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psychoanalysis

is highly recommended if you want to learn more about attachment styles

This book

està molt recomanat si vols aprendre més sobre els estils d'adhesió

Aquest llibre

Exert from a conversation

I wrote a more deliberate version in the comments if you prefer to read

Thoughts on gullibility and manipulation

Extracte d'una conversa

He escrit una versió més deliberada als comentaris si prefereixes llegir

Pensaments sobre la gullibilitat i la manipulació

Libro esencial que viene a saldar parte de la deuda que tenemos con las mujeres en el psicoanálisis

Llibre essencial que ve a saldar part del deute que tenim amb les dones en el psicoanàlisi

No último dia 6 de Maio,nascia uma das personalidades mais brilhantes,originais e geniais da história da humanidade e da psicologia, Sigmund Freud,o homem que desvelou o lado obscuro da mente...... #Psicanálise #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

O pai da ciência que desvendou o lado oculto da psique

El passat dia 6 de maig, naixia una de les personalitats més brillants, originals i genials de la història de la humanitat i de la psicologia, Sigmund Freud, l'home que va desvelar el costat obscur de la ment...... #Psicoanàlisi #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

El pare de la ciència que va desvetllar el costat ocult de la psique

Grandes psicanalistas brasileiros: Christian Dunker

Grans psicoanalistes brasilers: Christian Dunker

If you can't change a situation, change your perception of it. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is.

Si no pots canviar una situació, canvia la teva percepció d'ella. Recorda, la major part del teu estrès prové de la manera com respons, no de com és la vida.

when patients go well, their analysts feels happy. :)

when patients go well…

quan els pacients van bé, els seus analistes se senten feliços. :)

quan els pacients van bé…

infp

Because you in your waking consciousness completely refuse to accept these parts of yourself, they exist in your perception as parts existing only in others. This is why many people have nightmares about ghosts staring at them or chasing them: these are also parts of our selves that we do not want to accept, that are seeking to be seen, understood and accepted by us, and because of our total refusal to accept them, we perceive their presence in our dreams as horror. This is the same reason why many people are afraid of the dark: they always feel that there is something in the dark, staring at them: these so-called "ghosts in the dark" are nothing else but a part of your self that you don't want to accept.

So it is obvious now that you are afraid of them not because they are truly something "scary", but simply because you aren't willing to recognize and accept these parts of yourself, so you "otherize" them completely and subconsciously perceive their constant search for your acceptance as horror.

This is also the root cause of your criticism and condemnation or loathing against any other people: you are actually loathing parts of your self that you don't accept at all, and because you are so completely unwilling to accept or acknowledge that they are in fact part of your self, you subconsciously "otherize" them completely. So in your world, these parts of your self appear as  others that are annoying or scary in your waking life, and as "ghosts" in your dreams. Each of us has been so unwilling to accept many parts of ourselves, and this behavior is completely repressed below the conscious mind, buried in the subconscious, that the collective consciousness of the whole world has co-created all kinds of "ghost" cultures, sayings, stories, fears and everything about ghosts, all over the world.

So what can you do?
One of the things I've learned and found to be very effective is to make a list of the parts of yourself that you do accept. You'd realize that most of these are things that you like about you and others (e.g., kindness, sincerity, politeness, respect for people, respect for rules, intelligence, etc.)  List them all.

Then, the most important step: list the opposites of all those parts. Whether you're willing to accept this or not right now, these opposites are the very parts of yourself that exist in you that you've been in total denial about and unwilling to recognize. They are the "ghosts" you fear in dark places or at night in your bedroom, and "other people" in your life or on the internet that you criticize, condemn and judge. You'll find that the points in your list are the exact very points you loathe in other people. You must remember: everything positive you see in yourself has a negative counterpart that exists equally in you. 

