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Posted Thursday, September 15, 2022
3y
ISFP
Gemini
3 Awards
Toxic relationship
My boyfriend...or ex..idk anymore who i am to him..because he never feel bad what he has done to me for being rude..like "your worthless and a pig"..he's words traumatised me for years..I have done everything he wanted but still not enough for him..I changed my features for him..yet still treats me like a trash..Im tired I really am..I tried really hard to leave him but I cant...should i stay or should i leave him..yesterday I blocked him..for calling me "pig"...damn im tired of everthing..
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Nena
3y
INFJ
Scorpio
1 Award
If it's hard for you and you feel never enough for him, that means he doesn't love you. He just uses your kind heart. Your big heart deserves so much better and there will be someone who will appreciate a simple thing from you. Dear, he never change and never will. Take your bold step to leave and never let people treat you badly like that.
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Jessica
3y
ENFJ
Taurus
1 Award
Sorry you are going through this. He sounds like a narcissist. It's extremely important to get out of that type of relationship sooner than later. And go totally no contact. Don't let him come back for any reason. It is hard at first to go full no contact but it will take a huge weight off your shoulders. You will feel so free.
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Baby
3y
ISFJ
Libra
First of all, it's mainly your fault for tolerating him for years....you shouldn't have given him the upper hand to stomped all over you. He won't change, will you bear it for lifetime relationship? It's not easy to break off because he becomes a habit for you. If you want to get over with it, be firm & resolute about yourself. Value your own self above all. Hopefully, you'll find better men. There's chances you will if you do.
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Brown Eyed Girl
3y
INFP
Taurus
Oh sweetheart, leave him. You will never know true love until you're able to fully love yourself. This bf/ex is not a man. He surely is toxic, possibly due to his insecurity? There are plenty of people who would enjoy your company and treat you way better than this guy does. The longer you stay with him, the worse your mental health will suffer.
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Bitupan
3y
ESFJ
Taurus
1 Award
If you are affected by someone's opinion, thn future will be dark for you. And i will not put pretty words, but girl once you are 5 years away from today, you will hardly remember anything what you feel today. Try to invest in yourself regardless of what others say atleast to say to yourself that i didnt doubt myself. Everybody here is a human and in different emotional state. You can ask him why he treats you as you have written here. Because anyone who shows to be emtional is considered weak and exhaustive. Maybe he is still a boy so he doesnt understand and psychologically girls are affected more by it but once you bloom back if he asks for forgiveness, just help him. It helps you to kerp your intregity and self image intact. Dont go for these blocking and all.. It causes more pain. Let your emotions flow and share with someone who genuinely cares. Guys often are bad at handling emotions but when he realises what he lost, he usually comes back. Till then say safe and take care of your emotional health sister 🌼
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Buddika alwis
3y
INFP
Virgo
Just leave him You don't deserve this mental torture
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Elijah
3y
INFP
Cancer
1 Award
I can't speak from experience, but try to find the strength. You definitely do not deserve to be treated that way. You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone else. If it helps, remember that words are just words. You can change the definitions however you want. My grandma calls me "idiot" and "stupid" all the time (in Tagalog). But i love when she does that, because to me, that's how she expresses her love. But the way she says things is not with a malicious intent. In your case, this guy seems to be manipulating you. You can still try to change definitions; for example: Pig: something cute witha good sense of smell. Worthless: a hypothetical concept; everything in this world actually has worth Also think of this as a learning experience. Now you know what to avoid, going forward. You can level up and get closer to being the true You. Be treated the way you want to be treated; if another person does not want to respect that, they do not have to be a part of your life. Stay strong!
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Indra (he/him)
3y
INFP
Cancer
Why do you stay in relationships with him? What makes you unable to leave him? He can call you name easily He didn't appreciate you He treat you like a trash He didn't see you as a human Just what is it that makes you unable to leave that kind of person? How much longer you need to let yourself got hurted untill you finally decided to leave him? Are you hoping for him to change himself? What kind of good that you see in him that makes you hoping for him to change himself?
