Jess

Posted Wednesday, June 8, 2022

1y

ENTJ

Scorpio

8

7

I Think This Should be Said

Romance shouldn’t be seen as the only ‘right’ reason to date in the society. I prefer transactional relationships. I never understand why the society paint transactional relationships black so much. They’re fair, easy to understand, sustainable and don’t play with your feelings because both parties are honest and know they can get something out of it. Also, you can still love the company of the person you are with in a transactional relationship. Some people keep telling me - oh you’re just afraid of being hurt. They keep telling me this like romance is the only right way and right thing to pursue with a date, and people like me are doing things wrong because we have wrong beliefs or wrong mindset or something. But no! I don’t risk being hurt in romance because I found it so UNNECESSARY! Romance for me is like taking drugs. You get high for a very short period of time, and get damaged possibly for the rest of your life. And what’s the good coming out of it? The very short period of high and your distorted memories, that’s it! The funniest part is if you want to make romance last long, you still need to build a transactional relationship to make it fair and sustainable. What’s the point? Stop making romance sound like the fundamental principle of dating and relationships! You can have a genuine connection with people without all the crazy trying to break each other’s wall nonsense. Let people share when they want to share. Let people be vulnerable when they feel like it. Let people know if you two are compatible and mutual beneficial to each other on the first date, not all the sugarcoating things that make people fuzzy and then regret it when they sober up. Stop pushing. Stop shaming. We don’t need to throw away our 🧠 to go with our ❤️.