Finally, intend in your mind or say it out loud:
"I fully accept all parts of myself, whatever they may be: when I'm kind and when I am malicious; when I am intelligent and when I am clumsy and blind; when I am polite and when I am vulgar; when I have a unique taste and when I have a lousy taste; when I love some animals and when I dislike them; when I want to help others and when I want to priorize myself; when I obey public order and morals and  when I want to spit and litter and jump in line and fight others and murder; when I want to accept myself and when I can't accept myself; when I am profound and when I am superficial; when I am fit and when I am fat..." etc.

Acceptance of all that is possible and impossible in your entirety, which is, one hundred percent unconditional acceptance of yourself. This is the prerequisite for love, or actually - love itself. You have taken an extremely important step by simply being willing to do this. You have to do it. You have no choice. You desire to do it. You've been wanting to do it like crazy, otherwise you wouldn't be afraid of the dark, you wouldn't have nightmares, or you wouldn't keep encountering annoying people and things that you loathe, and you wouldn't feel lonely and feel life is a struggle or see a world in wars. Our selves are always seeking, moment by moment, to be fully seen, understood, fully accepted by us, or - to be loved unconditionally. World peace lies in finally realizing that as humans, everything we have been fighting, hating, criticizing, condemning and wishing to annihilate in others are actually parts of our own selves that we don't want to recognize. You must start with yourself. Unconditional love comes from you.

(You can use the solution based on the same logic for dealing with your nightmares mentioned above: after you wake up, talk to the "ghosts" in your nightmare, and ask what they are and what they are for. Then you need to answer these questions youself. Answer the questions by intuitively writing out the answers, or imagine that you are the ghosts, and answer the questions as them. Imagine that you are now the ghost, facing yourself who's waiting for the answers, what would you want to say? What urgent demands and deep desires you have? You can practice this method also when you are afraid of the dark and "stuff" in the dark, talk to this "stuff" , and imagine that you are this "stuff", and then speak as them. Finally, when you understand what they are and what they want, you have to intend with all your heart: "I accept these parts of myself completely, and I embrace them with open arms and compassion." When you are willing to do so, you have already taken an extremely important step).

It is very shallow and even cruel to see anyone, especially oneself, in a dualistic way (e.g. good and bad, kind and evil, intelligent and stupid, etc.): for example, if you think someone is "kind", when they have to do something that isn't "kind" for reasons that you will never be able to understand because you haven't lived their life, you will instantly loathe them. This is because you have such a shallow, dualistic view of your extremely complex self and the selves of others. How can one ever expect to explain or describe complex and multi-dimensioned selves from the view of 2D? Maybe right here right now you have a sudden urge to condemn others or yourself for shallowness, or maybe now you feel superior to some people? Don't forget that the root cause of any of your non-acceptance, condemnation, or criticizing of anything in other people all lies in your unconscious unwillingness to accept yourself as such, so you subconsciously otherize them, and it's something you do all the time. Maybe you just did it again now. Similarly, when you are afraid of criticisms, judgements and attacks from others, aren't they actually the critisms and judgements that you have been making against yourself all along? Especially when you see yourself in the above-mentioned dualistic view, you are rejecting some parts of yourself all the time: if you think you are "kind", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you believe are not "kind"; if you think you are "generous", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you consider to be "mean"; if you think you are "intelligent", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you think are "stupid", and so on and so forth. All of these "rejections" of yourself are accordingly reflected in your aversion to other people in your life.

When you fully accept all that you are, you will no longer loathe any other person. When you understand yourself completely, you will understand everyone. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love the world unconditionally. World peace doesn't rely on any organization, campaigns, or politicians. Fully and completely, it relies on you. 







#psychology #science #philosophy #worldpeace 
#spirituality #music #writing #infj #idealism #psychoanalysis #enfj #enfp #love

Any parts that you see in others that you criticize and loathe are parts that exist in yourself that you refuse to accept.

