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Psychology

Psychoanalysis

psychoanalysis

is highly recommended if you want to learn more about attachment styles

This book

anbefales varmt, hvis du vil lære mere om tilknytningsstile

Denne bog

Exert from a conversation

I wrote a more deliberate version in the comments if you prefer to read

Thoughts on gullibility and manipulation

Uddrag fra en samtale

Jeg skrev en mere gennemarbejdet version i kommentarerne, hvis du foretrækker at læse

Tankerne om godtroenhed og manipulation

Libro esencial que viene a saldar parte de la deuda que tenemos con las mujeres en el psicoanálisis

Vigtig bog der kommer for at indfri en del af den gæld, vi har til kvinder inden for psykoanalysen

No último dia 6 de Maio,nascia uma das personalidades mais brilhantes,originais e geniais da história da humanidade e da psicologia, Sigmund Freud,o homem que desvelou o lado obscuro da mente...... #Psicanálise #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

O pai da ciência que desvendou o lado oculto da psique

Den 6. maj blev en af de mest strålende, originale og geniale personligheder i menneskehedens og psykologiens historie født, Sigmund Freud, manden der afdækkede sindets mørke side...... #Psykoanalyse #Freud #Id #Ego #SuperEgo

Faderen til videnskaben, der afdækkede den skjulte side af psyken

Grandes psicanalistas brasileiros: Christian Dunker

Store brasilianske psykoanalytikere: Christian Dunker

If you can't change a situation, change your perception of it. Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is.

Hvis du ikke kan ændre en situation, så ændr din opfattelse af den. Husk, at det meste af din stress kommer fra den måde, du reagerer på, ikke fra den måde, livet er.

when patients go well, their analysts feels happy. :)

when patients go well…

når patienter har det godt, føler deres analytikere sig glade. :)

når patienter har det godt…

infp

Because you in your waking consciousness completely refuse to accept these parts of yourself, they exist in your perception as parts existing only in others. This is why many people have nightmares about ghosts staring at them or chasing them: these are also parts of our selves that we do not want to accept, that are seeking to be seen, understood and accepted by us, and because of our total refusal to accept them, we perceive their presence in our dreams as horror. This is the same reason why many people are afraid of the dark: they always feel that there is something in the dark, staring at them: these so-called "ghosts in the dark" are nothing else but a part of your self that you don't want to accept.

So it is obvious now that you are afraid of them not because they are truly something "scary", but simply because you aren't willing to recognize and accept these parts of yourself, so you "otherize" them completely and subconsciously perceive their constant search for your acceptance as horror.

This is also the root cause of your criticism and condemnation or loathing against any other people: you are actually loathing parts of your self that you don't accept at all, and because you are so completely unwilling to accept or acknowledge that they are in fact part of your self, you subconsciously "otherize" them completely. So in your world, these parts of your self appear as  others that are annoying or scary in your waking life, and as "ghosts" in your dreams. Each of us has been so unwilling to accept many parts of ourselves, and this behavior is completely repressed below the conscious mind, buried in the subconscious, that the collective consciousness of the whole world has co-created all kinds of "ghost" cultures, sayings, stories, fears and everything about ghosts, all over the world.

So what can you do?
One of the things I've learned and found to be very effective is to make a list of the parts of yourself that you do accept. You'd realize that most of these are things that you like about you and others (e.g., kindness, sincerity, politeness, respect for people, respect for rules, intelligence, etc.)  List them all.

Then, the most important step: list the opposites of all those parts. Whether you're willing to accept this or not right now, these opposites are the very parts of yourself that exist in you that you've been in total denial about and unwilling to recognize. They are the "ghosts" you fear in dark places or at night in your bedroom, and "other people" in your life or on the internet that you criticize, condemn and judge. You'll find that the points in your list are the exact very points you loathe in other people. You must remember: everything positive you see in yourself has a negative counterpart that exists equally in you. 

