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It's often said that we can only be as accomplished as the people we surround ourselves with, so choosing who we allow into our inner circle is a vitally important decision. It's also no small task, nobody wants to be hurt by someone they can't trust.

The company you keep has been shown to impact your success in everything from hobbies to your career. In this post, I will explore some red flags that point to someone untrustworthy who should be removed from, or not allowed into your inner circle.

1) People Who Disguise Insults as Jokes:

We've all encountered this type of person at one time or another, someone whose jokes suddenly start to seem weirdly personal, if not outright mean. This kind of passive-aggressive behavior, often called "negging" or backhanded compliments, can even become bullying and abuse. Such comments center on a kernel of truth, whether an actual failing or just an insecurity, creating anxiety and self-doubt. Maintain firm boundaries with these individuals and don't let them into your head.

2) People Who Refuse to Take Accountability but Readily Blame You:

Known as "blame-shifting," this behavior can be a form of abuse. Even if it doesn’t rise to that level, it’s unkind and shows a lack of integrity. Being willing to take ownership of mistakes is a fundamental part of maturity, empathy, and good character. Those who consistently refuse to take accountability often exhibit fragile self-esteem and a lack of self-awareness, using blame as a defense mechanism to avoid facing their shortcomings.

3) People Who Say They Want the Best for You but Then Work Against You:

This can take many forms, including open sabotage. More commonly, it’s subtle, such as a friend who says they care but then criticizes your goals. Sincerely caring and criticizing aren’t mutually exclusive, but for your emotional well-being, it’s crucial to be careful about how much you let someone like this in.

4) People Whose Words and Actions Don’t Match:

This major red flag can wreak havoc on relationships of all kinds. While cognitive discrepancy, the tension between opposing ideas or behavior that doesn’t match values, is common, it’s not healthy. When actions and words don’t align, be cautious about how deep you allow the relationship to go.

5) People Who Sow Doubt Under the Guise of Concern:

Similar to those who work against you, these individuals subtly tear down your ideas by highlighting negatives under the guise of concern. The people you trust most should build you up and raise concerns without belittling your plans. If someone can’t strike this balance, it may not be wise to share your deeply held dreams with them.

6) People Who Sabotage You, Then Make Excuses:

These manipulative types are detrimental to have around. Trust your gut; if their excuses don’t add up and it seems like they’re undermining you, they probably are. It's better to keep a suspicious eye on them than to continue giving them the benefit of the doubt. They may sabotage others due to insecurities, low self-esteem, or a need to maintain control, often stemming from past experiences.

By recognizing these red flags, you can protect yourself from forming close ties with individuals who may not have your best interests at heart.

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6 Tell-Tale Signs of People You Can't Trust

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After you’ve spent some time #single, it's common to wonder when it's time to let someone new into your #life. How can you distinguish between protecting your #peace and recognizing that it's time to find your person? I have a perspective that might help clarify this.

Before I share my #thoughts, I did some research to see what others are saying about staying single.

Popular Advice on Staying Single:

1) Stay single until you find someone who puts effort into loving you.
2) Stay single until you meet someone who matches your #loyalty.
3) Stay single until you find someone who adds value to your life.
4) Stay single until you meet someone who genuinely complements your life.

The consensus seems to be about waiting for "someone who" fulfills certain criteria. While it's true that you should hold out for someone who deserves, respects, and understands you, there's a more fundamental question to consider: "Am I ready to no longer be single?"

The Key: Letting Go of Expectations:

1) Let go of #expectations about what dating should look like.
2) Release the notion of a "right" way to #date.
3) Remove preconceived ideas about how you’re supposed to meet someone.
4) Forget about what a first date should entail.
5) Let go of expectations about the early stages of a #relationship.
6) Discard any pressure or checklists for how a relationship should progress.

This doesn’t mean abandoning standards or compatibility, but rather recognizing that there’s no set formula for dating. Stay single until you can approach dating without a predetermined path.

Embracing the Unpredictable Journey

1) Be open to connecting in unexpected ways.
2) Be willing to join paths with someone whose #journey is unlike anything you imagined.
3) Stay single until you realize that expectations of perfection aren’t helpful.
4) Be ready to endure tough times without succumbing to idealistic quotes that suggest you should only reciprocate what's given to you.

Wipe the slate clean of expectations about the "how." Remove expectations for the process.

No Formula for Love

Consider this: there are countless stories of how #love unfolds. Some couples date for years before marrying, only to separate soon after. Others meet unexpectedly, marry quickly, and enjoy lasting #happiness. There is no formula for the "how" of dating:

1) You can meet someone on an app; let go of any stigma.
2) You can meet someone at the gym; embrace the awkwardness.
3) A first date can end with a handshake, a high five, or whatever feels right.
4) First dates can also lead to unexpected connections; if that's what you want.
5) You can connect with someone online and not meet in person for months.
6) Break away from your "type" and give a chance to someone unexpected.