Com que tu, en la teva consciència despert, et negues completament a acceptar aquestes parts de tu mateix, existeixen en la teva percepció com a parts que només existeixen en els altres. Aquesta és la raó per la qual moltes persones tenen malsons sobre fantasmes que les miren o les persegueixen: aquestes també són parts del nostre jo que no volem acceptar, que busquen ser vistes, enteses i acceptades per nosaltres, i a causa de la nostra total negativa a acceptar-les, percebem la seva presència en els nostres somnis com a horror. Aquesta és la mateixa raó per la qual moltes persones tenen por de la foscor: sempre senten que hi ha alguna cosa a la foscor, mirant-les: aquests anomenats "fantasmes a la foscor" no són res més que una part del teu jo que no vols acceptar.

Així que ara és obvi que tens por d'ells no perquè siguin realment alguna cosa "esgarrifosa", sinó simplement perquè no estàs disposat a reconèixer i acceptar aquestes parts de tu mateix, així que les "altres" completament i les perceps subconscientment com a una constant recerca de la teva acceptació com a horror.

Aquesta és també la causa arrel de la teva crítica i condemna o odi cap a qualsevol altra persona: en realitat estàs odiant parts del teu jo que no acceptes en absolut, i com que estàs tan completament poc disposat a acceptar o reconèixer que de fet són part del teu jo, les "altres" completament. Així que en el teu món, aquestes parts del teu jo apareixen com a altres que són molestes o esgarrifoses en la teva vida despert, i com a "fantasmes" en els teus somnis. Cadascun de nosaltres ha estat tan poc disposat a acceptar moltes parts de nosaltres mateixos, i aquest comportament està completament retingut per sota de la ment conscient, enterrat en el subconscient, que la consciència col·lectiva de tot el món ha co-creat tot tipus de cultures de "fantasmes", dites, històries, pors i tot sobre fantasmes, arreu del món.

Així que què pots fer?
Una de les coses que he après i que he trobat molt efectives és fer una llista de les parts de tu mateix que acceptes. T'adonaràs que la majoria d'aquestes són coses que t'agraden de tu i dels altres (per exemple, bondat, sinceritat, cortesia, respecte per les persones, respecte per les normes, intel·ligència, etc.) Llista-les totes.

Després, el pas més important: llista els oposats de totes aquestes parts. Tant si estàs disposat a acceptar-ho ara mateix com si no, aquests oposats són les mateixes parts de tu mateix que existeixen en tu que has estat en total negació i poc disposat a reconèixer. Són els "fantasmes" que tems en llocs foscos o a la nit al teu dormitori, i "altres persones" a la teva vida o a internet que critiques, condemnes i jutges. Trobaràs que els punts de la teva llista són els mateixos punts que odies en altres persones. Has de recordar: tot el positiu que veus en tu mateix té un contrapunt negatiu que existeix igualment en tu.

Finalment, intenciona en la teva ment o digues-ho en veu alta:
"Accepto completament totes les parts de mi mateix, siguin quines siguin: quan sóc amable i quan sóc maliciós; quan sóc intel·ligent i quan sóc torpe i cec; quan sóc cortès i quan sóc vulgar; quan tinc un gust únic i quan tinc un gust horrible; quan estimo alguns animals i quan no m'agraden; quan vull ajudar els altres i quan vull prioritzar-me; quan obeeixo l'ordre públic i la moral i quan vull escopir i llençar deixalles i saltar a la cua i lluitar amb altres i assassinar; quan vull acceptar-me i quan no puc acceptar-me; quan sóc profund i quan sóc superficial; quan sóc en forma i quan sóc gras..." etc.

Acceptació de tot el que és possible i impossible en la teva totalitat, que és, un cent per cent d'acceptació incondicional de tu mateix. Aquest és el requisit per a l'amor, o de fet - l'amor mateix. Has pres un pas extrem

Qualsevol part que vegis en els altres que critiques i odies són parts que existeixen en tu mateix que et negues a acceptar.

#movies #films #art #intj #psychoanalysis #psychology #mbti

Fight Club and its moral lesson about the society we live in:

Fight Club i la seva lliçó moral sobre la societat en què vivim:

R.M Drake always says it so well

R.M Drake sempre ho diu tan bé

I think all fields of psychology should be considered when analysing any concept from a psychological prospective, as they can all contribute with truthful information from different angles. I don’t understand where the desire to claim monopoly over psychology as a science by trying to exclude or discredit other fields comes from 🤔😳🥺

Why do some fields of psychology ignore psychoanalysis?

