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Christopher
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I have the same criteria for a partner regardless of age. Am I attracted to you, do we get along mentally, do we have similar life goals/requirements, and are we both ready and able to be in a relationship? If the answer is yes to all then I'm ready to go. I really don't care about age at all. You could be 18 or 108. You could be from another planet for all I care. Some peoplejudge people in relationships with large age differences but I think that's shortsighted. Not every older person dating a younger person is a manipulator, and not every younger person dating an older person is a gold-digger or has mommy/daddy issues.
I know people my age, older than me, and younger than me who I am attracted to and are on the same maturityplane as me. There are some behaviors that change across the ages, but they don't have to. For example I was dating a woman in her late 40s, I was in my early 20s. I liked to (and still do) go dancing at clubs. She said she was too old for that etc. but eventually she came around and we went out together and we both had a really goodtime. Likewise, she had kids and would vent to me about arguments with her ex, visitation issues, she'd tell me about her daughterthinking about colleges to go to, and a bunch of things I had no experience in. Yet I was still able to holdconversation with her about it just fine and understand her point of view.
As far as being at different stages of life, that only matters to me if it means we want different types of relationships. But that is not exclusive to age whatsoever. All the other things can be worked on and are person dependent. A younger person can be matureenough to hangout with an older person (I have been mistaken for being older than I am since I was 15) and an older person can still enjoy and relate to younger person things. What is more important is willingness to grow together and seeing those times you don't understand a cultural reference or some such as an opportunity to learn something cool instead of a redflag.
My answer is a little all over the place but I think you get my point. That's how I see age differences and it pisses me off when people judge others for being in relationships with age differences. Not saying that's you.
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Jen
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No I totally wouldn't judge. I'm just honestlycurious. I was in a ten year relationship with someone13 years older than me. Not my choice - he initially lied about his age and I just went with it. But after a bit and all he did was talk about retirement and I was so far from it did i see the conflicts of different life stages. My view has zero to do with maturity or any of that.
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Christopher
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@Jen I wasn't bothered by that in my own situation but every relationship is going to be different. My ex and I had different life stages but it wasn't ever a bother to me.
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Nicola
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When I was 15 almost 16 I got into a relationship with a 28 year old. I was impressed by how mature he was and I was suprised that someone actually liked me. The relationship was a hugemistake he cheated alot and eventually dumped me for someone else. I don't think anyone under 20 should get into a super serious relationship that stops them having fun and seeing friends. Now I'm 31 and I don't think I could ever go out with anyone younger than me
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Ishaan
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Personally, i don't like a really big age gap like 10 years but it all depends on the maturity level and intellect of both persons. An intellectualmayfall for other intellectual, irrespective of their age.
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Jason
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I have 2 friends that have a large age gap. He is 53 and she is 24. I think it's weird. I was 23 when I met my last girl. She was 33. Even that age difference has challenges. But I think something like 55 and 65 is probably a lot easier. Because both people have matured and are prettymuch just adding to what they know at that point. I find older women attractive. Intelligence and wisdom are attractive to me.
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Jen
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What till you get to 50
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Tania
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I have even been legitimately interested in women 20 years older than me, but even if this age range is that large, I can't seem to be able to find someone to be with.
I don't think age is really important if there's a solid and healthyconnection between both parts.
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Jen
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The problem with an 18 year old is they just might be lying.
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Love is love. As long as both people are over 18 I have no problem. I am into more older women but at the same time if I want a younger woman I would go a year younger or two. That's my hard limit. I've see people who are literally 18 and dating a 60+ year old and I see no pro with it. Love is love as long as it's legal
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Jen
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Why would you want to date someone decades older than you?
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@Jen Love is love I guess. My friend just turned 19 a few weeks ago and is going to Marry a 65 year old lady.
I personally have only dated older women.
I believe because I've lived with a bunch of them, I became mature earlier so its difficult for me to be with a girl younger than me as our wants & principles are unlikely to align.
With an older woman it's less likely she'll want drama just to keep the relationship interesting, which is what a minority of girls do if they're haven't got many interests 😅 but that's just what I've noticed.
I prefer a woman I can teach and learn from because thats my love language 😁💕
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Posted Tuesday, March 15, 2022
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Age Differences
I personally think this is really based on where you are in life. There are arguments for a 26 year old not dating an 18 year old and also a 52 year old not dating a 65 year old. Both those to me seem a bit about where you are in life and how that is different from a potential mate. I would love to hear your thoughts.
