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Posted Wednesday, August 28, 2024
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There are many wonderful life coaches, counselors, business coaches, body workers, yoga instructors, fitness coaches and therapists out there..
AND There are many wellness practitioners who skew on the culty side of things. One way to tell the difference is whether or not there is room for YOUR experiences and beliefs in their approach. If someone is trying to squeeze you into a box of "us vs them," "my way or no way," or "you're either in or you're out," then you may be in a potentially harmful environment. Buyer beware .. 🖤💫..
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