Crec que tots els camps de la psicologia haurien de ser considerats a l'hora d'analitzar qualsevol concepte des d'una perspectiva psicològica, ja que tots poden contribuir amb informació veritable des de diferents angles. No entenc d'on ve el desig de reclamar un monopoli sobre la psicologia com a ciència intentant excloure o desacreditar altres camps 🤔😳🥺

Per què alguns camps de la psicologia ignoren la psicoanàlisi?

Freudians 🍻 🥲🍃

How many of u ..like this !!!

Quants de vosaltres ..us agrada això !!!

#psychology

#psicologia

It's an usual situation that men start thinking In working 25/8 :) for free...

Why do people think we are working on dates?

És una situació habitual que els homes comencin a pensar en treballar 25/8 :) de franc...

Per què la gent pensa que estem treballant en dates?

Donald Winnicott

"Your anger is part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that loves you, " and this hits different. I totally agree because our anger is a response to something that we don't want, and we know that we don't deserve it. It's toxic sometimes if we perceives but if we try to understand it, anger is self-love. You are disagreeing on something that you knew you don't deserve.

I never understood my anger until i saw this quote:

"La teva ira és una part de tu que sap que el teu maltractament i abús són inacceptables. La teva ira sap que mereixes ser tractat bé i amb amabilitat. La teva ira és una part de tu que t'estima," i això impacta diferent. Estic totalment d'acord perquè la nostra ira és una resposta a alguna cosa que no volem, i sabem que no ho mereixem. És tòxica a vegades si la percebem, però si intentem entendre-la, la ira és amor propi. Estàs en desacord amb alguna cosa que sabies que no mereixes.

Mai vaig entendre la meva ira fins que vaig veure aquesta cita:

Its co-relation of mental processes and behaviour associated

Its studying the inside you to cultivate the best from within you

Many definitions come up when we describe something or some branch of science but exactly what.according to you matches best of the options below

What do you think is psychology?

La seva correlació dels processos mentals i el comportament associat

Estudiar l'interior de tu mateix per cultivar el millor de dins teu

Moltes definicions apareixen quan descrivim alguna cosa o alguna branca de la ciència, però exactament què, segons tu, s'ajusta millor a les opcions a continuació

Què penses que és la psicologia?

Anyone who says otherwise is coping (fake) and dont know what it actually is (fake)

Psychology is fake

Qualsevol que digui el contrari està coping (fals) i no sap què és realment (fals)

La psicologia és falsa

What color would you wear on a first date?

Quin color portaries en una primera cita?

"You say you love rain, but you open your umbrella.

You say you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot.

You say you love wind, but close your windows.

This is why I am afraid when you say you love me."

"Dius que estimes la pluja, però obres el teu paraigua.

Dius que estimes el sol, però trobes un lloc a l'ombra.

Dius que estimes el vent, però tanques les finestres.

Per això tinc por quan dius que m'estimes."

Tell me your last wacky dream.

Explica'm el teu últim somni boig.

Una comunitat de Boo per conèixer gent interessada en Psychoanalysis.

Comunitat Psychoanalysis

Aquest llibre

Pensaments sobre la gullibilitat i la manipulació

Llibre essencial que ve a saldar part del deute que tenim amb les dones en el psicoanàlisi

El pare de la ciència que va desvetllar el costat ocult de la psique

Grans psicoanalistes brasilers: Christian Dunker

Si no pots canviar una situació, canvia la teva percepció d'ella. Recorda, la major part del teu estrès prové de la manera com respons, no de com és la vida.

Des de Freud va robar el terme psicoanàlisi..

Tigger era i és el meu favorit

"Constel·lació": una sèrie de ciència-ficció sobre el gaslighting i les relacions entre mares i filles

Estic trist per la quantitat de pseudociència que circula per la psicologia en aquesta aplicació

La meva biblioteca

Sigmund Freud