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AlexNShania

1 month ago

INFJ
Sagittarius

1w9

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9

New To Poly/OpenRelationships: Felt cute/might delete.

Alex here^^/ Incredibly annoyed w/myself. I kinda, no; I definitely wanted this--but now that I've "dipped my feet in the water" i cant seem to shake this imposter syndrome I feel when considering a reality in which I'm literally"sharing" my wife w/ a cis identifying amab(s)--not because I don't like them or because i feel like "less of a man for submitting"to one, but a much bleaker sorta "i feel like less of a man because I get this immense envy in wanting to preform [&get erect] & feel the way they do during intercourse" --& now I don't WANT to actually share her with anyone cis identifying amab--even though i still find myself incredibly attracted to them & wanting to explore that for myself๐Ÿฅฒ๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜” [Which sounds immature somehow & like idk what I wantใ€ŠiKnow, I hear myselfใ€‹] -- but now I just don't know if I could actually handle emotionally putting myself through witnessing and teaming up to do it w/ Her & all the feelings that will arise from acting out on what is only currently; thoughts. I know I have to let my partner know how I feel & I don't want to/make her feel limitedใ€Š as I'm noticing she has/does consider some amabs; as long as we BOTH like them; I'm the assertive party of us two ใ€‹{or shoot, maybe in some selfish/narcissistic way: I wanna believe she pretends to like them when I like them<cause otherwise she's more instantly/openly attracted to femme/masc afabs} So yeah, idk--Im thinking alot & could use some new prespectives. Especially from any other trans-mascs in poly/open relationships who might have been through the same. Thanks in advanceโ™ก

Keep trying; it's worth it if you work it๐Ÿ’
12%
Keep trying; it's worth it if you work it๐Ÿ’
Nope. Stop, throw the whole idea out๐Ÿšฎ
88%
Nope. Stop, throw the whole idea out๐Ÿšฎ

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Tessa

1 month ago

ENFP
Cancer

Consent can be given and taken. If you were down at one point and now it's getting too real, you can say nevermind. Don't ruin a loving relationship with your partner because you forced yourself to do something you changed your mind on and that will reflect in your marriage

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AlexNShania

1 month ago

INFJ
Sagittarius

1w9

1

9

Thank you so much for this reminder Tess๐Ÿ™Œ I do have a hard time feeling like I'm an imposter for "backing out" despite us having/holding that space for eachother where we CAN change our minds, be open about it and it be ok. Perhaps its been knowing what it is I'm feeling, where it's coming from and how to verbalize it all that's been my biggest challange yet

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Tessa

1 month ago

ENFP
Cancer

I don't think that makes you an imposter, it's just emotions that you have to work thru and recognize

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AlexNShania

1 month ago

INFJ
Sagittarius

1w9

1

9

And sometimes working through things isn't linear or an end point๐Ÿ˜ช๐ŸคŸYou are incredibly correct, thank you; for real๐Ÿ’

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Tessa

1 month ago

ENFP
Cancer

I gotchu ๐Ÿ’• ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

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0

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Jen

1 month ago

ISFJ
Libra

1w9

1

9

Why even ... really

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0

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Michael

1 month ago

ISTJ
Leo

8w9

8

9

If you don't want it, don't do it. Been there, done that. Its not going to end well.

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