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Jada Brummett
3y
INFP
Leo
I'm so sorry you have gone through this. You definitely need to leave him
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LJ
3y
ESTJ
Taurus
Just remember that you are not alone. It can be so hard to get out of a toxic relationship. You should leave him for sure. It sounds like you're ready to leave. If you reach out to your local women's shelter they have wonderful resources. It's just nice to have a safe place to meet with others like you and you can share your story if you feel comfortable. These are people that will support you and can relate. You'll likely go through a range of emotions and that's okay. Know that you worth it and love yourself. Anyone that treats you like that, whether it be someone that you're dating or friends with is not worth you wasting any effort. Remember you are stronger than you think and you can do it! Good luck Cella!!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
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Jami
3y
ESTP
Virgo
1 Award
The moment you decided to change yourself for him. Is the moment you realize they are/were the wrong person. The day you realize, you are better off building your happiness around yourself and not other people. You will reach a peaceful bliss 😊. Never need anything from anyone especially if it's a person that's emotionally disturbed.
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Robert
3y
ISTP
Scorpio
The psychological trap you have found yourself in is that by him degrading you for years now your mind is programmed to seek his approval to undo the damage. You will NEVER get his approval. You must realize his attacks were a control mechanism. It’s mind control. Run away from that. Reprogram yourself to be loved. Love who you are.
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Rahul
3y
ISFJ
Libra
So true
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Mariam🦋
3y
INFP
Sagittarius
Leave him and love your self more
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Jae Woo (Jay)
3y
INTP
Leo
You should tell him how it makes you feel and if he keeps doing that then he's doing intentionally to hurt you just leave his ass lol
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Kenson
3y
ISFJ
Taurus
Can like they say when a man want u he will go to hell an back for u his useing u my girl u need to move on
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Dennis
3y
INFP
Capricorn
He is a narcissist and need to get away and stay away.
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Jane
3y
ISFP
Libra
1 Award
You need to leave him love... for your own sanity. I've lived and believe me when I say, people like that never change. Don't ever let anyone like that get away with saying such soul destroying things to you. You're worth so much more. You're a very beautiful young woman with your whole life ahead of you. Don't settle for someone like that. There are people out there that will happily raise you up and help you to become the best version of yourself, not belittle you and put you down.
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Sudhir Lavate
3y
ENFP
Taurus
A relation should never be called a relation until both partners share and contribute for building of bond equally. And, trust me if any guy can't accept you the way you are he's definitely a red flag and not the one. And, I do believe girls literally carry there own crown and, should never do anything that would make there crown fall. Anyways if he isn't there anymore that's good for you only coz anyway he wasn't helping you to grow in anyway. So, now you can look after yourself and before getting someone else in life just love yourself coz you definitely need that more than anything in this world. Love yourself and the true one who loves you will find his path towards you. Coz right energy attracts right person.
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Noor
3y
INFP
Cancer
Dear self respect is important than everytjing and if he can't give you respect you should leave him
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John
3y
INFP
Cancer
So how come u stay with someone that mistreats you they don't love u or care about you if that's what they do. They don't support you just put u down to there level because they hate themselves shame on them find someone that appreciates all of you in and out .
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Dave
3y
ISFJ
Virgo
If the person ur with doesn't make you feel good about yourself you are with the wrong person.You are better off alone than with someone who criticizes you.The longer you stay the worse it will get.
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KK
3y
ESFJ
Scorpio
Ammm.. Love someone but never make him your weakness.. The thing is he is not good for you, he takes you for granted. If someone don't respect you, takes you for granted and does not care for your feelings.... Never be with that person,not even as a friend. Dont block him instead start talking to someone else. May be you give all your time to him and you don't have anyone else talk to and that's why you are finding difficulty to forget him. Just try to talk to someone else the goodness in other person will automatically help you to forget this bad person in your life. Please take care. ❤️❤️
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Surya
3y
ISFJ
Capricorn
People don't respect women are not men , i think who is not man worthless to stay
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Chris
3y
ISTP
Scorpio
I was in something similar to this. She would do horrid and downright abusive things for weeks on end until I could no longer stand it. Then she'd turn around and pare it down to anyone that would listen. "I only did *one thing of fifty*, and HE said... *totally missed the point*". She was shocked once when a side guy that she "only went to for advice (🙄)" called her out on leaving things out, making things up, and then dropped a bunch of common sense and logic that she had already been told that she finally got some small piece of the fact that people weren't just telling her things just to control her or hear themselves speak.
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