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Posted Thursday, March 2, 2023
1y
INFJ
Pisces
This one is for the guys
Alright guys, this one is for you Do men prefer a woman who has her life together, mentally, emotionally and physically, or are they ok with a woman who has depression, anxiety, and is a little fixer upper? What do yall think and prefer?
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Yunus_Soul
1y
INTJ
Gemini
A women that has their life together but for you to attain a women like that, you must also have your life together. Taking in someone that has a lot of trauma will self sabotage the relationship. So it's best for he/she to heal themselves before entering a relationship.
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Andrew
1y
ESTJ
Capricorn
I want a woman that's gonna be a partner. So I want them to have something on the ball I'm not looking for someone to support and baby. Depression is all over everyone has it. And if you say you don't all I would have to do is present exhibit A. Your most recent paycheck look how much you lost to taxes
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Crissy
1y
INFJ
Capricorn
I would definitely prefer someone who has their life together but I better make sure im able to up hold my end as well. I would also prefer someone who had self worth which means they would question the mental health of a potential partner.. I am very considerate of all that you stated but this is something each person would have to match with their own bringings. I’m not a man but I think this could go either way. More below👇🏻 Edited to add. I like to think of the do unto others as you’d want them to do to you. It’s from scripture and I’m not religious but it’s good life advice for respect. I believe everyone goes through hardships and how someone deals with those are important and I’d be more interested in how someone deals with those hardships and strives to grow. I think having one’s life together is relative to a lot of people. (edited)
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Sabby
1y
ENFP
Gemini
I'm not a guy so I can't speak for men but I have mental health issues. I remember when my current partner who was a childhood friend that I also eventually dated and broke up with reconnected with me. I warned him that I had issues, though I was working on myself . His reply was to list out every issue I had... Then proceed to tell me they didn't stop him from loving me. He had remembered after 18 years and still sought me out. He jokes they add colour to my character. I work on being my best self for both myself and him, while he loves me at my worst. So yes some men do not care.
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Asmir 🇧🇦
1y
ISFJ
Capricorn
For me no one is perfect so as long as they're not harming themselves I don't mind.
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Naman
1y
ISFP
Libra
I don't mind a woman who has anxiety, depression and other issues as long as she is not suicidal. It largely also depends on how she treats me (no abuse or anything similar). I know it will get difficult but I am someone with those kind of issues too and if she is ready to work on it together with me, then that would be the best. It is because I know that dealing with such issues can be really hard all alone. (edited)
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Aj Russ
1y
INFJ
Scorpio
I think it really depends. As a guy with mental health issues like that, I just cant connect on a deep emotional level with people who haven't dealt with similar things. 🌟Trauma bonding🌟The issues build a mutual understanding that are impossible for people who haven't lived through it.
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Nic
1y
ENTP
Taurus
I feel like it depends on how the person is dealing with their mental illnesses. Are they actively trying to better themselves and find ways to cope in a healthy way or are they letting their depression and disorders control them. If someone is willing to put in the effort I am willing help push them through anything if I love them.
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Joseph
1y
ISTJ
Taurus
We can ask the reverse question Do ladies prefer guys with his life together or some baggage, as you see, when you put yourself in different perspective. You're forced to ask yourself, do I have baggage or am I put together, you become more open-minded and more accepting. Truth is, really depends on what you already planned for your life, did you want to be with someone who will grow with you, help fix each other's issues, cope with their imperfections? Or are you the type of person who works in themselves first, gets the education and is set up first before tackling a relationship?
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Tanuj Mohindra
1y
ISFJ
Capricorn
First Choice Would Be Perfect
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Dave
1y
INTJ
Capricorn
What kind of question is that? 🤔😅 Would you prefer a man with depression, anxiety and is a little fixer upper yourself? I, for one, would request what I offer. That's why I regularly attend to therapy, to make sure everything is OK here 🧠 and here ❤️. And I would prefer the same.
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Stevie
1y
ENTP
Scorpio
I think just like anybody else, we do prefer people who have their life together. HOWEVER, this doesn't mean that it's a no go if you aren't 100% there. The world is a tough place and I'd like to think that most people would be understanding to that. I think as long as there is an attempt to right yourself, there isn't an issue.
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Bill
1y
INFP
Aries
I don't have a preference. All that matters is she's a good person and doesn't put others down. Those are my only requirements.
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Marc
1y
ENFP
Pisces
Hard part is there are some trauma so severe that there is no memory of it that people have no idea there is a problem. So it comes down to observable actions, awareness, willingness to work on themselve, and willingnwss to work on the relationship.
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David
1y
INFP
I don't care if she has depression or anxiety, if we click and I love that woman, I will be there to try to help her. Wouldn't it only make sense that if you get along well with someone enough to date them, you would try to be there for them? Sometimes all it takes is a meaningful hug to help calm someone down, and I don't think that's too much to ask of anyone.
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Trent
1y
INTP
Aquarius
I like a girl that has hobbies and atleast has taken an interest in health, willing to work on it. Dont care about her career, what kind of money she makes, or if she's independent, as long as she can be autonomous, receptive and can bounce ideas back and forth without much fuss. Then, a bit of adjusting isnt terrible. (edited)
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Skyler
1y
ISTJ
Virgo
Men want a woman who is feminine and submissive. Not submissive to the point of being a slave or not able to have or share an opinion just someone that trusts their man enough to listen to what he has to say. Most men don't like to deal with baggage and problems of a woman. It's why lots go for young women cuz they likely haven't met gigachad douchebag.
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Evan
1y
ENFP
Leo
We're all defective, I'm taking her as she is from the gate. Anything I can do to understand and help I will do.
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Kyle Letterman
1y
INTP
Aquarius
I myself have the same issues I feel it would be hypocritical to not be okay with dating someone like that of I'm expecting someone to be okay with putting up with my problems, on top of that, just because they suffer from depression or anxiety or other such issues doesn't mean mean they can't provide the love and support needed in a relationship
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Richie
1y
ISTJ
Taurus
I don't want a project. If the person is working on bettering themselves or just expecting people to accept them without them growing/ improving. But then sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants..... that's when you pull it's plug, go home heart...... your drunk (edited)
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Billy
1y
INFP
Aries
I'm okay with either
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Angela Maria 🇨🇴🇮🇹
1y
INFP
I’m a mix of a little bit of everything. My life is somewhat together, I can deal with things mentally, emotionally and physically but also struggle with social anxiety, ADHD, being introverted and sometimes depression. I try to be as upfront about myself when talking to a guy. But it’s hard being an adult! 🤪 What some people might call “Broken” doesn’t mean they can’t be loved or in a healthy relationship. There’s plenty of unstable people who genuinely have everything together in their lives but mask being a complete psychopath! I say, take things slow, truly get to know someone and grow together. 💕 I really enjoyed reading other people’s comments! Great post! 🙏🏻💕 (edited)
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