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Kathryn
Posted Friday, September 16, 2022
1y
INFP
Aquarius
Dating...
When going out on dates with people and trying to figure out what is best for you, how are you supposed to tell people that you aren't feeling it with them, without hurting their feelings. I told someone I couldn't go on a date with them because I didnt feel up to going on a date at this time, and then they got mad, said mean things, blocked me and said they were going to delete their profile because I was their last straw.... Context: I have relationship trauma and just general trauma with men so I was worried about meeting a new person and felt I wasn't ready to go on an actual date with him yet. I was wanting to talk with him more, texting and calling before I met him...and then it turned into him being mad at me. Did I do something wrong? Was I not supposed to express my uncomfortableness and express my feelings I was having? The sinking feeling in my gut was telling me to wait, and that there was another shoe I needed to wait to see drop before I could go on a date with him.....was I not supposed to trust that feeling?
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Joshua
1y
INTJ
Capricorn
1. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. 2. You have to be prepared to probably hurt someone's feelings. That's all there is to it
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Dani
1y
ESTP
Scorpio
Personally, I think you did the right thing. You told them how you felt and you have ever right to feel that way. You express that to them so you wouldn't leave them on unlike some people that do that to others. But, I feel like them blocking you and saying mean and probably degrading things is not cool and shows they're lack of understanding and communication with someone. I completely understand the relationship trauma and the situationships that we all go through. I've recently just went through a bad relationship myself and I can completely understand your feelings to me there very valid and it's part of the feelings that I'm feeling too when I feel uncomfortable and not connected with someone. You didn't do anything wrong you said what you wanted to say and that's your right and they just going to take it at the mature way
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John Lawrence Comon Piensenabis
1y
ESFJ
Gemini
What have you done at that moment is right mam even for sure until now. Do not give yourself to premarital commiters. Rather than give yourself only to wedding according to Bible. Patience and chastity are two virtues needed for true love mam.. So you've done what is right.. It's like lustful beast to a chaste or conservative woman.๐ค๐๐ (edited)
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