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Mike
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INTJ
Capricorn
Has a pulse and is breathing. 🎵
(Sorry. Couldn’t resist. 😅)
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Angie
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Scorpio
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Tonya
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Gemini
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Johan
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INTP
Pisces
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Physical attraction can carry a date a long way for me, but I guess the deciding factor would be their intelligence. It's nicebeing able to talk about controversial/complex things without someone being dismissive or judgemental because of their inability to expand their worldview.
They don't necessarily need to be open, but they need to have the capacity for understanding. If they can't even understand, then I feellike I'm constantly having to baby them in terms of conversationtopics to keep them in a good/neutral mood. In the end, it sort of feels like I'm talking to a child. And I don't want to date a child.
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Angie
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INFP
Scorpio
💯 Feels about avoiding dating a baby. I think that being open to other's views is the first step to understanding. But there are so many other factors too. Thx for responding!
If we are already going to physicallymeet on a date, then I most likely look for a general openess, a warm attitude, and the genuiness of their smile when I/they show up.
If scrolling through Boo, then I look for similar morals and values in their Bio, and maybe look at a fewrecent posts.
Am I the only one who has the Miss Congeniality quoterunning through my head?
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Angie
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INFP
Scorpio
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Patrick
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INTJ
Pisces
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Everyone has different preferences, and I'm sure many people will use this as an opportunity to list them off.
I don't really have any idealvision for how my dates look nor act
I only really care that they are unique, standout from a crowd, and are interested in me as much as I am in them
For this reason I tend to be most attracted to the extremes - very tall or very short; very thin or very fat; very loud or very quiet; very smart or very dim; very feminine or very masculine; etc etc
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Angie
1y
INFP
Scorpio
Ooooh that's some interesting food for thought, thanks for sharing! :)
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Taquita
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INTJ
Gemini
Being a demisexual as well, if they can handle being exclusive friends first.
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Appledapple
1y
INFJ
Aquarius
1w2
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I wasn't looking but I certainly found one accidentally 🤣
Their heart first. I need to know that every decision you make has good intentions behind them. We dont always have to agree. Second their hobbies. We dont have to like or do everything together but its nice to have a few things in common.
At the very least, being able to tolerate my weirdness. At the very best, joining in and encouraging it.
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INTP
Sagittarius
1w9
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The words you used to ask the question show a lot of thought. I'll start by answering those.
Vulnerability is important. I would prefer my date isn't jaded from past experience and has a giant emotional wall that prevents any future prospects from gettingclose to them. That defeats the purpose of dating. Every new person is a new experience and therefore you should notjudge them based on your pastexperiences.
Career and income have never been something I have cared for. All I care about is whether I have chemistry with them.
Of couse they should be chill. You don't want your date being irked by every little thing that happens to them.
Openess is also an important factor, though maybe not right away. Everyone has things they like to keep to themselves until they feel comfortableenough to share it. However if you're going into a relationship with that person, there should be nosecrets.
Physique is also important for me. I seemyself as fit and try to live an activelifestyle. I don't want a partner that doesn't want to live a similar lifestyle to me. It's also much more attractive to be fit than not. I would not goout of my way to try and change someone either. Obese people have to get into the mentality themselves. And usually if a person tells someone to lose weight, especially in a relationship, many people consider it toxic. I have no time for that lol.
Hair colour doesn't matter too much to me unless they have like a neon colour in which case I'm not as attracted.
Lastly, my own answer for your question... I look for chemistry in a date. Chemistry to me is having similarities. Similar views, interests, lifegoals (where they see themselves 20 years down the road), sense of humor and how we communicate. Those are the aspects of a relationship that really bind people together and make them enjoy their company, what they say and the activities they do together in my opinion.
