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Jazmin

3 days ago

ENTP
Scorpio
Hopeless romantic

So i have a question why are guys intimidated by me?I mean I'm very blunt yess and very honest and I really don't take no mess from anyone especially not guys I'm just myself I have a very smart mouth and I can't really help it even though I'm small I still come off as intimidating and I have a firing personality I'm very feisty and a lot of guys can't handle thatπŸ™„πŸ™„.

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Sinko

3 days ago

ENTP
Gemini

I don't think this is a gender thing. Being blunt isnt the same as being honest. Some people pride themselves on "telling it as it is" and "being blunt", but when you actually watch how they interact with others, you see what that actually means - having no filter and saying whatever comes into their head in the worst way possible without any consideration for how other people might feel. People don't like to hang around with others that make them feel bad. That's the general rule. Being honest is about saying things that may hurt someones feelings when they genuinely need to be said. Being blunt is saying things that may hurt someone's feelings even when they don't need to be said. The former people respect in a person, the latter people avoid.

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Isiah

2 days ago

INTJ
Scorpio

5w4

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AnhQuan

3 days ago

INTP
Sagittarius

I'm not easily intimidated but your grammar usage doesn't scream relationship material to me. You seem fun though.

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Jazmin

3 days ago

ENTP
Scorpio

Well you look like a kid so your opinion about my grammar doesn't really bother me lmao πŸ˜‚

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Robert

3 days ago

ESTP
Cancer

5w6

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Alot of what your saying can also definetly come off as having an attitude 24/7. It's not so much they're "intimidated" as more: "bored with a personality they've seen 100 times."

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Jazmin

3 days ago

ENTP
Scorpio

No there intimidated once I get comfortable I tend to start talking like a dude letting my personality show and it's alot to handle not alot of guys like when a woman takes charge like I do

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Ben

2 days ago

INTJ
Virgo

5w6

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What's the point of the thread then?

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Bruce

3 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

We're not intimidated, we don't want to associate with such "qualities"

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Jazmin

2 days ago

ENTP
Scorpio

Because y'all can't handle it lmao πŸ˜‚

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Bruce

2 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Lucky you're not in denial.

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Jake

3 days ago

INTJ
Capricorn

I think u answered yr own question

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Bruce

3 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Beautiful mate.

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Scott

3 days ago

ISTP
Gemini

1w9

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Yup. I came here to say this, as well.

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AJ

3 days ago

ISTJ
Capricorn

3w4

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You can become a demure soft type of person if that's what you want to do. If you're the fiesty type and give enjoyable company and like/accept yourself this way, you're better off finding someone on your wavelength. Who cares about the men that are intimidated or otherwise not interested? You wouldn't be happy with them anyways, they'd just try to squish you into a box. It might amuse you to know I'm a woman on the other side of the spectrum. I am the soft-spoken sort and both my ex-boyfriends have criticized me for it, recommending things I could do to change my personality or popularity. But life became so much easier when I accepted myself as I am. Most people are nice, even if you don't click with them, and the ones who aren't are the ones you don't need. I'm not trying to get everyone to like me, I'm trying to find everyone who does like me.

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Bruce

2 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Well done AJ. Wish you well.

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Isaac

3 days ago

INTJ
Libra

"Nobody wants me because I'm ghetto and ratchet"

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Garrett

3 days ago

ENTP
Aries

Is it because you throw hands?

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Jazmin

3 days ago

ENTP
Scorpio

Lmao only if I have to πŸ˜‚

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Scott

3 days ago

INFJ
Virgo

You're too aggressive. Men see aggressive women as loose, disagreeable, and unpredictable, no one is intimidated by you they're simply deselecting you for what they perceive to be negative traits.

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Bruce

2 days ago

ESFJ
Gemini

Beautiful mate.

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ChengJu

3 days ago

INTP
Scorpio

5w4

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Maybe you are looking for people that matches your energy? Soneone who you can bounce off with eachother. In extreme cases, that could be hard to come by. Some people may take some time to process their thoughts, and may not always have a good reply as fast as you can do. (at least im pretty slow in processing) Other things to consider is: while they are processing, do you move on the conversation before they can response? that can affect the feeling of involvement the other person may have during conversation. One technique is to include questions that demands very simple questions, like "Youve heard of XX, right?" followed by the simple yes, continue on the conversation. The initmidaion may have stemmed from them being constantly on edge to keep up with the conversation and try to say smth so that it isnt one sided. depending on where the other person comes from, are the topics something they talk about very often in their day to day life? If not, thats an extra time overhead. in terms of bluntness, does it carry an upbeat support to other people and idea? or are they often criticisms that shoots down some ideas? That can affect what people see in this conversation, a play, a discussion, or a fight. In this case, the intimidation may stem from the judgements you give off. Paired by the "life of party" style of personailty, the words can be kind of a authoritative voice in the social instance. thats my POV, Im curious about whats your experience on the topic.

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Shabby

3 days ago

ISFP
Sagittarius

5w6

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I think ur joking right😜

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Terrence

2 days ago

ENFP
Libra

7w8

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You basically summed it up yourself, if a woman is too firey from the jump it makes them not want to put in the effort because it makes it seem like you will be quick to kick them to the curb or be constantly aggressive/argumentive. Especially if you show all this in the way you carry yourself.

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