years of being in a relationship with another, where do you start finding out how to be in a relationship with yourself. I truly sit here and wonder what in the world I'm meant to do.

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Dan

13 days ago

ENFJ
Capricorn

Hi Shari. It's funny when I got divorced I finally realized that I was over it when a friend said to me "fun Dan is back!!" Up until that point I didn't even realize that I had given up so much of what made me happy to be in my marriage - essentially what made me, me. It's going to take a little time and what you should do is go back to doing the things that you know definitely make you happy be it video games like in my case, or knitting or picking apples or whatever it may be LOL. Just start doing those things again and before you know it you'll become the person that you were when you met your person 15 years ago the thing that made them want to be with you in the first place.

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Shari

13 days ago

INFP
Gemini

Thanks Dan! I guess those are questions I have to answer to because I don't know what that was haha.

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Dan

13 days ago

ENFJ
Capricorn

Yeah! You'll figure it out and if not you'll find new things that you like!

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Josh

13 days ago

INFP
Taurus

6w7

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Yeah with marriage you falls by the wayside for we. It redefines who we are, the beauty of this situation is complete freedom to redefine yourself. Granted it's a bit of an overdose of freedom at the beginning. The number one thing I would say is give yourself time. Don't do anything because "it's been long enough", " or because "you should". Life is on your terms now, so move at your own pace. Best of luck to you Ma'am in deciding who the new you is gonna be 🙂

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Shari

13 days ago

INFP
Gemini

Thankyou Josh! It's all very overwhelming and the overdose of freedom is very scary but baby steps and one day at a time as everyone says.

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Josh

13 days ago

INFP
Taurus

6w7

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Yeah that Rome wasn't built in a day thing is as true as it gets. Just give yourself the grace that you give the other people you love.

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