What do you prefer in the first conversation or message, shallow topics or deep ones right away?

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1wulan

INFJ

Skorpio

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5

Establish a rhythm with shallow, then let progress naturally

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1wulan

INFP

Leo

8
7

Just be yourself and do what it feels like. Also do not expect others to act in a certain way and you won't be disappointed🫰

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1wulan

INTJ

8
7

Honestly just anything as long as its non-sexual and engaging. I HATEEEEEEEE the "hi hru". Or the "i love your eyes". Engage me, get to know me as I want to get to know you! but dont try to hold me conversationally hostage by sending a novel otherwise expect a response within 2-3 business days. My adhd can't handle that. 😂 But I do love to be intellectually stimulated. 🤤(besut)

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1wulan

INTJ

Cancer

8
7

Deep ones right away. You'll lose me with shallow conversation instantly. Do I look like I'm interested in that?

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1wulan

INFJ

8
7

Something in between. Just a 'hi' and 'how are you' is not my thing. I start with something from their profile, but not too deep right away. Like, if someone likes and has dogs I won't be asking what their most traumatic pet death was,but I might ask about the silliest thing their dog has done (if they have one).

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1wulan

ESFJ

Virgo

Be straight to the point. Tell me what you're looking for and what you're into

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1wulan

ESFJ

Sagitarius

8
7

Go with the flow... Random talks that makes you excited... Just being yourself and be open... 🤭😆 Cheers! 🥰🌻💝✨️🌈

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1wulan

ENTP

Virgo

2
3

I'd prefer a smooth progression, forcing a deep conversation rarely ends well!

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1wulan

INFJ

Libra

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1wulan

ENFJ

Sagitarius

3
4

Ayaaaa... No long messages from the get go. Preferably interesting conversation with tidbits, interests..whatever they feel like talking about, at the time. You're trying to establish if you're going to get along so you would be better off being yourself and talking about what comes to mind, especially if you're passionate about it. Intelligence with whimsy, and eloquence, is the best. ✔️ I rather not be bored by one worded questions and answers nor by philosophical ones, that say nothing about anything.(besut)

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1wulan

INTP

Sagitarius

5
4

If there is something interesting in your profile I’ll probably lead with that, but after this it all depends on the texting chemistry: I won’t ask you about interdimensional stuff right away if it’s not in the cards, but I will lead the conversation there eventually.

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1wulan

INFP

Cancer

5
4

Shallow to break the ice

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3

1wulan

INTP

Akuarius

I prefer to begin with a joke or a nice compliment, and then to proceed with a not so deep conversation...

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1wulan

INFP

Akuarius

6
5

Shallow and deep, deep topics can give a great insight into the kind of person I’m speaking to 😅

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1wulan

ISTP

Kembar

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1wulan

ISTJ

Wresaba

The best topic for conversation depends on your goal, but general topics like hobbies, entertainment, and travel are great for casual chat, while deeper subjects like personal goals or childhood memories work well for getting to know someone better. Starting with a simple question about their day or asking about something you have in common is a safe and effective way to begin any conversation.

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1wulan

ESFJ

Cancer

1
2

whatever comes up

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0

1wulan

INFP

Skorpio

4
5

I prefer a question that is related with something on my bio

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0

1wulan

ISTP

Kaprikorn

1
2

As a man looking to date after 8 years without love ... even just trying to engage a conversation with someone Just to get nothing back ...as they say here and probably in most other places " good guys always finish last " as im still waiting just for someone to say " hello " .. this world of online dating is so judgemental people dont truth people as of passed history's of passed relationships so trust is hard to find in people even if you dont know them .. opening up just to speak or questioning yourself to say anything is the world today. If I had to say anything to all that goes for men and women.. dont fear the past for your future otherwise you'll never find light to move forward, push passed your limits find yourself make a new connections only you can make yourself happy go out a build a life with someone and get to know who they are before you judge even if you keep them as a friend its better knowing you have someone to talk too. Let this world bring people together and make better connections let people find whatnever it may be in this world and become better people ✨️ love to all lets all get along a proce to this world we are all kind and caring ❤️

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1wulan

ENFJ

Wédus

2
3

Whatever makes the conversation going it doesn't matter whether its shallow or deep ones.

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1wulan

ESTP

Pises

Shallow topics are better so we can have deep one later on the right time

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0

1wulan

ESFJ

Libra

Deep pretty quick. May as well speak about what is important. Be respectful of each other’s time.

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1wulan

ESFP

Cancer

4
5

I like feeling out the vibe with light talk, than moving to the topics that stick

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1wulan

ENFP

Pises

2
1

Shallow. Banter is fun and flirty! Deep stuff right away can’t capture the chemistry.

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1wulan

ENTP

Cancer

2
1

I think a proper icebreaker has the potential to go either way. A question like "what's your favorite book?" Has a ton of avenues you can go down.

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0

1wulan

ENTJ

Cancer

3
4

I enjoy deep conversations with shallow provocative tidbits. I find that to be the most enjoyable conversational formula.

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0

1wulan

INTP

Kaprikorn

I don’t like basic interviews right away but rather a relatable topic or anything else that doesn’t contain sexual desperation cuz that’s just not acceptable.

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1wulan

INFJ

Akuarius

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Shallow first but not too shallow that it gets boring. You need to know the persons preferences/interests first, build comfort,rapport, friendly atmosphere before delving deep. No one wants to be put on the spot right away. Asking questions that are too personal are rude and intrusive.

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1wulan

INFP

Kembar

4
5

I try not to get too deep in text. My issue is I get excited sometimes and then I want to talk in person too quick. Scared people off. Excitement does not equal desperation.

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0

1wulan

INFP

Wresaba

Shallow topics to get things started.

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1wulan

INFP

Pises

Deep ones

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0

1wulan

INFP

Wresaba

Deep emotional topics

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1wulan

INFJ

Libra

3
4

Done with the shallow ones give me something deep.

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0

1wulan

ENTP

Kembar

6
7

Shallow and laughs, if that's easy that's a good foundation.

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0

1wulan

ISTJ

Kaprikorn

Gotta start with the "what's your favorite groceries"

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0

1wulan

INTP

Sagitarius

6
7

Both to be honest. Hit me with all the questions but have a thorough convo aswell

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0

1wulan

INFJ

Akuarius

I usually tell them all of my insecurities and then wait to see if they respond

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0

1wulan

ISFJ

Skorpio

8
7

It comes with the usual polite words of greetings, information of whereabouts and some personal details. Embodied with the casual impressions, then asserts whether to continue broaden the conversation, and the rest. I thank you! 😅😉

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1wulan

ENFP

Pises

2
3

Give me the deepest conversations. I want to know your biggest fears, what keeps you awake at night, what gives you anxiety, and what brings you the most joy.

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1

1wulan

ISFJ

6
7

Shallow topics (like interests, day-to-day stuff) work better for breaking the ice.

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