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I have the same criteria for a partner regardless of age. Am I attracted to you, do we get along mentally, do we have similar life goals/requirements, and are we both ready and able to be in a relationship? If the answer is yes to all then I'm ready to go. I really don't care about age at all. You could be 18 or 108. You could be from another planet for all I care. Some people judge people in relationships with large age differences but I think that's shortsighted. Not every older person dating a younger person is a manipulator, and not every younger person dating an older person is a gold-digger or has mommy/daddy issues. I know people my age, older than me, and younger than me who I am attracted to and are on the same maturity plane as me. There are some behaviors that change across the ages, but they don't have to. For example I was dating a woman in her late 40s, I was in my early 20s. I liked to (and still do) go dancing at clubs. She said she was too old for that etc. but eventually she came around and we went out together and we both had a really good time. Likewise, she had kids and would vent to me about arguments with her ex, visitation issues, she'd tell me about her daughter thinking about colleges to go to, and a bunch of things I had no experience in. Yet I was still able to hold conversation with her about it just fine and understand her point of view. As far as being at different stages of life, that only matters to me if it means we want different types of relationships. But that is not exclusive to age whatsoever. All the other things can be worked on and are person dependent. A younger person can be mature enough to hangout with an older person (I have been mistaken for being older than I am since I was 15) and an older person can still enjoy and relate to younger person things. What is more important is willingness to grow together and seeing those times you don't understand a cultural reference or some such as an opportunity to learn something cool instead of a red flag. My answer is a little all over the place but I think you get my point. That's how I see age differences and it pisses me off when people judge others for being in relationships with age differences. Not saying that's you.
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No I totally wouldn't judge. I'm just honestly curious. I was in a ten year relationship with someone 13 years older than me. Not my choice - he initially lied about his age and I just went with it. But after a bit and all he did was talk about retirement and I was so far from it did i see the conflicts of different life stages. My view has zero to do with maturity or any of that.
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@Jen I wasn't bothered by that in my own situation but every relationship is going to be different. My ex and I had different life stages but it wasn't ever a bother to me.
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When I was 15 almost 16 I got into a relationship with a 28 year old. I was impressed by how mature he was and I was suprised that someone actually liked me. The relationship was a huge mistake he cheated alot and eventually dumped me for someone else. I don't think anyone under 20 should get into a super serious relationship that stops them having fun and seeing friends. Now I'm 31 and I don't think I could ever go out with anyone younger than me
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1y
5w4
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Personally, i don't like a really big age gap like 10 years but it all depends on the maturity level and intellect of both persons. An intellectual may fall for other intellectual, irrespective of their age.
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1y
I have 2 friends that have a large age gap. He is 53 and she is 24. I think it's weird. I was 23 when I met my last girl. She was 33. Even that age difference has challenges. But I think something like 55 and 65 is probably a lot easier. Because both people have matured and are pretty much just adding to what they know at that point. I find older women attractive. Intelligence and wisdom are attractive to me.
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What till you get to 50
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I have even been legitimately interested in women 20 years older than me, but even if this age range is that large, I can't seem to be able to find someone to be with. I don't think age is really important if there's a solid and healthy connection between both parts.
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The problem with an 18 year old is they just might be lying.
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Love is love. As long as both people are over 18 I have no problem. I am into more older women but at the same time if I want a younger woman I would go a year younger or two. That's my hard limit. I've see people who are literally 18 and dating a 60+ year old and I see no pro with it. Love is love as long as it's legal
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Why would you want to date someone decades older than you?
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@Jen Love is love I guess. My friend just turned 19 a few weeks ago and is going to Marry a 65 year old lady.
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I understand. Some people mature quicker than others and experiences sometimes outweigh knowledge.
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I personally have only dated older women. I believe because I've lived with a bunch of them, I became mature earlier so its difficult for me to be with a girl younger than me as our wants & principles are unlikely to align. With an older woman it's less likely she'll want drama just to keep the relationship interesting, which is what a minority of girls do if they're haven't got many interests 😅 but that's just what I've noticed. I prefer a woman I can teach and learn from because thats my love language 😁💕
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