Every person is unique, and so is how connections form. Don't let expectations block potential sparks.

Stay single until you're ready to embrace the unpredictable journey of connecting with others.

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Stay Single Until You're Ready for the Unexpected

Always find myself conflicted on how much to share with people on for instance my idea of family . 
Or someone being interested in me startles me so I feel that I have to react quickly. 
Those two are decent prompts to start with. I’m sure we all have our dues and don’ts. Though, Here’s two prompts to start out.

What helps when meeting new people.  Do’s and Don’t s .

Why is it so hard to meet the right partner?

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It's never too late to become the soul you've 
always dreamed of being.

Your energy is eternal.

You're not here to compete with time. 

You're here to align with your purpose.

The only limit is your mindset, it's your energy 
and your authenticity that defines you.

Your soul doesn't age. It evolves.

So remind yourself...

I wake up everyday with the intention
to express love and gratitude.

I choose to start my day off right with high 
energy and raising my vibration. 

I am prepared to achieve anything I set my 
mind today. 

I am enjoying life for what it is and making the 
best of it.

Your soul is timeless, limitless, and evolving. 

You're not racing against the clock, you're aligning 
with your purpose. 

Let go of doubts and step fully into your power.

The only limits are the ones you place on your 
mind. 

Embrace your energy, honor your authenticity and become the soul you've always dreamed of being.

So let the journey begin now, it's never too 
late to start something new...

The only thing standing between you
and your dreams is the first step. 

Dont wait for the perfect time to create it.

Every moment is an opportunity to realign, to 
evolve and to pursue what sets your soul to keep burning. 

Trust in your energy, believe in your vision and 
move forward boldly. Your journey begins when 
you decide to start... So go ahead, make it
happen.

Keep doing you! Keep going! Simply because
your destined to be at your best and greatest!

Cheers to you! You are awesome!

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KEEP EVOLVING! 
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Always choose to be grateful!

Be thankful for the people who hold you, the 
things that ground you, the moments that teach 
you and the possibilities that guide you.

Gratitude turns every moment into a gift and 
every challenge into growth.

Your soul becomes full.

Gratitude is a powerful force that transforms 
the way you experience life.

It is more than just saying thank you, it is a deep appreciation for the people who support you, the experiences that shape you and the lessons 
that help you grow.

When you cultivate a grateful heart, even life's challenges become stepping stones to wisdom 
and strength. 

Gratitude shifts your mindset, allowing you to
see abundance where others see lack, 
opportunities where others see obstacles and 
beauty in even the smallest moments. 

It grounds you in the present, fills your soul 
with clarity and purpose and opens the doors to 
limitless possibilities.

The more you give thanks, the more blessings 
flow into your life, creating a cycle of positivity, fulfillment and deep inner peace.

So, let gratitude be your guiding light and watch 
how your world transforms with strength, joy
and boundless abundance.

Cheers to you! And thank you for being here!

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GRATEFULNESS SHAPES YOUR 
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Appreciation

Getting older is not for the weak. One day, you wake up and realize that youth is behind you, but with it, insecurities, haste, and the need to please also fade away. 

You walk more slowly, but with greater confidence. You learn to let go without fear and to cherish those who stay.

 Aging is about acceptance; it is discovering that beauty was never in the skin but in the story we carry within us. 

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Life is too short to worry, stress and be at war 
with yourself and others.

Choose kindness, peace, understanding over 
judgment and love over fear.

The love you give yourself today will multiply 
tomorrow.

It will come back stronger brighter and better.

Life is fleeting  and it's all too easy to get 
caught up in worry, stress and conflict...
Both within ourselves and with others.

But you have the power to choose a different 
path. Choose peace over anxiety, understanding 
over judgment and love over fear.

The love and kindness you extend to yourself 
today will ripple outward, returning to you in 
ways you can't imagine. 

When you nurture your heart... You invite 
growth, healing and abundance into your life. 

The love you give yourself now will multiply 
tomorrow, shining brighter and growing 
stronger as you continue to cultivate it.

Choose to embrace the beauty of each 
moment, knowing that by fostering love 
within... You create a life filled with grace, joy
and connection.

So keep going! Keep doing you!

Cheers to you! Thank you for being here!

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CHOOSING PEACE ABOVE 
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Our feelings are valid; accept and 
acknowledge it. Take your time to do the 
“recovery” in your own ways. 💯🫂✨💞

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8 things “I’m tired” can actually mean:

There is a fine line between genuine #care and manipulation. Often, manipulation disguises itself as concern, pushing individuals to make decisions that benefit the manipulator rather than the person being "cared for."

