Loneliness

Question

Hello, my fellow enneagram 4’s. I’m an INFP 4w5, and I have been repeatedly been told by people I get close to that I’m too cynical/negative.

This is extremely hurtful and makes me feel the impulse to hide away under my blankets so I can never be made to feel broken/rejected again.

Can anyone else relate? Would be nice to know I’m not alone in feeling this way.

SURYODAY · Accepted Answer

You don't met right person yet

kurisuYoRHa · Answer

I tend to write about this sort of thing alot, in my journals, poems/songs. In short, I find it tricky to express myself normally as I try to be figurative in my speech.

Many times, trying to communicate complex or difficult feelings thru dry, witty or cynical wording can be taken the wrong way. It would be helpful to let others know what you're trying to express as you do.

That said, some people just won't get it; you gotta find others that speak the language you do 😁

kurisuYoRHa · Answer

interestingly, i had a similar situation today. my lighthearted jokes about myself sent someone into a frenzy- somewhere i didn't expect.

i was so shocked, i shed tears in public; my usual kuudere shattered. i explained i was having a rough time and humor was the crutch i clinged to, to keep a straight face.

it isn't wrong to express yourself in ways that others may take offense to. it made me think of this post. we all need a part of ourselves to be a light in the dark.

in closing, someone told me when i was younger, "find something that makes you happy, and hold on for dear life"

hope you have a great night 🌙

Aleks · Answer

Oh, Hello there, fellow 4w5... there's nothing wrong being negative or cynical, looking at how things are going... it's totally fine...

Zuhier · Answer

No worries. Many other mbti person don't really understand us, the infps. But also, maybe we also should reflect as well. Im trying to do that. Reflect on the situation and see where I feel the need of me to be more understanding

Loneliness

4w5 Topluluk

You don't met right person yet

Oh, Hello there, fellow 4w5... there's nothing wrong being negative or cynical, looking at how things are going... it's totally fine...

No worries. Many other mbti person don't really understand us, the infps. But also, maybe we also should reflect as well. Im trying to do that. Reflect on the situation and see where I feel the need of me to be more understanding