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Claudia

8 days ago

ENTJ
Virgo
What do you do when you are in love with someone who is out of your league?

I have a crush, he is 3 years older than me, more smarter and capable than me. He has many outstanding accomplishments throughout his life. He is very amazing. But I am nothing compared to him. I have nothing ahead of me, I am very average. He keep saying I am an amazing person too for the way I am but I keep telling myself he is only being nice and kind like the kind hearted person he is. I feel he deserve better woman than me. Should I stop hoping he can be my boyfriend? I want him all the best thing in life and I dont think I am one of it

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Xavier

8 days ago

ENTP
Cancer

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If you look average or above average, are feminine and have solid principals for raising a family, anything else is almost moot. Men arent looking for the same things women are looking for, so you cant compare yourself to him as a person. If hes around you hes interested that's almost a guarantee

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Jon

8 days ago

ENFJ
Leo

There's another factor, can she handle her own insecurity? I speak from experience. My late wife and I had a relationship like this and most of the time it was great. But sometimes her insecurity would get the best of her and, well, there wasn't anything I could do about it.

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Emmanuel

7 days ago

ISTJ
Scorpio

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Not to mention. If you're an asset not a liability to his lifestyle. If you are this enamored with him clearly he's doing right by you. Don't sell yourself short. Definitely cater to nurture and taking care of him.

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Jacob

8 days ago

ENTJ
Cancer

You miss every shot you don't take. Hit em with your best shot and you will know for sure.

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James

8 days ago

INTP
Aquarius

I was with a girl in the past. She was perfect, aside from her thinking that she was not good enough. She had all the qualities I wanted in my partner. Did not workout in the end cause of two reasons but one was literally that she was holding herself back. Sometimes it won't work cause you will it to be so. I would just tell the guy how you feel. Hope for the best.

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Conrad

8 days ago

INTJ
Scorpio

To answer the question of the post: I do my best to elevate myself to a state that is as on-par with their level of amazingness as I can. I don't believe in getting down on myself.

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Daniel

7 days ago

INTP
Aquarius

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It's incredible how perception affect us. By reading what you wrote I would say: yes, you have no chance! But is that really the truth? I like this phrase a lot, is by Anthony Robbins: "Life will pay any price you'll ask of it" If you just start saying yourself you can't do it, you won't That's because this way you just become your worst enemy If instead you give yourself a possibility, then things can happen.

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Erwin

7 days ago

ENFP
Taurus

You go for it anyways. Relationships are there to balance one another out and they can be a good inspiration to help you better yourself. Before you get in any relationship though, don't call yourself nothing. Love yourself first

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Logan

8 days ago

ENTP
Sagittarius

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Know your worth looks have psychological impact at first. But personally, confidence, and your vibes can totally triumph said person's biology...!

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Ria

8 days ago

INFJ
Libra

It's good that he sees what you don't see on yourself. So believe on what he says about you. Be Positive. It's nice to have that kind of person who sees your true potential. Be thankful you have someone who appreciates you. Don't ever lose that person. Before it's too late.

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Eclectic-Electric 6

7 days ago

INFP
Capricorn

The whole 'league' thing is generally bs. You either like someone or you dont, and if you work with someone you can easilly fall for their personality over time. Ive met people i was attracted to and then was majorly turned off by their prrsonality, and vice-versa, wasnt attracted much until I got to know them. I've had people id consider 'way out my league' go out with me too, as we got on so well. If you click, you click.

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Daler

8 days ago

ENFJ
Cancer

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Don't be stupid and think like that about yourself, just go and say it to him. If he says that you're nice then there's a high chance that he actually holds you in high regards. Go ahead and take a chance and ask him out. 😉

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☀🌿 𝘓𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘴 🌿☀

7 days ago

INTP
Sagittarius

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Why do people think anything other than personality matters about a person? Does his personality resonate with you and does it feel good being around him? That's what matters most.

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Dan

8 days ago

ENFJ
Capricorn

If he's as amazing as you say then you are doing literally the only thing that would hold you back - thinking you aren't good enough. That comes through even if you don't say it. Act like you belong with him not like you'd be lucky to have him. Hell notice the change.

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Rahil

8 days ago

ENTJ
Cancer

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theres nothing as league. if you love him go for it but end up regretting. back in highschool i had crush on this girl from my class for like 5 years and i swear always thought she was way better than me.

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Sylence

8 days ago

INFJ
Pisces

I would say shoot the shot if you strong minded and won't break down if he rejects you and you never know if you're the perfect person for him or not dating the way you find out if you match other person dating doesn't mean you gonna marry lol you can always break up if you don't work out

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Sylence

8 days ago

INFJ
Pisces

You can first befriend him to know him better before proposing if you wanna be careful it would be a long process tho lol

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Molly

8 days ago

INFP
Scorpio

Naww it's a mix of perspective and confidence. You are with yourself everyday, so ofc you may think your bland and blah and nothin much but girl you are everything!! And I say go for it, life is far too short to be waiting on a Man to do the right thing.

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Dimi

7 days ago

ENTJ
Leo

6w5

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Kinda late answer but here is my opinion that I am also saying to my close friends. Don't worry about it and ty it out, phrases like "he is out of my league" mean little in reality and are almost excuses to explain our own fears. If you really enjoy your time with him and you want to get closer to him don't be scared and just try what you can. Whatever you do no regrets.

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Bruce

8 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Next....

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Cody

8 days ago

INFP
Scorpio

Just go for it. You'll feel much better if you know how he feels, than if you have no idea.

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