True care is sincere and prioritizes the well-being of others. It guides without hidden motives. Recognizing the difference between these two can be challenging. In this post, I will explore seven phrases that may seem caring at first, but are actually red flags for manipulation.

1) “I’m Only Saying This for Your Own Good”:
This phrase is a classic example of manipulation cloaked as concern. While it appears the speaker is genuinely worried about someone's well-being, it often serves as a means to control decisions or actions. It undermines a person's ability to #trust their judgment, suggesting that ignoring this advice could be detrimental. Genuine care respects autonomy and trusts individuals to make their own decisions.

2) “I Just Don’t Want You to Get Hurt”:
While expressing concern for someone's safety is natural, this phrase can be manipulative when used to disapprove of personal choices. It creates doubt and fear, potentially stifling one's decisions. It's crucial to distinguish between genuine concern and an attempt to control or limit actions.

3) “I’m Just Trying to Help”:
This phrase can be well-intentioned or a subtle manipulation tactic. It's often used when someone intervenes uninvited, trying to "fix" situations without being asked. This behavior can infringe upon personal boundaries, positioning the speaker as a problem-solver rather than genuinely assisting. True help is consensual, not imposed.

4) “Don’t You Trust Me?”:
"Trust" is vital in any #relationship, but this phrase can exploit that trust to manipulate. It shifts focus from the issue at hand to the relationship itself, making one feel guilty for questioning intentions. Genuine trust allows for differences of opinion and healthy discussions.

5) “I’m Worried About You”:
While concern for someone's well-being is natural, this phrase can be manipulative when used to sway decisions. It can create doubt about choices, prioritizing the speaker's comfort over the individual's #confidence. It's essential to trust one's instincts and not let others' fears dictate personal choices.

6) “I Only Want What’s Best for You”:
Though this phrase suggests care, it can be manipulative if used to justify controlling behavior. It may push an agenda that aligns with the speaker's idea of what's best, rather than respecting individual desires. True care supports personal decision-making.

7) “I Did This for You”:
This phrase can be misleading, presenting unsolicited actions as favors. It can make expressing discontent difficult, as it may seem ungrateful. Genuine acts of #kindness respect individual needs and are not imposed without consent.

Final Thoughts

Understanding the difference between genuine care and manipulation requires discernment and trust in one's instincts. Manipulation often involves power dynamics, creating #feelings of guilt or indebtedness. True care is selfless, empowering, and respects autonomy. Recognizing these phrases can help maintain healthy boundaries and #relationships.

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7 Phrases That Sound Caring but Are Actually Signs of Manipulation

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Keep healing, growing, praying and exploring no 
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A brand new chapter filled with love, laughter and abundance.

Saying yes to adventures and fun.

Excelling... Success... And celebrations...

People may or may not like you. But it's
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When you come to a point where you have no 
need to impress anybody, your freedom will 
begin... Your not here to impress anyone anyway!

Growth is painful. Change is painful. 
But nothing is as painful as staying stuck
somewhere you don't belong.

Expecting & accepting are two sides of life. 
Where expecting ends in tears, accepting makes
you cheer. 

Accept life the way it comes. Go with the flow and
live at the moment! 

Life is yours to make! Everything starts within you...
And nothing beats to make your own happiness!

Cheers!

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Did you miss me today?

While you cannot control all of life's 
circumstances, there are some things that 
are within your power.

You can control how you react in this present
moment.

You can control the thoughts you give your
attention to.

You can control the way you treat yourself and
others.

Life may not always go the way you want or
expect, but redirecting your focus to what
empowers you can make all the difference.

Remember... When your heart is happy,
everything is in harmony and everything Is
balanced.

And when your mind is calm, clarity follows,
peace prevails and life flows.

Keep going! Think wisely! Never give up... 

Cheers to you! You are awesome!

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KEEP REDIRECTING YOUR FOCUS...
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psychology

Persuasion and manipulation are often confused, but they are starkly different. While persuasion involves influencing others, manipulation is about #control. Manipulators are so adept that you might not even notice their influence. They don't just seek to sway you; they aim to dominate your decisions, often disguising their true intentions. In this post, I will explore eight behaviors that indicate you might be dealing with a master manipulator.

1) Twisting Words:
A manipulator excels at taking your words and using them against you. They might twist your confidential admissions to guilt-trip you or subtly misrepresent your statements, making you feel wrong. This keeps you on the defensive, constantly questioning your memory and perceptions. If someone frequently distorts your words for their gain, be cautious, they're likely manipulating you.

2) Shifting Blame:
Manipulators have a knack for making everything seem like your fault. Whether it's their failure to reply to a message or their tardiness, they’ll find a way to pin it on you. Initially, you might not notice this pattern, but eventually, you’ll recognize it as more than just poor #communication, it's manipulation.