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Tawny
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ESFJ
Aries
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Someone who is fully capable of living independently without me. Has a full time job and healthinsurance, has a place to live, has a car and if he has a medical condition that he is taking care of himself. Sounds like an easy thing right? 🙅♀️. Nope most men try to message me seeing that I have all those things and want to leech off me, nope. 😑
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Rhys Stewart
1y
ISFJ
Libra
I would say someone that comes across as someone who is fun. Willing to crack a few jokesdark or not. And someone who talking to gets me excitable. Not sure if thats specific enough tho
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Matthew
1y
ESTP
Virgo
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Someone who is laid back and not afraid to be themselves, some one you can tell has a freespirit and is out to enjoy their night......rather than studying the other person like a test!!! I lovefreespiritsmixed with a little crazy and spontaneity
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Andrew
1y
INFJ
Gemini
How happy my date will be
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Sam
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INTJ
Aquarius
Connection, or chemistry. If we can't just hang out and laugh together I'm not interested in a date.
I look at them but the most important thing is our common goal or potential together. So like would we want to have kids together, or help each other develop, or just have fun. Of course communication Is important. It’s hard to be with someone who doesn’t get back to you or keep promises.
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Max
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ENFJ
Pisces
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Hair color is one for me. But I look for a good heart and sincerefeelings
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Jannis
1y
INTP
Virgo
Just how I feel interacting with the person, how well we get along.
There are too many factors that could potentially influence my thoughts regarding that, trusting my own impression of a person usually works best o-o
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Matthew
1y
INTJ
Gemini
Someone who's compassionate, intelligent, and nuturing.
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Donald
1y
ISTJ
Scorpio
Everything...? I mean a person is the sum of traits, and you can't simply isolate that... Unless you're objectifying somebody.
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Uta
1y
INTP
Taurus
To know where their towl and dicebag are, and understand at lest some of my references and happy to learn.
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Zachary
1y
ENFP
Taurus
Someone who is genuine, and interesting (holding their own ideas and ambitions).
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Gary
1y
INTP
Sagittarius
Sense of humor, with me they will need it.
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Zie
1y
ENTJ
Aquarius
Communication first, everything else later. Without that, nothing else could possibly follow.
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What do you look for in a potential date?
Vulnerability? Career? Chill vibes? Openness? Physique? Hair color?
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1y
Has a pulse and is breathing. 🎵 (Sorry. Couldn’t resist. 😅)
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1y
😂👌
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🤣🤣
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1y
3w4
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Physical attraction can carry a date a long way for me, but I guess the deciding factor would be their intelligence. It's nice being able to talk about controversial/complex things without someone being dismissive or judgemental because of their inability to expand their worldview. They don't necessarily need to be open, but they need to have the capacity for understanding. If they can't even understand, then I feel like I'm constantly having to baby them in terms of conversation topics to keep them in a good/neutral mood. In the end, it sort of feels like I'm talking to a child. And I don't want to date a child.
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💯 Feels about avoiding dating a baby. I think that being open to other's views is the first step to understanding. But there are so many other factors too. Thx for responding!
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This is so true.
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A best friend. Someone who shares some common interests but still have their own passions in which they can share. Someone who helps to make up for my faults and weaknesses. Someone to share moments and memories with.
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Yes!
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If we are already going to physically meet on a date, then I most likely look for a general openess, a warm attitude, and the genuiness of their smile when I/they show up. If scrolling through Boo, then I look for similar morals and values in their Bio, and maybe look at a few recent posts.
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Makes sense! Thanks for answering☺️ Btw guinea pigs are adorable lol
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Wit, will, depth, curiosity, compatiblity, and complexity of character.
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Great things to consider, thanks for responding! Mind if I ask what you mean by complexity of character?
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@Angie "Interesting", really. But more in terms of how she thinks, her ability to connect the dots and analyze things in unique and profound ways, able to navigate in shades of grey instead of thinking in black and white, having ironic qualities that may seem contradictory on the surface but makes perfect sense upon further investigation, having likes and interests based on her own assessments as opposed to just going with whatever's popular, and so on.
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Am I the only one who has the Miss Congeniality quote running through my head?
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1y
😂👏👏
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Everyone has different preferences, and I'm sure many people will use this as an opportunity to list them off. I don't really have any ideal vision for how my dates look nor act I only really care that they are unique, standout from a crowd, and are interested in me as much as I am in them For this reason I tend to be most attracted to the extremes - very tall or very short; very thin or very fat; very loud or very quiet; very smart or very dim; very feminine or very masculine; etc etc
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1y
Ooooh that's some interesting food for thought, thanks for sharing! :)
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1y
Being a demisexual as well, if they can handle being exclusive friends first.