Finally, intend in your mind or say it out loud:
"I fully accept all parts of myself, whatever they may be: when I'm kind and when I am malicious; when I am intelligent and when I am clumsy and blind; when I am polite and when I am vulgar; when I have a unique taste and when I have a lousy taste; when I love some animals and when I dislike them; when I want to help others and when I want to priorize myself; when I obey public order and morals and  when I want to spit and litter and jump in line and fight others and murder; when I want to accept myself and when I can't accept myself; when I am profound and when I am superficial; when I am fit and when I am fat..." etc.

Acceptance of all that is possible and impossible in your entirety, which is, one hundred percent unconditional acceptance of yourself. This is the prerequisite for love, or actually - love itself. You have taken an extremely important step by simply being willing to do this. You have to do it. You have no choice. You desire to do it. You've been wanting to do it like crazy, otherwise you wouldn't be afraid of the dark, you wouldn't have nightmares, or you wouldn't keep encountering annoying people and things that you loathe, and you wouldn't feel lonely and feel life is a struggle or see a world in wars. Our selves are always seeking, moment by moment, to be fully seen, understood, fully accepted by us, or - to be loved unconditionally. World peace lies in finally realizing that as humans, everything we have been fighting, hating, criticizing, condemning and wishing to annihilate in others are actually parts of our own selves that we don't want to recognize. You must start with yourself. Unconditional love comes from you.

(You can use the solution based on the same logic for dealing with your nightmares mentioned above: after you wake up, talk to the "ghosts" in your nightmare, and ask what they are and what they are for. Then you need to answer these questions youself. Answer the questions by intuitively writing out the answers, or imagine that you are the ghosts, and answer the questions as them. Imagine that you are now the ghost, facing yourself who's waiting for the answers, what would you want to say? What urgent demands and deep desires you have? You can practice this method also when you are afraid of the dark and "stuff" in the dark, talk to this "stuff" , and imagine that you are this "stuff", and then speak as them. Finally, when you understand what they are and what they want, you have to intend with all your heart: "I accept these parts of myself completely, and I embrace them with open arms and compassion." When you are willing to do so, you have already taken an extremely important step).

It is very shallow and even cruel to see anyone, especially oneself, in a dualistic way (e.g. good and bad, kind and evil, intelligent and stupid, etc.): for example, if you think someone is "kind", when they have to do something that isn't "kind" for reasons that you will never be able to understand because you haven't lived their life, you will instantly loathe them. This is because you have such a shallow, dualistic view of your extremely complex self and the selves of others. How can one ever expect to explain or describe complex and multi-dimensioned selves from the view of 2D? Maybe right here right now you have a sudden urge to condemn others or yourself for shallowness, or maybe now you feel superior to some people? Don't forget that the root cause of any of your non-acceptance, condemnation, or criticizing of anything in other people all lies in your unconscious unwillingness to accept yourself as such, so you subconsciously otherize them, and it's something you do all the time. Maybe you just did it again now. Similarly, when you are afraid of criticisms, judgements and attacks from others, aren't they actually the critisms and judgements that you have been making against yourself all along? Especially when you see yourself in the above-mentioned dualistic view, you are rejecting some parts of yourself all the time: if you think you are "kind", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you believe are not "kind"; if you think you are "generous", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you consider to be "mean"; if you think you are "intelligent", you are rejecting the parts of yourself that you think are "stupid", and so on and so forth. All of these "rejections" of yourself are accordingly reflected in your aversion to other people in your life.

When you fully accept all that you are, you will no longer loathe any other person. When you understand yourself completely, you will understand everyone. When you love yourself unconditionally, you will love the world unconditionally. World peace doesn't rely on any organization, campaigns, or politicians. Fully and completely, it relies on you. 







#psychology #science #philosophy #worldpeace 
#spirituality #music #writing #infj #idealism #psychoanalysis #enfj #enfp #love

Any parts that you see in others that you criticize and loathe are parts that exist in yourself that you refuse to accept.

