What do you prefer in the first conversation or message, shallow topics or deep ones right away?
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1wulan
INTJ
87
Honestly just anything as long as its non-sexual and engaging. I HATEEEEEEEE the "hi hru". Or the "i love your eyes". Engage me, get to know me as I want to get to know you! but dont try to hold me conversationally hostage by sending a novel otherwise expect a response within 2-3 business days. My adhd can't handle that. 😂 But I do love to be intellectually stimulated. 🤤(besut)
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1wulan
INTJ
Cancer
87
Deep ones right away. You'll lose me with shallow conversation instantly. Do I look like I'm interested in that?
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1wulan
INFJ
87
Something in between. Just a 'hi' and 'how are you' is not my thing. I start with something from their profile, but not too deep right away. Like, if someone likes and has dogs I won't be asking what their most traumatic pet death was,but I might ask about the silliest thing their dog has done (if they have one).
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1wulan
INFJ
Libra
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1wulan
ENFJ
Sagitarius
34
Ayaaaa... No long messages from the get go. Preferably interesting conversation with tidbits, interests..whatever they feel like talking about, at the time. You're trying to establish if you're going to get along so you would be better off being yourself and talking about what comes to mind, especially if you're passionate about it. Intelligence with whimsy, and eloquence, is the best. ✔️ I rather not be bored by one worded questions and answers nor by philosophical ones, that say nothing about anything.(besut)
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1wulan
ISTP
Kembar
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1wulan
ISTJ
Wresaba
The best topic for conversation depends on your goal, but general topics like hobbies, entertainment, and travel are great for casual chat, while deeper subjects like personal goals or childhood memories work well for getting to know someone better. Starting with a simple question about their day or asking about something you have in common is a safe and effective way to begin any conversation.
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1wulan
ISTP
Kaprikorn
12
As a man looking to date after 8 years without love ... even just trying to engage a conversation with someone Just to get nothing back ...as they say here and probably in most other places " good guys always finish last " as im still waiting just for someone to say " hello " .. this world of online dating is so judgemental people dont truth people as of passed history's of passed relationships so trust is hard to find in people even if you dont know them .. opening up just to speak or questioning yourself to say anything is the world today. If I had to say anything to all that goes for men and women.. dont fear the past for your future otherwise you'll never find light to move forward, push passed your limits find yourself make a new connections only you can make yourself happy go out a build a life with someone and get to know who they are before you judge even if you keep them as a friend its better knowing you have someone to talk too. Let this world bring people together and make better connections let people find whatnever it may be in this world and become better people ✨️ love to all lets all get along a proce to this world we are all kind and caring ❤️
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1wulan
ESTP
Pises
Shallow topics are better so we can have deep one later on the right time
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1wulan
ESFJ
Libra
Deep pretty quick. May as well speak about what is important. Be respectful of each other’s time.
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1wulan
ENTJ
Cancer
34
I enjoy deep conversations with shallow provocative tidbits. I find that to be the most enjoyable conversational formula.
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1wulan
INTP
Kaprikorn
I don’t like basic interviews right away but rather a relatable topic or anything else that doesn’t contain sexual desperation cuz that’s just not acceptable.
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1wulan
INFJ
Akuarius
21
Shallow first but not too shallow that it gets boring. You need to know the persons preferences/interests first, build comfort,rapport, friendly atmosphere before delving deep. No one wants to be put on the spot right away. Asking questions that are too personal are rude and intrusive.
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1wulan
INFP
Kembar
45
I try not to get too deep in text. My issue is I get excited sometimes and then I want to talk in person too quick. Scared people off. Excitement does not equal desperation.
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1wulan
INFP
Wresaba
Shallow topics to get things started.
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1wulan
INFP
Pises
Deep ones
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1wulan
INFJ
Libra
34
Done with the shallow ones give me something deep.
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1wulan
ISFJ
Skorpio
87
It comes with the usual polite words of greetings, information of whereabouts and some personal details. Embodied with the casual impressions, then asserts whether to continue broaden the conversation, and the rest. I thank you! 😅😉
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