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1y
1w2
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I wasn't looking but I certainly found one accidentally 🤣
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1y
Such as personality and if they are a happy person
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1y
8w7
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Mostly intelligence for me
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1y
Dominance, intelligence, emotional intelligence, strong physique, healthy, & if they're an ambivert or extrovert.
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1y
Their heart first. I need to know that every decision you make has good intentions behind them. We dont always have to agree. Second their hobbies. We dont have to like or do everything together but its nice to have a few things in common.
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1y
1w2
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Good personality, sense of humor, trust. Friendship is a strong foundation to start on
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1y
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At the very least, being able to tolerate my weirdness. At the very best, joining in and encouraging it.
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1y
1w9
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9
The words you used to ask the question show a lot of thought. I'll start by answering those. Vulnerability is important. I would prefer my date isn't jaded from past experience and has a giant emotional wall that prevents any future prospects from getting close to them. That defeats the purpose of dating. Every new person is a new experience and therefore you should not judge them based on your past experiences. Career and income have never been something I have cared for. All I care about is whether I have chemistry with them. Of couse they should be chill. You don't want your date being irked by every little thing that happens to them. Openess is also an important factor, though maybe not right away. Everyone has things they like to keep to themselves until they feel comfortable enough to share it. However if you're going into a relationship with that person, there should be no secrets. Physique is also important for me. I see myself as fit and try to live an active lifestyle. I don't want a partner that doesn't want to live a similar lifestyle to me. It's also much more attractive to be fit than not. I would not go out of my way to try and change someone either. Obese people have to get into the mentality themselves. And usually if a person tells someone to lose weight, especially in a relationship, many people consider it toxic. I have no time for that lol. Hair colour doesn't matter too much to me unless they have like a neon colour in which case I'm not as attracted. Lastly, my own answer for your question... I look for chemistry in a date. Chemistry to me is having similarities. Similar views, interests, life goals (where they see themselves 20 years down the road), sense of humor and how we communicate. Those are the aspects of a relationship that really bind people together and make them enjoy their company, what they say and the activities they do together in my opinion.
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1y
8w7
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Someone who is fully capable of living independently without me. Has a full time job and health insurance, has a place to live, has a car and if he has a medical condition that he is taking care of himself. Sounds like an easy thing right? 🙅♀️. Nope most men try to message me seeing that I have all those things and want to leech off me, nope. 😑
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1y
I would say someone that comes across as someone who is fun. Willing to crack a few jokes dark or not. And someone who talking to gets me excitable. Not sure if thats specific enough tho
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1y
1w9
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Someone who is laid back and not afraid to be themselves, some one you can tell has a free spirit and is out to enjoy their night......rather than studying the other person like a test!!! I love free spirits mixed with a little crazy and spontaneity
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1y
How happy my date will be
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1y
Connection, or chemistry. If we can't just hang out and laugh together I'm not interested in a date.
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1y
Personality
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1y
8w9
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Honesty, good communication
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1y
2w1
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I look at them but the most important thing is our common goal or potential together. So like would we want to have kids together, or help each other develop, or just have fun. Of course communication Is important. It’s hard to be with someone who doesn’t get back to you or keep promises.
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1y
1w2
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Hair color is one for me. But I look for a good heart and sincere feelings
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1y
Just how I feel interacting with the person, how well we get along. There are too many factors that could potentially influence my thoughts regarding that, trusting my own impression of a person usually works best o-o
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1y
Someone who's compassionate, intelligent, and nuturing.
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1y
Everything...? I mean a person is the sum of traits, and you can't simply isolate that... Unless you're objectifying somebody.
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0
1y
To know where their towl and dice bag are, and understand at lest some of my references and happy to learn.
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1y
Someone who is genuine, and interesting (holding their own ideas and ambitions).
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1y
Sense of humor, with me they will need it.
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1y
Communication first, everything else later. Without that, nothing else could possibly follow.
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