Fordi du i din vågne bevidsthed fuldstændig nægter at acceptere disse dele af dig selv, eksisterer de i din opfattelse som dele, der kun eksisterer i andre. Dette er grunden til, at mange mennesker har mareridt om spøgelser, der stirrer på dem eller forfølger dem: disse er også dele af os selv, som vi ikke ønsker at acceptere, som søger at blive set, forstået og accepteret af os, og på grund af vores totale afvisning af at acceptere dem, opfatter vi deres tilstedeværelse i vores drømme som rædsel. Dette er den samme grund til, at mange mennesker er bange for mørket: de føler altid, at der er noget i mørket, der stirrer på dem: disse såkaldte "spøgelser i mørket" er intet andet end en del af dit selv, som du ikke ønsker at acceptere.

Så det er nu åbenlyst, at du er bange for dem, ikke fordi de virkelig er noget "skræmmende", men simpelthen fordi du ikke er villig til at anerkende og acceptere disse dele af dig selv, så du "andreiser" dem fuldstændigt og ubevidst opfatter deres konstante søgen efter din accept som rædsel.

Dette er også den grundlæggende årsag til din kritik og fordømmelse eller afsky mod andre mennesker: du afskyr faktisk dele af dit selv, som du slet ikke accepterer, og fordi du er så fuldstændig uvillig til at acceptere eller anerkende, at de faktisk er en del af dit selv, "andreiser" du dem ubevidst fuldstændigt. Så i din verden fremstår disse dele af dit selv som andre, der er irriterende eller skræmmende i dit vågne liv, og som "spøgelser" i dine drømme. Hver af os har været så uvillig til at acceptere mange dele af os selv, og denne adfærd er fuldstændig undertrykt under den bevidste sind, begravet i det ubevidste, at den kollektive bevidsthed i hele verden har co-skabt alle slags "spøgelseskulturer", udsagn, historier, frygt og alt om spøgelser, over hele verden.

Så hvad kan du gøre?
En af de ting, jeg har lært og fundet meget effektivt, er at lave en liste over de dele af dig selv, som du accepterer. Du vil indse, at de fleste af disse er ting, du kan lide ved dig selv og andre (f.eks. venlighed, oprigtighed, høflighed, respekt for mennesker, respekt for regler, intelligens osv.)  Skriv dem alle ned.

Derefter, det vigtigste skridt: skriv modsat af alle disse dele. Uanset om du er villig til at acceptere dette eller ej lige nu, er disse modsætninger de præcise dele af dig selv, der eksisterer i dig, som du har været i total benægtelse om og uvillig til at anerkende. De er de "spøgelser", du frygter i mørke steder eller om natten i dit soveværelse, og "andre mennesker" i dit liv eller på internettet, som du kritiserer, fordømmer og dømmer. Du vil opdage, at punkterne på din liste er de præcise punkter, du afskyr i andre mennesker. Du må huske: alt positivt, du ser i dig selv, har en negativ modpart, der eksisterer ligeligt i dig.

Endelig, intentionér i dit sind eller sig det højt:
"Jeg accepterer fuldt ud alle dele af mig selv, uanset hvad de måtte være: når jeg er venlig, og når jeg er ondskabsfuld; når jeg er intelligent, og når jeg er klodset og blind; når jeg er høflig, og når jeg er vulgær; når jeg har en unik smag, og når jeg har en dårlig smag; når jeg elsker nogle dyr, og når jeg ikke kan lide dem; når jeg vil hjælpe andre, og når jeg vil prioritere mig selv; når jeg adlyder offentlig orden og moral, og når jeg vil spytte og smide affald og springe i køen og kæmpe med andre og myrde; når jeg vil acceptere mig selv, og når jeg ikke kan acceptere mig selv; når jeg er dyb, og

Enhver del, du ser i andre, som du kritiserer og afskyr, er dele, der eksisterer i dig selv, som du nægter at acceptere.

#movies #films #art #intj #psychoanalysis #psychology #mbti

Fight Club and its moral lesson about the society we live in:

Fight Club og dens moralske lektion om det samfund, vi lever i:

R.M Drake always says it so well

R.M Drake siger altid det så godt

I think all fields of psychology should be considered when analysing any concept from a psychological prospective, as they can all contribute with truthful information from different angles. I don’t understand where the desire to claim monopoly over psychology as a science by trying to exclude or discredit other fields comes from 🤔😳🥺

Why do some fields of psychology ignore psychoanalysis?