3) Weaponizing Guilt:
Guilt is a potent tool in a manipulator's arsenal. Instead of directly stating their desires, they make you feel guilty until you offer what they want. By exaggerating their suffering or playing the victim, they exploit our natural desire for social harmony. Soon, you are acting out of guilt rather than choice, precisely what they intend.

4) Using the Silent Treatment:
Rather than addressing issues, manipulators might employ the silent treatment to exert control. They withdraw communication, making you anxious and eager to regain their approval. This tactic is more about power than conflict avoidance, shifting control in their favor and compelling you to apologize unnecessarily.

5) Undermining Your Confidence:
One of the most harmful manipulative tactics is making you doubt yourself. By dismissing your concerns or contradicting your recollections, manipulators slowly erode your #confidence, making you reliant on them for validation. It's crucial to recognize that everyone deserves to #trust their thoughts without manipulation.

6) Insulting Under the Guise of Humor:
Some manipulators hide insults behind #humor, making cutting remarks about your appearance or decisions and brushing it off as a #joke. This tactic makes you question your sensitivity and self-worth, which is precisely their goal. The more insecure you become, the easier you are to control.

7) Breaking Promises:
Manipulators are skilled at making #promises they never intend to keep. They assure change and improvement, only to disappoint repeatedly. They offer excuses and convince you to give them another chance. Genuine commitment is shown through actions, not empty promises.

8) Creating a Sense of Debt:
For manipulators, every action comes with strings attached. They remind you of past favors or sacrifices, creating an unspoken debt. This sense of obligation makes it difficult to refuse their demands, even at your expense.

The Core of Manipulation: Control

Manipulation is often subtle, woven into daily interactions, leaving you feeling uncertain and indebted. Unlike healthy persuasion, which respects autonomy, manipulation undermines it. Recognizing these behaviors is the first step to breaking free. Once you identify manipulation, its #power begins to diminish.

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Recognizing Manipulation: 8 Tell-Tale Behaviors

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No force can separate you from the love, 
strength and purpose meant for you... Not even 
your own doubts. 

The universe is far more mystical, magical, and expansive than we've ever been taught.

When you take your senses beyond the ordinary,
beyond what the eyes can see and the mind 
knows... You step into the realm of limitless 
possibility.

This is where the impossible bends to your belief, 
where vitality surges through you... Like a current 
light and where your very presence uplifts 
those around you.

Too often, we look outside ourselves for
validation, waiting for the right moment or the
right feeling to confirm our worth. But the truth 
is, everything you need is already within you.

Strength doesn't disappear when you struggle,
love doesn't fade when you feel unworthy. 

Even in your lowest moments, you are still whole, 
still capable, still enough. 

The only thing standing in the way is your own 
belief...

Trust that nothing, not fear, not failure, not 
even yourself can take away what's already 
yours. All you have to do is step into it.

The unknown isn't something to fear,
it's where your dreams already exist,
waiting for you to claim them.

So lean in, trust more and allow the energy of
infinite creation to move through you. 

You were never meant to live a small life.

You are here to expand, to soar, and to experience 
the kind of miracles that leave others in awe. 

You are always enough. The only thing left to 
do is believe in yourself and claim what has 
always been yours.

Step boldly! Believe bigger! Your magic is real!

Keep going! Keep believing! Keep doing you! 
And keep being you!

Cheers!

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Happiness is not given.

It is cultivated. It is your responsibility to 
understand yourself, heal and build the habits 
that feel happy and fulfilling.

You are whole and enough!

And joy simply comes from the inner work we 
choose to do.

Always be in a good mood... It's the most amazing choice you will ever make. 

Be oganized, be patient and be at peace with 
yourself. 

Remember peace is the highest perfection! 

Never lose your inner peace for anything or 
anyone.

Why worry? Whatever is meant to be yours will
definitely come around....

Just breathe, relax and simply just smile. 

Now, enjoy this sweet feeling of goodness. 

Life isn't that bad! It's your mind that upsets 
you more than anything. 

Don't sweat with the small stuff. You've got this!

Remind yourself to begin seeing yourself as a 
soul, rather than a body with soul!

As true happiness is built from within... Take the 
time to heal, grow and create the joy you deserve.

We all deserves the best! So, keep being you,
keep going and keep doing you!

Cheers to you wonderful soul!

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IT STARTS WITHIN YOU...
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Who are you waiting for?
Maybe someone, maybe myself.🦋

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6 Tell-Tale Signs of People You Can't Trust

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You vs you 🙂⭐🌼

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Mirrors Reflect, But You Choose the Light People show you parts of yourself you’ve ignored. The ones who drain you? They highlight your need for self-respect. The ones who inspire you? They remind you of your untapped potential. Ask: What am I learning here? Ask: What am I ready to release?

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