Jeg mener, at alle felter inden for psykologi bør overvejes, når man analyserer et koncept fra et psykologisk perspektiv, da de alle kan bidrage med sandfærdige oplysninger fra forskellige vinkler. Jeg forstår ikke, hvor ønsket om at påstå monopol over psykologi som videnskab ved at forsøge at udelukke eller miskreditere andre felter kommer fra 🤔😳🥺

Hvorfor ignorerer nogle felter inden for psykologi psykoanalysen?

Freudians 🍻 🥲🍃

Freudianere 🍻 🥲🍃

How many of u ..like this !!!

Hvor mange af jer ..kan lide dette !!!

#psychology

#psykologi

It's an usual situation that men start thinking In working 25/8 :) for free...

Why do people think we are working on dates?

Det er en almindelig situation, at mænd begynder at tænke på at arbejde 25/8 :) gratis...

Hvorfor tror folk, at vi arbejder med datoer?

Donald Winnicott

"Your anger is part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that loves you, " and this hits different. I totally agree because our anger is a response to something that we don't want, and we know that we don't deserve it. It's toxic sometimes if we perceives but if we try to understand it, anger is self-love. You are disagreeing on something that you knew you don't deserve.

I never understood my anger until i saw this quote:

"Din vrede er en del af dig, der ved, at din mishandling og misbrug er uacceptabelt. Din vrede ved, at du fortjener at blive behandlet godt og med venlighed. Din vrede er en del af dig, der elsker dig," og dette rammer anderledes. Jeg er helt enig, fordi vores vrede er en reaktion på noget, vi ikke ønsker, og vi ved, at vi ikke fortjener det. Det er nogle gange giftigt, hvis vi opfatter det, men hvis vi prøver at forstå det, er vrede selvkærlighed. Du er uenig i noget, som du vidste, at du ikke fortjener.

Jeg forstod aldrig min vrede, før jeg så dette citat:

Its co-relation of mental processes and behaviour associated

Its studying the inside you to cultivate the best from within you

Many definitions come up when we describe something or some branch of science but exactly what.according to you matches best of the options below

What do you think is psychology?

Det er sammenhængen mellem mentale processer og adfærd

Det handler om at studere det indre i dig for at dyrke det bedste fra dig

Mange definitioner dukker op, når vi beskriver noget eller en gren af videnskaben, men hvad passer ifølge dig bedst til de muligheder nedenfor

Hvad mener du er psykologi?

Anyone who says otherwise is coping (fake) and dont know what it actually is (fake)

Psychology is fake

Enhver der siger andet, er i benægtelse (falsk) og ved ikke hvad det faktisk er (falsk)

Psykologi er falsk

What color would you wear on a first date?

Hvilken farve ville du have på til en første date?

"You say you love rain, but you open your umbrella.

You say you love the sun, but you find a shadow spot.

You say you love wind, but close your windows.

This is why I am afraid when you say you love me."

"Du siger, du elsker regn, men du åbner din paraply.

Du siger, du elsker solen, men du finder et skyggefuldt sted.

Du siger, du elsker vinden, men lukker dine vinduer.

Det er derfor, jeg er bange, når du siger, du elsker mig."

Tell me your last wacky dream.

Fortæl mig om din sidste skøre drøm.

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Denne bog

Tankerne om godtroenhed og manipulation

Vigtig bog der kommer for at indfri en del af den gæld, vi har til kvinder inden for psykoanalysen

Faderen til videnskaben, der afdækkede den skjulte side af psyken

Store brasilianske psykoanalytikere: Christian Dunker

Hvis du ikke kan ændre en situation, så ændr din opfattelse af den. Husk, at det meste af din stress kommer fra den måde, du reagerer på, ikke fra den måde, livet er.

Siden Freud stjal termen psykoanalyse..

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"Konstellation": en sci-fi serie om gaslighting og mor-datter forhold

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